21 [m4f] putting it out here :)
Heyy there, so I wanted to create this post since a longggg longgg time, but when I saw the overwhelmingly low responses on every other post over here, I kept deferring my plan, but now here I am.
I am currently pursuing my MBA from a tier-1 IIM in India. I am someone who literally likes to plan everything out. I have planned my life till the age of 40. I have balanced my professional, personal, relationship and social goals with most factors that could come my way. I have at least 3 backup plans for anything professional.
I love interacting with new people who resonate with me on an energy level. For example, I have a few besties who I got a very short time to know completely but it felt as if I had known them since ages. The similarities, the bonding, the friendship with them is for life now. At the same time, there are people in my college who sit next to me in classes whom I don’t actively like to interact with.
Over the years, I have learnt a lot about myself and I feel I am clear on what I expect from my partner in a relationship and what I bring to the table.
What I bring to the table:
- complete emotional safety. if we are together, you don’t need to worry about any other girl in my life. you will have my sole attention, complete care and the copyright to all my time, energy and love.
side note:
the way i choose my female friends is kinda unique. i make the expectations clear from the start, if i am your friend, expect nothing romantic now or ever. if she looks at friendships in the same way, and has similar a level of maturity and understanding, then we can be friends. i prefer clarity in life over hazy relationships/situationships. if we are dating, i will fs tell you about all my friends and if you would like to know anything about them, would be happy to share.
- complete transparency and honesty.
no matter how bitter the truth is, i will always be honest with you about everything, no matter how small the thing is. i will tell you everything i feel and see in any given situation in life from my pov, everything about my days, and anything else you would like to know. I prefer depth and I prefer not having any boundaries in a romantic relationship.
- i will never ghost you or run away if things get tough. i promise you that if we ever disagree on something or are in a conflict, i will never block you or stop texting you. instead, i will try to understand what you said from your perspective given the circumstance and contexts, and i will try to show you the same from my perspective, then we would talk about it maturely and get through it together.
- i am very decisive and i am not afraid of making different or difficult choices in life. i take less than a minute to take any decision. i trust my gut and instincts more than anything else. i feel statistics and data can never accurately capture the essence of any given scenario. there will always be a “black swan”. (reference to “Black Swan” by Nassim Taleb). So, if you’re ever in doubt, it will be my pleasure to help you select any dress you wanna wear, or help you decide what looks good on you and what doesn’t. plus, if you’re in my city and we’re moved in together, you can expect a cup of tea/black coffee/milk/juice/anything you prefer + breakfast at your bed before i wake you up every single day :)
- music is one of the most important aspects of my life. i sing and listen to music which soothes my soul. i might occasionally sing out of love for you, or maybe sing out of the pain or any emotion i feel atm. music is an outlet for me. also, i am more of a in-person interaction and voice/video call (if ldr) person rather than a text person.
- if you’re having a bad day or anything like that, i will be there with you during each and every one of those moments no matter how “small” or “mundane” it might seem. you will have my unconditional support, admiration and love foreverrr.
- i won’t ever mock you, your opinions or perspectives about anything. i will be your safe space, someone you can call home, someone who you can turn up to after a busy tiring day.
- i will occasionally send you reminders for taking deep breaths and smiles anytime randomly during the day.
note: these are the points that came to my mind rn, i will keep on appending the list as edits.
What I expect:
- if you’re someone who is looking for a serious relationship and a long term partner who you are willing to grow old with, you’re the one i am looking for. no matter how tough times might get, we will grow and sustain through them together and be there with each through the good times.
- if you’re communicative about your feelings, perspectives and thoughts, or are willing to vocalise them for me, it would be a huge plus.
- no games or manipulation or lying of any sort.
- exclusivity. i want you justttt for myself. i won’t share you with anyoneee else.
If you resonate with anyyyy of these points, please feel free to DM me.
I have knowingly not mentioned any physical preferences because honestly I don’t care about them.
Thanks for reading my post!! Have a nice weekend ahead :))