u/Hefty-Memory551

My girlfriend [F23] and I [M23] have been dating for about 6 years, since our JR year of high school. Our relationship has been good for the most part just arguments here and there and we definitely have some great times together. My issue is her past though.

I don’t have a past but my girlfriend on the other hand does. She sent nudes to about 7-8 guys and I had to stop communicating with about 4 friends that I had back then because I fear of having to see them in public or having to invite them to our wedding or being invited to anything they were to invite me and her to.

She also told me that she once snuck a guy to her parents house and she claims that they never kissed or anything and she just gave him a massage and she said he left after that which I find hard to believe.

She claims that she never had PIV sex before we got together but she did give oral to a guy in his car about 7-8 times. She said that’s the only guy she did anything sexual with before we got together.

My fear is running into one of those past guys in public since we all are in the same city and went to the same high school, also my fear is them seeing us together on social media. And thinking of what they got from her in the past and the guy knowing that he did stuff with her first. Another fear is just friend in general who went to the same high school as us. A lot of the people that went to the school we went to knows about her past and remembers her past and I fear running into them in public ant they remember what she did back then and looking at me judgmentally.

I just want to know if you guys would have the same fears? If you guys have seen guys from high school date or marry a girl who you know has a lot of baggage, how do you feel towards that guy, and anything I can do to stop these situations from happening?

My girlfriend [F23] and I [M23] have been dating for about 6 years, since our JR year of high school. Our relationship has been good for the most part just arguments here and there and we definitely have some great times together. My issue is her past though.

I don’t have a past but my girlfriend on the other hand does. She sent nudes to about 7-8 guys and I had to stop communicating with about 4 friends that I had back then because I fear of having to see them in public or having to invite them to our wedding or being invited to anything they were to invite me and her to.

She also told me that she once snuck a guy to her parents house and she claims that they never kissed or anything and she just gave him a massage and she said he left after that which I find hard to believe.

She claims that she never had PIV sex before we got together but she did give oral to a guy in his car about 7-8 times. She said that’s the only guy she did anything sexual with before we got together.

The reason that this stuff hurts me is because all of the guys she talked to or hooked up with before me are either A.) skinnier and in better shape than I am. Everyone she did talk to/sent nudes to/hooked up with, we’re well under 200lbs and I’ve been over for a while. I’ve been losing weight currently and I’m getting closer but still ab not as skinny as they were. And B.) it’s now getting harder to believe her with certain things. I will ask her about one of the situations and she will become defensive and not give the full story. She will also say that she “doesn’t remember” certain things and it seems like she is hiding information. She also never says that she regrets it on her own, she only says she regrets it if I ask her if she does. And even then it’s a nonchalant “yea” response and this hurts.

The thing that bothers me is if these guys still have her nudes, if the guys she did send the nudes to have sent them in group chats or their friends. If she in fact did do more with the guy she claims to have “only given a massage” to. And I dread the possibility of running into the guy she hooked up with (or any guy she talked to) in public. I don’t want any of them or anyone from our high school to see us together in person, on social media ever. I don’t want them to see me as her second option or compare me to the guys that she used to talk to.

What do I do to make sure the past guys she’s talked to stays out of our life/her life

My girlfriend [F23] and I [M23] have been dating for about 6 years, since our JR year of high school. Our relationship has been good for the most part just arguments here and there and we definitely have some great times together. My issue is her past though.

I don’t have a past but my girlfriend on the other hand does. She sent nudes to about 7-8 guys and I had to stop communicating with about 4 friends that I had back then because I fear of having to see them in public or having to invite them to our wedding or being invited to anything they were to invite me and her to.

She also told me that she once snuck a guy to her parents house and she claims that they never kissed or anything and she just gave him a massage and she said he left after that which I find hard to believe.

She claims that she never had PIV sex before we got together but she did give oral to a guy in his car about 7-8 times. She said that’s the only guy she did anything sexual with before we got together.

The reason that this stuff hurts me is because all of the guys she talked to or hooked up with before me are either A.) skinnier and in better shape than I am. Everyone she did talk to/sent nudes to/hooked up with, we’re well under 200lbs and I’ve been over for a while. I’ve been losing weight currently and I’m getting closer but still ab not as skinny as they were. And B.) it’s now getting harder to believe her with certain things. I will ask her about one of the situations and she will become defensive and not give the full story. She will also say that she “doesn’t remember” certain things and it seems like she is hiding information. She also never says that she regrets it on her own, she only says she regrets it if I ask her if she does. And even then it’s a nonchalant “yea” response and this hurts.

The thing that bothers me is if these guys still have her nudes, if the guys she did send the nudes to have sent them in group chats or their friends. If she in fact did do more with the guy she claims to have “only given a massage” to. And I dread the possibility of running into the guy she hooked up with (or any guy she talked to) in public. I don’t want any of them or anyone from our high school to see us together in person, on social media ever. I don’t want them to see me as her second option or compare me to the guys that she used to talk to.

I don’t know what to do and I need to know if I am over reacting.