u/Haunting_Shape_6085 — reddlx

I was thinking about this yesterday after seeing some reddit comments discussing a woman being a “girl’s girl” or not.

Now I am all for women supporting one another and lifting each other up, however, I’ve realized that I find grown women using labeling themselves or each other as girl’s girls to be performative. I understand the sentiment, but it feels almost childish for a woman beyond 25 to be using this phrase.

I’ve also noticed that a lot of the women saying they’re girl’s girls are in fact some of the meanest women I’ve ever met…OR they used the label to justify a lot of really terrible behavior from other women. While yes, being a woman is hard and I think it’s important for us to stand up for one another, I also think it’s crucial to realize women can be bad people too. I’ve been told “I’m not a girl’s girl” for commenting on other women’s toxic behavior.

I guess this is just a rant, I’m not seeking any sort of advice…but I feel like I can’t be the only one who feels like this? When I’ve brought it up before I’ve been told I don’t support other women, which is not the case at all.

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u/Haunting_Shape_6085 — 15 days ago

▲ 9 r/BabyBumps

I’m 23 weeks today and I know its getting down to the wire on planning to have maternity pics or not and I can’t make up my mind.

If you did a maternity pics, are you glad you did? if you didn’t, do you regret it?

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u/Haunting_Shape_6085 — 24 days ago

▲ 462 r/love

I’m married with a 28yr age gap. I’m 32 and my husband is currently 60.

My husband is my best friend and a true life partner and husband in a sense that is very rare, and I am so thankful I did not listen to anyone who would have dissuaded me from our relationship due to our age difference.

Here are the main things my husband and I have learned since being together:

Love really is love. It doesn’t fit into a box. It doesn’t care what other people think or view as normal. It doesn’t matter if you’re old, young, your gender identity, sexuality, etc, chemistry works in a crazy way and you may find yourself connecting with someone you never imagined you would.
Your partner should be your comfort and your peace - if someone is constantly hurting you or causing you angst, that’s not real love.
You should be together as one against all others. You are a team. It doesn’t matter even if my husband and I don’t necessarily see eye to eye all the time, we will handle those disagreements in private. It doesn’t matter how annoyed, frustrated, tired, or whatever we may be feeling, we will always have one another’s backs and defend each other to strangers, family or friends.
You can’t let fear of people judging you control how you live your life. Yes, the reality is you will be judged - people are going to judge you in life no matter what you do, so the best thing you can do is live your life in a way that fulfills YOU. Your relationship is between you and your S/O. If you bring other people into it by worrying about opinions, it’s a sure fire way to make your relationship fail.
Age really is just a number, my husband is more youthful than people half his age. It only matters as much as you make it matter. Sometimes I talk to people his age or even 5-10 years younger and I’m incredibly shocked because they seem so much older than he does.
The older the people involved are, the less an age gap matters.
Cherish every day you have with someone. Make every single day count. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow.

u/Haunting_Shape_6085 — 28 days ago