u/Honest_Actuary4591

I posted a while back about some issues with inheriting my dads house with my brother. We are in California. My brother is the executor of the estate and there has been a lot of stuff going on that I'm unhappy with without any formal agreement between us. We both currently live at the house. I'm really on the fence about selling it because its our childhood home and its heartbreaking to me.

My brother has been taking at least several hundred dollars a month possibly a thousand or more a month in trust money / money from sales of my dads now shut down business products to "pay his rent" without my approval for the last few years saying that he's paying himself for work / meeting people who want to buy some of my dads products and for doing yard work around the property on top . He doesn't provide statements on any of my dads business stuff being sold and has only provided a few bank statements in the past. This probably takes him at most only a few hours of work a week and my dads business is on the property and its left over inventory left from when he died so there is very little labor involved at this point. I mean I wasn't asking money from the estate for the work i did clearing out my dads second shop location that we moved out of . I do own 50% of the house and of my dads possessions / business. I am almost considering just selling off my half of my business interest / inventory for a discounted price because I don't receive any money from it. My brother chooses to only work a part time job that doesn't pay much so he probably just views it as he deserves to get paid for doing work on the property but there is no transparency in financial documents or agreements . I did tell him a while back he's not supposed to be paying himself money like that and he gave a passive answer but now he's still doing it.

I am already a super busy person with my own business. I tried to talk to him about hiring a landscaper and selling my half of my dads stuff but he's passive / avoidant about everything and nothing is being done in a way that I'm happy about. He was already paid a executor fee beforehand. He also has his male friend living with him at our house and his friend is living here for free now (according to them) when he previously told me he was paying rent which I have been very unhappy about and is another big issue for me. I currently live alone without children.

Ive been talking to some friends who say I should probably just get him removed as executor because of the lack of transparency , control of finances , and letting his buddy live here without paying anything. I spoke to an attorney before who just straight up said he wanted to remove him as executor and force the sale of the house so he can get a "big fat check". I am trying to find a attorney now who can help me remove him as a executor and see if we can resolve these issues before having to sell the house as a last resort. Living in california coastal the attorneys I reached out to in the past didnt seem to want to help me with small things first they all seemed to just want to go for a big payday but i need to get help sorting out some of these things first.

My question is to get him removed as executor how much will this likely cost me ? I understand lawyers got to get paid but for me spending a few thousand vs tens of thousands is a big difference. What should something like this typically cost and how to avoid a big attorney bill for something like this? I dont have much experience hiring attorneys. For me to hire someone I have to feel like they are reasonable and that I can trust them but so far hasn't been easy to find so I kept putting it off the last year. Also how can I legally remove his friend from the property? This person has been leaching off our family for a long time and I'm not ok with it anymore. Thanks

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Looking for opinions on my situation....

Hey everyone. Me and my brother inherited my dads house in California 4 years ago when he passed away and which we now share.

There are some issues I'm having with my him and I previously spoke to a couple lawyers who think I should just sell my dads house and take my brother to court. Not sure if I want to go that far yet. I initially was leaning to sell the property and move on but now we both want to keep the house for the time being because it has a lot of sentimental value to us but there are a couple problems I'm having with him who also happens to be the executor of the estate. Were not married or have kids otherwise yeah we wouldn't be living together and California is not a cheap place to live anymore. I'm just wondering if I can force him to make some changes or if its a sell or not situation.

First he currently lives with and shares his section of the house with his friend who doesn't pay any rent and doesn't pay any other bills. Me and my brother currently split things 50/50. They share the same room and living area so they tell me he doesn't have to pay anything. They both work and have jobs. I have been letting it slide because I don't want to get into a big argument or lawsuit over it.

My concerns is that because my brother is the executor can he force me to live with someone if I don't really want to live with them in a house I technically own half of?

Another thing is that while living here since they are 2 people and I'm one person shouldn't they be paying 2/3 of the rent and 2/3 the utilities instead of me paying 50% of the bills?

Would I be able to force them to do that or is it basically the two parties need to agree or not type of thing? Can I get this person out of the house? Or could I just bring whoever I want to live here for free right then also?

I was also curious if I moved out of the property and don't want to sell the house for the time being is that is he legally required to pay me lets say half of the fair market value of what the property can rent for every month minus my half of the mortgage I owe? What is the legal standard in that situation? I may want to live overseas for a while but also have a place I can come back home to in the states if I needed a place to stay and keep my possessions and vehicle.

I just want to know if I have any rights as a beneficiary (my brother never closed out the trust) or if that its either a go to court or try to work it out type of thing. A couple lawyers said that as a executor hes supposed to put my needs above his but then again not sure if there are any laws regarding shared living arrangements.

Any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks

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