lmk if your group has one to fill in

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Im 22, earning 50k a month and can invest upto 25k in mutual funds, planning to start sip for these three in my watchlist, any suggests for a begginer investor?

Fund	Amount
ABSL Flexi Cap	₹9-10K
Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 FOF (swap from Edelweiss)	₹3K
ICICI Pru Short Term Fund	₹4K

or my final verdict is:

Updated allocation for ₹25K/month

Fund	Amount
ABSL Flexi Cap	₹9K
Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 FOF	₹3K
ICICI Pru Short Term Fund	₹4K
Mid-cap fund (new)	₹5K
Small-cap fund (new)	₹4K

any suggestions please help

He's the kindest person I know. We started dating five months ago after meeting in Bangalore. I had to move back to my hometown after graduating, while he's still in university. He's genuinely a good person. He tries his best to be there for me emotionally, I truly see the effort he makes.

The problem is that he has incredibly strict parents. My parents aren't like that. Because of his situation, I can't just call him whenever I want. He keeps our chats archived, and most of our conversations happen through text. I'm 22F and he's 20M. I understand that his circumstances are complicated, and I know his parents would never approve of him spending hours talking to me. I really do understand that.

But when I'm feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally exhausted, I can't even call the person I love. All I can do is text him and wait for hours until he replies. As a long distance couple, communication feels like the foundation of everything. I don't need constant attention or endless conversations, but I do need to feel like I can reach him when I need him the most.

He really does try his best, and that makes me feel guilty for wanting more of his time. It feels miserable knowing that whenever I'm sad or low, I have to type out all of my feelings. I'm someone who rarely shows my vulnerable side to anyone. Opening up is already difficult for me, and trying to fit those emotions into a few text messages makes it even harder.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of being in a relationship is if I can't share my emotions with the person I love or call him when I need comfort. I'm a complete person on my own. I don't need someone else to make me feel worthy or complete. I'm not emotionally dependent on him. That's not what this is about.

What frustrates me is that I can't experience one of the most basic parts of a relationship, simply being able to talk to the person I love when I need them.

He came to my hometown a week ago, and we spent three beautiful days together. I asked him to stay one more day. He couldn't because he had to be with his family. He had come to Delhi to meet his grandparents, and while his mom knows about me, the rest of his family doesn't. My mom, on the other hand, knows about him.

I don't even know what I'm feeling anymore. Am I emotionally avoidant? Am I becoming someone who is slowly learning to ignore her own feelings because expressing them doesn't seem possible? I know he's not doing this because he doesn't care. He has apologized so many times for not being available, and I know he already feels guilty about it.

But is it wrong for me to expect something as basic as his time? I've never asked him for gifts or expensive gestures. I've never expected anything material. All I've ever wanted is time with him.

I'm working a remote job now, and sometimes it scares me that I'm slowly building a version of myself that expects nothing from him. I'm afraid I'll become so used to him not being available that I'll stop wanting to share my feelings altogether.

Opening up doesn't happen instantly for me. It takes long conversations, emotional safety, and time. That's how I process my emotions. He believes I should simply say whatever I'm feeling in the moment, but that's not how I work. I wish I could explain that to him in a way he'd truly understand.

Lately, I've noticed resentment growing inside me. Sometimes I intentionally reply late because I want him to feel what it's like to wait. I hate that I do that. I don't want to play games or pretend to be hard to get. I just want to feel loved.

I know there's love between us. I've never doubted that. I don't need five hour phone calls every day. I don't need constant attention. I just want to know that when I need the person I love, I can reach him.

And that's what I'm struggling with.

Should I stay in this relationship? Should I leave? Am I asking for too much from a 20 year old who's trying his best under difficult circumstances? Or am I simply asking for something every relationship deserves, access, communication, and emotional presence?

I honestly don't know anymore.

tl;dr

He's the kindest person I know. We started dating five months ago after meeting in Bangalore. I had to move back to my hometown after graduating, while he's still in university. He's genuinely a good person. He tries his best to be there for me emotionally, I truly see the effort he makes.

The problem is that he has incredibly strict parents. My parents aren't like that. Because of his situation, I can't just call him whenever I want. He keeps our chats archived, and most of our conversations happen through text. I'm 22 and he's 20. I understand that his circumstances are complicated, and I know his parents would never approve of him spending hours talking to me. I really do understand that.

But when I'm feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally exhausted, I can't even call the person I love. All I can do is text him and wait for hours until he replies. As a long distance couple, communication feels like the foundation of everything. I don't need constant attention or endless conversations, but I do need to feel like I can reach him when I need him the most.

He really does try his best, and that makes me feel guilty for wanting more of his time. It feels miserable knowing that whenever I'm sad or low, I have to type out all of my feelings. I'm someone who rarely shows my vulnerable side to anyone. Opening up is already difficult for me, and trying to fit those emotions into a few text messages makes it even harder.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of being in a relationship is if I can't share my emotions with the person I love or call him when I need comfort. I'm a complete person on my own. I don't need someone else to make me feel worthy or complete. I'm not emotionally dependent on him. That's not what this is about.

What frustrates me is that I can't experience one of the most basic parts of a relationship, simply being able to talk to the person I love when I need them.

He came to my hometown a week ago, and we spent three beautiful days together. I asked him to stay one more day. He couldn't because he had to be with his family. He had come to Delhi to meet his grandparents, and while his mom knows about me, the rest of his family doesn't. My mom, on the other hand, knows about him.

I don't even know what I'm feeling anymore. Am I emotionally avoidant? Am I becoming someone who is slowly learning to ignore her own feelings because expressing them doesn't seem possible? I know he's not doing this because he doesn't care. He has apologized so many times for not being available, and I know he already feels guilty about it.

But is it wrong for me to expect something as basic as his time? I've never asked him for gifts or expensive gestures. I've never expected anything material. All I've ever wanted is time with him.

I'm working a remote job now, and sometimes it scares me that I'm slowly building a version of myself that expects nothing from him. I'm afraid I'll become so used to him not being available that I'll stop wanting to share my feelings altogether.

Opening up doesn't happen instantly for me. It takes long conversations, emotional safety, and time. That's how I process my emotions. He believes I should simply say whatever I'm feeling in the moment, but that's not how I work. I wish I could explain that to him in a way he'd truly understand.

Lately, I've noticed resentment growing inside me. Sometimes I intentionally reply late because I want him to feel what it's like to wait. I hate that I do that. I don't want to play games or pretend to be hard to get. I just want to feel loved.

I know there's love between us. I've never doubted that. I don't need five hour phone calls every day. I don't need constant attention. I just want to know that when I need the person I love, I can reach him.

And that's what I'm struggling with.

Should I stay in this relationship? Should I leave? Am I asking for too much from a 20 year old who's trying his best under difficult circumstances? Or am I simply asking for something every relationship deserves, access, communication, and emotional presence?

I honestly don't know anymore.