u/HereF0rTheStuff

So this might not be the right place to reach out for help, but maybe it is. I don’t get the whole non-binary thing. I get not conforming to gender roles and living life the way you want to. I’m not an overly girlie girl, but I’m a woman. This nonbinary thing has me confused. I get not feeling like you fit 100% but if you present as a dude, how do I see you as anything other than a dude? If you present as a woman, how do I see you as otherwise. And we get the how dare you misgender me?!? Like I am all for you transitioning, but this in between and expectation has me wondering. Plus, if you identify as both woman and man, how are you a lesbian??

I think the term is misleading. It’s ok if you want to use it for nonbinary folks with bisexual women or other nonbinary folks, bisexuals with other bisexuals. But…. Not for lesbians. Why can’t we just have our own thing?

Ok so what lesbian flag are we using? I know there are a few different versions and a few different reasons why they are “problematic”. I personally think the traditional gay flag (red orange yellow green blue purple) was enough and covered everyone. Then it started changing adding skin color and shapes and shit. They’re doing too much. But i do kind of like the idea of lesbian flag too? But idk which one aligns with who I am? I am a woman (cis and only a woman) who loves other women (who only love women and are physically women - no penis, no “i’m a man and a woman/I’m neither”). I have nothing against transwomen but I don’t think we should be forced to be ok with penis.