u/Guilty_Strawberry211

I always get categorized as an ENFJ when I take online tests but in life I identify so hard with ENTJ movie characters as my true self and all my friends are almost always ENTJs I get along best with them. I feel like a imposter as a ENFJ like the real me is a ENTJ…if that makes sense.

Anyone else feel like that?

I’ve been seeing 111 almost everyday for the past year and a half. And no not 1111 but three 1’s specifically.

This is the weirdest part around the same time this started I met someone through work which Ive really gotten close to and his birthday is Nov 1 = which is 111 which freaked me out. 😅 I don’t know if any of it is a coincidence or if it means this is a pivotal time in my life ?

I’m overwhelmed with joy right now would like to share how my toxic coworker finally got caught and exposed. And would like to say if you are also dealing with a toxic manipulative nightmare of a human have some patience and they will tell on themselves.

Context: I have been working at my job for a little over 1 year. I have a coworker on our team who is extremely manipulative, insecure, negative and just a total nightmare. He was initially supposed to be the person who “trains” me, he barely did. Thankfully I have a lot of experience in my field and was able to figure things out. This is what I believe initiated my toxic coworker to begin targeting me and since my work spoke for itself, he began bad mouthing me to my manager and setting unrealistic expectations and nitpicking or changing goal post. I will also like to add this guy has no life outside of work, yet He talks trash about the owner and company constantly and openly. Boosts about himself, keeps his own work super secretive but is nosy and talks endlessly about importance of “team work” yet never being a team player himself. He tried everything in his power to isolate me from my manager and coworkers, go on a smear campaign to undermine my work, manipulate his way into the work I was doing, move the goal post, gaslight and straight up bully me. Even in teams meetings calling my questions “dumb” or “irrelevant” and constant undermining my work. I’ve been gracious for over a year and never confronted him directly because I realized quickly he was not rational or logical person. I finally exposed this pos on Friday and I did it by being best friends with HR for the past year and documenting his aggressive remarks and emails. I told HR all the patterns of behavior and targeting towards me specifically with proof. The email he sent Friday was basically nail in his coffin as it had most of my team members in the email and it was clear example of how he targeted me. At this point I’m old enough of a employee that my manager and her manager recognize and trust my work and his bad mouthing doesn’t work anymore Nd on top of that he made an ass out of himself and got himself in trouble. They told him the next time he pulls something like this there will be consequences.

Be patient , gracious and never take these peoples bait ! That is what they want to muddy the waters. these people expose themselves.