Now ai am regretting my boundaries
Sorry for the typo in the title. It won’t let me edit it. My bf broke up with me over something I won’t discuss here, and we both expressed sadness with the breakup that it didn’t appear it was going to work out, but all I wanted was a 10 min phone call for closure since our last call when things ended, I was at work. He kept saying “we will talk about it” but each day would go by and nothing.
Finally a week later I asked him why he is not prioritizing the phone call. (We would text a bit here and there, mostly I would initiate.) He said he is just so “exhausted “ and “overwhelmed “. He works on a cruise ship and his 10 month contract ends in 9’days and he gets to go home, so I noticed for the last month or so he had been using the word “overwhelmed” and “exhausted”more when it came to dealing with emotional conversations with me. I could tell he was taking his frustrations out on me.
Anyways, it’s been 14 days since the break up and I felt he was still reconsidering the relationship from some things he said. I was trying to give him space. So I was on day 3 of no contact, but I am a person who says my feelings so I broke the contact and sent him a long message this morning saying I deserve better than this and all I wanted was a phone call. I want someone who doesn’t detach emotionally when things get hard and that I just want to be by myself right now to grow as a person .
He responded as soon as he woke up with “I understand I respect that “. Like what is that supposed to mean? Like were you still
Considering the relationship and just expected me to wait around forever? Like… no apology or acknowledgment of my feelings, but he finally replied to me at least for the first time in 6 days. I am just going crazy because the truth is I would work it out with him.
HELP with advice or perspective please 🙏