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TL;DR: I’m a bisexual guy who became physically intimate with a close friend I live with. Over time, I fell deeply in love with him, but he never saw a future with me and is now planning to marry a girl. Even though he still wants physical intimacy, I’m emotionally breaking down, feeling jealous and stressed whenever he gets close to someone else. I don’t know how to move on or detach from him.

I’m(bi) staying far from my hometown for my work, so I joined a shared room two years ago. My roommate and I have been living together since then. and we became friends.

At first, he asked if he could put his leg on me while sleeping, and I said okay. Slowly, it turned into hugging, cuddling, and eventually physical intimacy between us.

He never promised me a relationship or a future together, but without realizing it, I started falling for him deeply. Now I genuinely love him, and that’s what is hurting me the most.

Recently, he told me that his family is planning to get him married within the next six months. He’s also talking closely with a girl and says he probably loves her and may marry her. Hearing that completely broke me inside.

The painful part is that even now, he still wants to continue being physical with me. Sometimes I ask him if he would ever stay with me in the future, but he avoids the topic, and somewhere in my heart I already know the answer.

Before all this, I strongly believed that I would only be intimate with someone I truly loved. I never imagined I would end up this emotionally attached to someone who doesn’t see a future with me.

Now, whenever I see him talking closely with someone else, especially that girl, I feel jealous, anxious, and mentally disturbed. I try to act normal, but inside I feel completely broken. My heart literally aches sometimes, and I keep overthinking everything.

He still talks to me normally like nothing has changed, but I can’t do the same anymore because I finally realized he is not really mine, and probably never will be. Still, whenever he asks for physical intimacy, I find it very hard to say no because my feelings for him are too strong.

After everything, he is still a good friend to me, and that makes moving on even harder. I feel emotionally stuck, lonely, and confused all the time.

I honestly don’t know how to overcome this pain or how to detach myself from him. If anyone has gone through something similar, please tell me how you handled it. I really need some advice.

TL;DR: I’m a bisexual guy who became physically intimate with a close friend I live with. Over time, I fell deeply in love with him, but he never saw a future with me and is now planning to marry a girl. Even though he still wants physical intimacy, I’m emotionally breaking down, feeling jealous and stressed whenever he gets close to someone else. I don’t know how to move on or detach from him.

I’m staying far from my hometown, so I joined a shared room two years ago. My roommate and I have been living together since then.

At first, he asked if he could put his leg on me while sleeping, and I said okay. Slowly, it turned into hugging, cuddling, and eventually physical intimacy between us.

He never promised me a relationship or a future together, but without realizing it, I started falling for him deeply. Now I genuinely love him, and that’s what is hurting me the most.

Recently, he told me that his family is planning to get him married within the next six months. He’s also talking closely with a girl and says he probably loves her and may marry her. Hearing that completely broke me inside.

The painful part is that even now, he still wants to continue being physical with me. Sometimes I ask him if he would ever stay with me in the future, but he avoids the topic, and somewhere in my heart I already know the answer.

Before all this, I strongly believed that I would only be intimate with someone I truly loved. I never imagined I would end up this emotionally attached to someone who doesn’t see a future with me.

Now, whenever I see him talking closely with someone else, especially that girl, I feel jealous, anxious, and mentally disturbed. I try to act normal, but inside I feel completely broken. My heart literally aches sometimes, and I keep overthinking everything.

He still talks to me normally like nothing has changed, but I can’t do the same anymore because I finally realized he is not really mine, and probably never will be. Still, whenever he asks for physical intimacy, I find it very hard to say no because my feelings for him are too strong.

After everything, he is still a good friend to me, and that makes moving on even harder. I feel emotionally stuck, lonely, and confused all the time.

I honestly don’t know how to overcome this pain or how to detach myself from him. If anyone has gone through something similar, please tell me how you handled it. I really need some advice.

TL;DR: I’m a bisexual guy who became physically intimate with a close friend I live with. Over time, I fell deeply in love with him, but he never saw a future with me and is now planning to marry a girl. Even though he still wants physical intimacy, I’m emotionally breaking down, feeling jealous and stressed whenever he gets close to someone else. I don’t know how to move on or detach from him.

I’m(bi) staying far from my hometown for my work, so I joined a shared room two years ago. My roommate and I have been living together since then. and we became friends.

At first, he asked if he could put his leg on me while sleeping, and I said okay. Slowly, it turned into hugging, cuddling, and eventually physical intimacy between us.

He never promised me a relationship or a future together, but without realizing it, I started falling for him deeply. Now I genuinely love him, and that’s what is hurting me the most.

Recently, he told me that his family is planning to get him married within the next six months. He’s also talking closely with a girl and says he probably loves her and may marry her. Hearing that completely broke me inside.

The painful part is that even now, he still wants to continue being physical with me. Sometimes I ask him if he would ever stay with me in the future, but he avoids the topic, and somewhere in my heart I already know the answer.

Before all this, I strongly believed that I would only be intimate with someone I truly loved. I never imagined I would end up this emotionally attached to someone who doesn’t see a future with me.

Now, whenever I see him talking closely with someone else, especially that girl, I feel jealous, anxious, and mentally disturbed. I try to act normal, but inside I feel completely broken. My heart literally aches sometimes, and I keep overthinking everything.

He still talks to me normally like nothing has changed, but I can’t do the same anymore because I finally realized he is not really mine, and probably never will be. Still, whenever he asks for physical intimacy, I find it very hard to say no because my feelings for him are too strong.

After everything, he is still a good friend to me, and that makes moving on even harder. I feel emotionally stuck, lonely, and confused all the time.

I honestly don’t know how to overcome this pain or how to detach myself from him. If anyone has gone through something similar, please tell me how you handled it. I really need some advice.

I recently got a bonus of around ₹1.4L, and honestly… this is probably the biggest amount of money I’ve ever had at once.

Now I’m stuck in a weird state where I don’t know whether to save it, invest it, upskill myself, travel, or finally buy things I kept postponing for years 😭

A part of me wants to be responsible with it, because I know how hard it is to earn and save money. But at the same time, I also don’t want this amount to just sit in my account doing nothing.

For people who’ve been in a similar situation before — what did you do with your first big bonus/savings?
Any advice, regrets, investment ideas, or things you’re glad you spent on are welcome 🙏