u/HauntinglyyFamiliarr

Not provider specific, but I have been consistently applying for jobs for 3 years.
Both online (including all the ai generated interviews, video submitting etc).
I always include cover letters.
I’ve been going out weekly and handing out resumes, I know I could be doing that more frequently.
I am also studying (certificate III in retail) and have been volunteering for over a year and a half because I didn’t previously have retail experience.
My resume has been updated twice by my provider, even though there is nothing new to add or change at this point.
And keep getting pushed to do warehouse or cleaning work, (which I can’t do because of an old shoulder injury) or at home call centre work, which I also can’t do, because I live in a 1 bedroom unit and cannot kid my partner out of the house for hours a day, when he owns the unit.

I’ve had 2 interviews in the last 3 years.

I get that retail is hard to get into.
I get that hundreds/thousands of other people are applying for the same jobs.

I moved from the country to somewhere busier, hoping it would be easier.
I am now engaged to the love of my life and want us to be able to have the future we dream of, but I need a job for that.
I needed a job 3 years ago.

I just don’t know what else I can do at this point.
I am sad and tired and just completely over the constant rejections or no contact at all.

Hi everyone
Our wedding will be in March 2028
Realistically, when should we be looking at booking a celebrant?
Over a year and a half away, so now seems too early, but I am also stressed about finding someone we like and then it being so far away that they back out before the day or leaving it until we can’t find anyone with our date available lol
Help a stressed bride-to-be, out!
Thanks ❤️

Editing to add this here, not just in a comment

-We will be getting married in his mums backyard, with likely under 20 people.
This was discussed with everyone months prior to us even being engaged lol
We will be doing private vows before the ceremony.
Just after something quick and easy. But have no idea how to even start looking for someone

Sometimes you say the dumbest shit without even realising it.
I don’t know what it’s like to spend money on a house and kids and cars?

You do not know my full history. Even my parents don’t know the things I am about to say.
The past is the past, or whatever you said as an excuse to not tell me any details about yours.

But, I do actually know what it’s like to have that kind of money and spend it on those things.
Ricky was an all-round bad relationship. But we were together for years. Every cent I made between 2008 & 2012, was saved. We had a house deposit that mostly came from me. We ended up using it for the house we rented for the last 6 years of our relationship.I brought us a 10k car. That he paid back half for when we broke up, so I could move house and town.

After him, I had my godson for weeks at a time when his dad was out of town for work and his mum was on too many drugs to even remember he existed half the time.
With social workers and children’s services meetings and home inspections. Funnily enough, he also hated vegetables and between him and my brother, that is how I learnt to hide veggies in so many of the things I feed you.

I have had a messy life. Full of fuck ups and loss and for a long time I just hated existing.
But everything I lost, every bad relationship and poor choice, eventually led me to you.
You made me realise that life is actually worth it.

But it sucks that you actually think I have no experience with financial decisions like that, because we’ve never talked about those parts of my life.

Just because I had nothing left when we met, doesn’t mean I didn’t work my ass off for years, and I am doing everything I can to be able have a house and kids with you, one day.

I know I say dumb shit more often than you can handle, but I am so in love with you. Truly, more every day. I have made it abundantly clear what I want for us and how much you mean to me.
But please don’t assume shit about me when you have absolutely no idea what I’ve done in my life and you are the reason we haven’t had these conversations.