u/HenryEck

Every year that goes by, more and more people ask me if my car is for sale.

I keep it parked outside my house, and every now and then some random guy will knock on my door just to ask if I’d sell it. On the road, I’ll occasionally get another car enthusiast pulling up next to me just to say, “Nice BMW, man.”

I have a pretty toxic relationship with this car though. Sometimes it behaves perfectly and makes me think, “Why would I ever get rid of this thing?” Then, completely out of nowhere, something breaks and I am mad. I fix it, enjoy a few peaceful weeks or months, and then something else decides it wants attention. But honestly, that’s part of owning an E46 at this point.

Never sell your E46. There’s just something special about these cars, and I feel like people are starting to appreciate them more and more as the years go by.
Mine is an Alpine White 330Ci Cabrio with the factory hardtop, btw.

The more I read about history, the more I have started questioning an assumption I used to have about people in the distant past.

I used to instinctively imagine ancient or prehistoric humans as almost fundamentally different kinds of people: more primitive not only technologically, but somehow psychologically as well. However, the more I read about historical societies, the more familiar human behavior seems.

People thousands of years ago appear to have worried about status, relationships, sex, family, property, social acceptance, conflict, jealousy, political power, religion, reputation, and their place in society. They argued, joked, fell in love, betrayed each other, formed alliances, competed for resources, raised families, wondered about the nature of the world, and tried to improve their circumstances.
This has made me wonder whether what has changed most throughout history is not necessarily the human mind itself, but the environment in which that mind operates.

For example, if I had been born 3,000 years ago, obviously I would not be working with computers or thinking about modern careers. Perhaps I would be concerned with agriculture, trade, craftsmanship, warfare, or some other problem relevant to that society. But would my underlying motivations, emotions, social behavior, and capacity for abstract thought have been recognizably similar to what they are today?

How do historians approach this question? Is there evidence that people in ancient or prehistoric societies experienced and understood the world in psychologically very different ways from modern humans, beyond differences caused by culture, education, religion, technology, and social institutions?

And at the extreme end of the question: what can we reasonably say about a Homo sapiens individual from, say, 40,000–50,000 years ago? If an infant from that population could somehow be raised from birth in a modern society, is there evidence that they would differ substantially in cognitive ability or behavior from someone born today, or is that question outside what historical evidence can actually tell us?

I know it’s offtopic but I am genuinely curious. How old are you?

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I’ve been wondering about something that has happened to me more than once.

I went on one date with a girl. It wasn’t amazing, but it was a good date. Since then, she’s continued texting consistently, never ghosts me, and usually asks questions to keep the conversation going.

We planned a second date, but she canceled because she had family responsibilities. I believe that reason was genuine. However, she didn’t suggest another day or mention rescheduling. Since then, her replies have become a bit drier, although she still responds consistently.

When a woman cancels a date without suggesting another one, do most women expect the guy to invite them again? Or is not proposing a new date usually a sign of low interest, meaning it’s better to move on?

From my perspective, if someone cancels, I expect them to take the initiative to reschedule if they’re genuinely interested. But in the past, waiting for that has usually meant I never heard about another date again even when the reason for canceling was legitimate. Ultimately, I end up inviting again and some have accepted.

Should a guy make one more attempt, or is a cancellation without a counteroffer typically a sign to move on?

Yo soy ese wey todólogo que de repente se pone la cachucha de Product Owner, luego de Project Manager, líder técnico genérico, Business Analyst o como le quieran llamar.

Básicamente, soy ese wey que entiende la necesidad del negocio, diseña una solución con base en su experiencia y después coordina lo que sea necesario para sacarla adelante.

Mi flujo siempre había sido bastante sencillo: entender muy bien el proceso y la necesidad de una forma sistemática. Después, con mi experiencia, ya podía determinar qué convenía hacer: implementar alguna aplicación existente, desarrollar algo sencillo o incluso ponerme la gorra de PM para armar un plan, etc.

Uno de mis entregables más comunes eran los famosos documentos de especificaciones. La idea era que después un proveedor, un equipo de desarrollo interno o incluso yo mismo, cuando se trataba de algo sencillo, pudiera hacer el desarrollo.
Con el paso de los años empecé a agarrar bastante experiencia estimando cuánto cotizaban los desarrolladores, cuántas horas les iba a tomar algo dependiendo de la magnitud del proyecto y, claramente, cuánto cobraban, ya fuera que estuvieran contratados directamente o mediante algún proveedor.

El tema es que durante el desarrollo muchas veces había tiempos muertos. Básicamente, esperar a que el desarrollador terminara, aun sabiendo que muchas de esas estimaciones traían colchones bastante amplios.

Sin embargo, puedo confirmar que ahora, gracias a la IA, he logrado reducir esos tiempos de una manera absurda. Literalmente, cosas que antes podían tomar semanas ahora las puedo sacar en unas cuantas horas.

“Pero es que un programador lo va a hacer mejor”.
Pues no, Claude realmente me ha impresionado muchísimo, sobre todo comparándolo con todo lo que he liderado con desarrolladores durante años. Otro tema IMPORTANTISIMO, es que el mayor tiempo de mi uso con la IA ni siquiera es el desarrollo, es lo
mas facil lol; lo complejo es el diseño y el guiar a la IA.

Y claro, si eres un vibecoder que solamente le escribe: “Hazme esto”, obviamente te va a terminar haciendo un desmadre. Pero siguiendo un flujo estructurado, como el que yo ya utilizaba antes como todólogo, sinceramente no encuentro tanta diferencia.

Actualmente tengo toda una estrategia basada en documentos .md con wiki para que la IA siga ciertos lineamientos: arquitectura, seguridad, documentación, modularidad, alcance de cada desarrollo y la manera correcta de interpretar mis especificaciones.

No solamente le pido que haga algo. Primero estructuro el problema, documento la necesidad, defino los límites y después la IA desarrolla sobre eso.
A lo que voy es que, si ya eres un wey ordenado que sabe gestionar tecnología, te vas a empezar a dar cuenta de que los programadores ya no van a existir como antes. OJO: programadores, no ingenieros.

Honestamente, cuando veo las estimaciones que todavía me mandan algunos desarrolladores, me gustaría que ya estuvieran calculadas con base a que se apoyan con IA. Porque hoy por hoy, muchas veces me resulta mucho más eficiente pedírselo directamente a la IA.

Y sí, obviamente he tenido bugs. Pero como toda mi documentación y arquitectura están bastante estructuradas, la verdad es que todo ha escalado sorprendentemente bien.

Has anyone else changed completely the way you work?

All my life now has been starting been organized in .md files.

I figured out that at the beginning, I was asking a lot of questions to AI and and attaching my documents but then all my projects began having a very well thought structure way of crafting and handling context.

Having an entrepreneur journey? I have a master .md with all my trajectory and referencing legal, finance, opportunities, etc.

Work? An .md with my general role, others with organizational staff, projects, activities, budget.

I have agents automating common tasks. I have vibecoded easy apps that simplify my life (eg. personal finance projections). My gym routine is also there.

My life has been extremely more productive. My career has always been about designing systems (I understand code deeply but not a programmer) and since mapping processes and designing system architecture has been my skill, I have been able to leverage these tools so well.

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for advice on how to better describe a role that sits between business, IT, vendors, and technology implementation.

In my company, this role is commonly known as BRM, Business Relationship Manager. Within IT, the term makes sense. However, I’ve noticed that when I introduce myself to business areas, vendors, people from other companies, or even people outside work, the term is not always clear and I usually need to explain what it actually

My challenge is that each one gives a different impression.
BRM / Business Relationship Manager feels accurate within IT, but unclear to many business stakeholders.
IT Business Partner feels more understandable, but sometimes sounds too broad or like an internal account manager.
IT Manager is easy to recognize, but it can sound too generic and may imply support, infrastructure, or people management.

How would you describe this kind of role in a way that is clear for business stakeholders, vendors, other companies, and non-IT audiences?
Would you use BRM, IT Business Partner, IT Manager, or another title/description?
I’m especially interested in wording that feels accurate, clear, and not too generic.

It can be for everything, explaining other areas, LinkedIn, vendors, even friends and family.

I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

My ex girlfriend were together for about 2 years. We got along well in general, but over time we started having recurring differences in things like emotional expression, expectations around marriage, and long-term lifestyle financial views.

About 2 months ago she broke up with me. After that, I respected her decision and went no contact. I didn’t reach out at all and focused on moving forward.

Now, out of nowhere, she sent me a long emotional message.

Before I share it, here is how the breakup happened:

For a few weeks before the breakup, I noticed she was acting distant and cold. I already had a feeling something was off, but I stayed calm and handled things maturely. One day she told me she preferred not to go to a family birthday party and instead wanted to see me. That raised my suspicion, so I asked if we could talk.

During that call, she told me she wasn’t happy with several things in the relationship. It quickly turned into her ending the relationship.

This is her message after 2 months:

“””
Hello, I couldn’t sleep all night thinking about everything. I know you’re probably sleeping and maybe I shouldn’t be sending you this message, but I needed to get this off my chest.

It really hurts me that we never got to end things properly, that everything happened over the phone. I wanted to see you in person and be able to talk about how we felt about everything, because those 2 years were important to me.

It surprised me when you told me to just end things on the call. I guess you didn’t want to waste time, but I had hoped you would come see me in person. I even thought you could use the excuse of returning my charm or that I still have your sweater.

But it didn’t happen… you let me go so easily.

It surprises me how we went from planning a future together to everything ending like this. It hurt that you removed me from Instagram, but it hurts me more that you never looked for me.

I keep thinking about how everything ended and it still doesn’t feel real.
“””

Honestly, I care about being respectful and at least try to respond something but she still gives me vibes that she is angry about how I did not try to fight back the relationship even if I was being the one dumped.

I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

My ex girlfriend were together for about 2 years. We got along well in general, but over time we started having recurring differences in things like emotional expression, expectations around marriage, and long-term lifestyle financial views.

About 2 months ago she broke up with me. After that, I respected her decision and went no contact. I didn’t reach out at all and focused on moving forward.

Now, out of nowhere, she sent me a long emotional message.

Before I share it, here is how the breakup happened:

For a few weeks before the breakup, I noticed she was acting distant and cold. I already had a feeling something was off, but I stayed calm and handled things maturely. One day she told me she preferred not to go to a family birthday party and instead wanted to see me. That raised my suspicion, so I asked if we could talk.

During that call, she told me she wasn’t happy with several things in the relationship. It quickly turned into her ending the relationship.

This is her message after 2 months:

“””
Hello, I couldn’t sleep all night thinking about everything. I know you’re probably sleeping and maybe I shouldn’t be sending you this message, but I needed to get this off my chest.

It really hurts me that we never got to end things properly, that everything happened over the phone. I wanted to see you in person and be able to talk about how we felt about everything, because those 2 years were important to me.

It surprised me when you told me to just end things on the call. I guess you didn’t want to waste time, but I had hoped you would come see me in person. I even thought you could use the excuse of returning my charm or that I still have your sweater.

But it didn’t happen… you let me go so easily.

It surprises me how we went from planning a future together to everything ending like this. It hurt that you removed me from Instagram, but it hurts me more that you never looked for me.

I keep thinking about how everything ended and it still doesn’t feel real.
“””

I already have moved on with my life, dont know if I should I respond or not. Honestly, I care about being respectful and at least try to respond something but she still gives me vibes that she is angry about how I did not try to fight back the relationship even if I was being the one dumped.

I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

My ex girlfriend were together for about 2 years. We got along well in general, but over time we started having recurring differences in things like emotional expression, expectations around marriage, and long-term lifestyle financial views.

About 2 months ago she broke up with me. After that, I respected her decision and went no contact. I didn’t reach out at all and focused on moving forward.

Now, out of nowhere, she sent me a long emotional message.

Before I share it, here is how the breakup happened:

For a few weeks before the breakup, I noticed she was acting distant and cold. I already had a feeling something was off, but I stayed calm and handled things maturely. One day she told me she preferred not to go to a family birthday party and instead wanted to see me. That raised my suspicion, so I asked if we could talk.

During that call, she told me she wasn’t happy with several things in the relationship. It quickly turned into her ending the relationship.

This is her message after 2 months:

“””
Hello, I couldn’t sleep all night thinking about everything. I know you’re probably sleeping and maybe I shouldn’t be sending you this message, but I needed to get this off my chest.

It really hurts me that we never got to end things properly, that everything happened over the phone. I wanted to see you in person and be able to talk about how we felt about everything, because those 2 years were important to me.

It surprised me when you told me to just end things on the call. I guess you didn’t want to waste time, but I had hoped you would come see me in person. I even thought you could use the excuse of returning my charm or that I still have your sweater.

But it didn’t happen… you let me go so easily.

It surprises me how we went from planning a future together to everything ending like this. It hurt that you removed me from Instagram, but it hurts me more that you never looked for me.

I keep thinking about how everything ended and it still doesn’t feel real.
“””

I already have moved on with my life, dont know if I should I respond or not. Honestly, I care about being respectful and at least try to respond something but she still gives me vibes that she is angry about how I did not try to fight back the relationship even if I was being the one dumped.