u/Harbinger_Archangel

I am 18. My mother is no longer in the picture, and my dad is from Bulgaria.

I would NOT recommend having a Slavic father. They’re a special breed. For example:

1- I have insomnia due to lots of work, bad mindsets, and a few unknown qualities. I told my dad when he noticed I was extremely out of it, and he asked me “why don’t you just go to sleep?” IM TRYING, BUT I WOULDNT HAHE THIS PROBLEM IF IT WERE THAT SINPLE

2- being a freshman in college sucks. I have a 3.78 gpa and my dad gets angry and me for not having “at least a 3.95”. I swear he pulled it out of his ass, as there’s literally nothing that a 3.95 will get me. I did have a bit of a bad quarter but that’s normal

3- he treats my sister and I differently. When she got a boyfriend he was extremely happy for her and was all smiles and roses. When I told him about someone I was starting to date, he made it all about sex and was super weird. He even made some very racist and sexist jokes about that….

4- he brute forces everything. I won’t go into much detail here, but when I was a kid there weren’t any problems he didn’t think he could solve with his fists

5- he’s still locked in crisis mode. he still thinks that depression and altered mind states can be fixed by “picking up a hoe and working all day in a field”. I kid you not, he told me that if I ever got depressed it was because I was being lazy

It’s so tiring. At least my Bulgarian grandma can make me a killer meal (if she isn’t getting on my back about talking with her son/my father)

For context, I (18M) am dating a girl (19F). She is one year ahead of me, and we have had a great time. We hit it out of the ballpark immedietely, and we have a lot in common. that being said, everytime I think about the future, I don't see myself marrying her. I don't know quite how to explain it, but I just don't think we should be together forever. I still date her and we still have fun, but I have to wonder: am I missing something?

We do all the things normal couples do, but I am worried that I’m playing her somehow, or that I’m doing something scummy. We’re both young and in college, so I don’t have the experience to know. In my past relationships I could always see a future with them

AITA for joining a christian group at my college and hiding the fact that I'm an athiest?

For context, I am an athiest. I don't disrespect any religions, and as such, decided it might be a good idea to reach out and learn more about them. Just because I don't subscribe to their beliefs doesn't mean that I have to be ignorant about them. Unfortunately, given that I am in central America, the only group on campus that I could join was a christian bible study / book club. I have a close friend who is a christian, and I was able to connect with them via him. he knows I am an athiest (as we have had many long conversations sharing beliefs and viewpoints on certain topics). I don't think he told anyone that I was an athiest, which is starting to make me nervous. I don't exaclty pariticpate much. I'm friendly enough when appraoched, but I just don't know how they think yet, so I'm staying quiet as to not sound like a complete idiot.

For context, The larger christian community at my college has a bunch of smaller groups that meet up individually based on their availabilities. I am a part of a group that, including me, has about 7 people. I know my close friend and one other person in it. There are group activiites (like fish volleyball (haven't figured out what that is yet) and church visits every sunday and wednesday. I haven't gone to any of those, but I did give a few people rides when they needed them over a break we had. The thought that I was in the wrong came up because recently one of the members (one of the leaders) invited me to lunch this week. It was a bit out of the blue, and he had to get my phone number from my close friend, but I agreed. I'm very nervous about it, and I'm not sure if I should tell them that I'm an athiest or even be in the group in the first place. Please tell me, AITA?

recently had a bad experience in the car I share with my sister (21F). She technically has ownership of the car, and uses it more than I do. I was driving to visit a different college for a competition and blew a tire. It was a whole ordeal, but I was able to rely on the spare until I could save myself at a walmart, where I replaced all of the tires since they were almost gone anyways. when I was on brek with her and our dad, he told her to go back and go to an autorepair store to get a new spare, since we had to get rid of the old one. She nodded and said she would, so I assumed that was the end of it.

Fast forward a few weeks to when our school resumed, and I noticed in her car that the spare was still there, and the hook thing on the bottom of the car that is meant to store the spare was empty. I checked with her and she said that she didn't replace the tire, but refused to elaborate or even just tell me if she had plans (that's normal from her since we hate each other). Fast forwards a few weeks and she still hasn't done anything about it, and i'm starting to get concerned. I had this idea to get the ball rolling by texting my dad something along the lines of "do you still want to replace the tire on the car?". I know that it would likely out my sister and my dad would get mad at her, so WIBTAH for doing so?

Request] How high would the chernobyl initial explosion go if instead of blowing the whole cover off, it was instead just a beam about an atom wide?

Just a shower thought I had while watching the show, so I'm curious.

AITA for practing my (horrendous) piano in a hall I thought was empty at 3 AM?
For context, I am an insomniac, I play/played the piano, and I'm in college. One day I was doing insomniac things when I decided to practice the piano. my college has this really big common building that people use for eating, social stuff, and studying sometimes. Given that it was 3 AM in the middle of the quarter, I didn't see nayone, so I took it as the greenlight to practice. I will admit, it was the first time I had practiced in months, so what was meant to be a soothing song (Passacaglia) turned into what sounded like a cat jumping on the piano. i didn't think it was a problem, since even the cleaning staff had long since left the building. Eventually I go back to my dorm and think nothing of it, even getting a bit of sleep.

the next morning I see that someone on the college discord had made a post compaining about me, even posting a photo of me at the piano and a recording of the awful noises I was inflicting on the piano. they were calling me an asshole for not caring about the people who were resting there, and saying some really hurtful things. I genuinely didn't notice that he was there. He must've been at one of the far away tables studying/sleeping and I woke him up with my piano. While i did try to appolgozie and explain that I didn't realize he was there and even did a quick glance around and didn't see anyone, he didn't relent. So I must ask, AITA for practicing at 3 AM and waking him up?

AITAH for joining a college bible study as an atheist?

Basically I’m a freshman in the US in an engineering college. It’s very small, so community is a big thing. I have this one friend who we’ll call J. He is a devout Christian and is a bit annoying, but still smart and a good person. I asked him if I could join a bible study group , so he brought be along to a group he’s been going to.

I thought that just because i don’t believe in god or Christianiry didn’t mean i had to be ignorsnt about it. I did like Paradise Lost and learning about some aspects, so I thought I might as well give it a shot. So far I’ve only been to 2 meetings, but there have already been problems.

We’re all a bit unfocused (we got a half hour argument about the meaning of fish volleyball for example). I don’t hep this, as I make jokes and rarely say anything else. I’m not insensitive about anything, I just crack jokes when everyone is silent or conversing

This bible study group is the type to go to dinner together before talking about bible versed. There’s a larger group but I don’t do much there. I don’t go to dinner either as I just have a different schedule. After the first meeting one of the guys sent me a message saying that someone wanted to know why I was joining the group, whether I was taking it seriously, and whether or not I would join them in church.

I refused to go to church, mostly because it’s a huge time commitment and I don’t feel comfortable with that. I tried to skirt around the serous points as much as possible, but it didn’t work. I went to the second meeting trying to just stay quiet and observe. That went horribly, as the group leader learned from J that I was an atheist (we had a few long conversations at 3 am where we talked about our world views) and now I wasn’t saying anything. This caused a huge yelling session where I basically became the punching bag for the next hour.

They weren’t happy that I was “making a mockery of their group” and were theorizing that just wanted to have a good laugh, or that it was a joke. I tried to explain to them but they didn’t listen.

Later on J talked to me, and he was asked if I would be willing to leave the group since I was “causing problems”. I decided to decline since I wanted to still learn, but AITA?