u/Hairy-Midnight-8069

Hey everyone!

I got the call today that I was accepted off the waitlist at DUQCOM. This had been my top school after all my interviews and I am honestly still processing it because this journey to medical school has been a long one for me.

The more I’ve learned about the school, the more excited I’ve become. Pittsburgh seems like an incredible city to train in with a ton of medical opportunities nearby, and I was really impressed by the facilities, anatomy resources, and overall environment.

One thing that also meant a lot to me was the school moving the start date earlier so students could be grandfathered into Grad PLUS loans. That’s honestly huge for me financially and made me feel like the administration genuinely cares about supporting students long term.

I’m definitely excited and committed to attending, I’m mostly just looking for advice/input from current students so I can prepare as best as possible before starting.

A couple things I’m a little nervous about:
- the curriculum not being pass/fail and whether that has affected collaboration between students at all

- the quick turnaround with starting in June and moving/getting settled so fast

One of the things I value most is being around supportive people who help each other succeed, so I’d especially love honest input on the overall culture/class environment.

Anything you wish you knew before starting?

Any advice for incoming students?

Really excited for this next chapter and I appreciate any insight.

TL;DR:

Got off the waitlist at DUQCOM today and will be attending this June. Really excited about Pittsburgh, the facilities/opportunities, and the school securing Grad PLUS eligibility for students. Just looking for honest advice/input from current students so I can prepare as best as possible before starting, especially regarding the graded curriculum and student culture.

Should I reach out to my ex for closure after a year, or leave it alone?

I’ve been going back and forth on this for a while and wanted some outside perspective.

My ex and I dated for almost 3 years. A little over a year ago, she broke up with me out of the blue over text, no real argument or buildup, just a random Tuesday. The reason she gave was that she couldn’t be in a serious relationship anymore, and she told me I was the best man she’s ever known. I didn’t argue with her at all and just respected her space. I never saw her again after that, and we never had a real conversation about it.

Since then, I’ve changed a lot. I’ve lost weight, gotten into medical school, started therapy, picked up new hobbies, spent more time with friends, and overall just worked a lot on myself. I feel like I’m in a completely different place than I was back then, and I’m sure she’s grown too.

The only contact we’ve had since the breakup has been minimal. She’s liked some of my stories and TikTok reposts here and there, and she did reach out to congratulate me when I got into medical school. Her mom also reached out, which was nice.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about whether I should reach out to her and ask to have a conversation for closure. There are still questions I never got answers to, especially about why things ended the way they did and why it happened so abruptly.

At the same time, therapy has helped me realize something important: I don’t want to be in a position where I’m basically asking or “begging” someone to give me closure. I’ve been trying to challenge myself to grow past needing that conversation and find closure internally instead.

But I won’t lie, some days I still miss her, and some days it feels like having that conversation could help me fully move on. Other days, I feel like it could just reopen things, give me more questions instead of answers, or undo some of the progress I’ve made this past year.

For people who’ve been in similar situations, did reaching out actually help, or did it just make things more complicated? I guess I’m trying to figure out if wanting closure is actually about closure, or if it’s just me not fully letting go.

TL;DR:
Dated my ex for 3 years, she broke up with me out of the blue over text saying she couldn’t be in a serious relationship but that I was the best man she’s ever known. I respected it and we haven’t had a real conversation since. A year later, after a lot of personal growth, I’m debating whether to reach out for closure or leave it alone and keep moving forward.

I’ve been going back and forth on this for a while and wanted some outside perspective.

My ex (25 F) and I (24 M) dated for almost 3 years. A little over a year ago, she broke up with me out of the blue over text, no real argument or buildup, just a random Tuesday. The reason she gave was that she couldn’t be in a serious relationship anymore, and she told me I was the best man she’s ever known. I didn’t argue with her at all and just respected her space. I never saw her again after that, and we never had a real conversation about it.

Since then, I’ve changed a lot. I’ve lost weight, gotten into medical school, started therapy, picked up new hobbies, spent more time with friends, and overall just worked a lot on myself. I feel like I’m in a completely different place than I was back then, and I’m sure she’s grown too.

The only contact we’ve had since the breakup has been minimal. She’s liked some of my stories and TikTok reposts here and there, and she did reach out to congratulate me when I got into medical school. Her mom also reached out, which was nice.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about whether I should reach out to her and ask to have a conversation for closure. There are still questions I never got answers to, especially about why things ended the way they did and why it happened so abruptly.

At the same time, therapy has helped me realize something important: I don’t want to be in a position where I’m basically asking or “begging” someone to give me closure. I’ve been trying to challenge myself to grow past needing that conversation and find closure internally instead.

But I won’t lie, some days I still miss her, and some days it feels like having that conversation could help me fully move on. Other days, I feel like it could just reopen things, give me more questions instead of answers, or undo some of the progress I’ve made this past year.

For people who’ve been in similar situations, did reaching out actually help, or did it just make things more complicated? I guess I’m trying to figure out if wanting closure is actually about closure, or if it’s just me not fully letting go.

TL;DR:
Dated my ex for 3 years, she broke up with me out of the blue over text saying she couldn’t be in a serious relationship but that I was the best man she’s ever known. I respected it and we haven’t had a real conversation since. A year later, after a lot of personal growth, I’m debating whether to reach out for closure or leave it alone and keep moving forward.