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Has anyone tried Millie? I’ve previously had a miscarriage before and my OB was extremely unhelpful. I tried booking other OBs through Sutter but the ones I wanted are super booked out. I’m also hesitant (and admittedly being avoidant) to search for more OBs in the area after seeing how overworked and how little time and empathy mine had for me.

In my search to find a new one I saw ads for Millie because they opened a clinic here in SJ. they seem to be rotating care, or you can choose a doctor. (their branding is really good lol.)

anyone have any experience? did you prefer Millie to a standard OB?

hello, I got married about a year and a half ago. I moved to be with my husband and although we were supposed to get an apartment, it fell through and I live with my in laws. we plan to move out eventually. but I’m struggling with how unimportant my parents have become in contrast to his. and I know we are different genders and he is responsible for his parents and I am not, and he should be my priority Islamically and not my parents, but it just hurts and feels cruel that he gets to show a better side to his parents while my own don’t get to, and if I have kids or cook and want to share a good meal, the reality is they will not be around most of the time and it’s always my in laws on the receiving end. and I wish I could go back and I wish someone had told me this because the reality is really digging in now.

it makes me bitter toward my in laws too and I hate that because I live with them I can’t process it because they are always there. they know I’m staying in my room excessively and avoiding them but I just am so tired of seeing them all the time and I wish I could just invite them to dinner once a week and that’s it but I see them everyday. sometimes I feel like wearing hijab was a mistake if it was just going to lead to me having to cover more in the house when I always envisioned finally being able to wear cute clothes and other things. And now it seems like I probably never will, because I’m already being pressured to have kids but I truly do not want to around them. to me it feels like i didnt get to decorate a kitchen how I wanted, dress how I wanted, fix an apartment the way I thought, and be my own person. and if I have a baby it will just continue

he says either we would move next to them, or in a situation with them which would give more space, but that aside, why does my life become so enmeshed with his parents while my own parents are by themselves and have no one to help them? he doesn’t have to help my parents and that is clear so why do his parents take priority for me just because I married him? I hate it because nothing feels like my own or equal sometimes and i feel like I’m perpetually being treated like a child even though i thought marriage was finally my leap at independence and adulthood.

I feel like it’s unfair and the longer I ruminate on it the more bitter I feel towards everything. please help me understand. I feel so isolated and naive, nothing prepared me for this, and I don’t understand why my parents were okay with it either. it’s destroying me inside.