u/Honest_Strawb

I have three siblings and I'm the third one. I have a younger sister and we all coddle her alot. Our parents passed away so we're even more protective when it comes to her. I'm really really close with her too. But recently I started to feel like my elder siblings don't treat me like a younger sister? I'm 21 ofcourse I don't want to be babied but being considerate sometimes, or buying something i was craving? They haven't done that for me, it's always for the youngest. I keep overthinking everything and I feel like I'm overreacting. I just want to be treated as a younger sibling sometimes too and yes I'm honestly starting to get jealous of my younger sister. I still spoil her alot and I don't have any ill feelings against her . I just feel very bitter these days. Since most my relatives only ask about her all the time I'm used to being in the sidelines. I just didn't think I'd feel that way at home too.

Please gimme some advice or ask me questions that would give me some clarity I'd never want to feel jealous of my siblings I feel very guilty to feel that way.

Okay so basically my sister is getting married this July. We lost our parents so most family functions don't feel special to us. Plus alhamdulillah we'll be sending her off with just nikah (it's very common in brown families to have HUGE celebration) .The relatives handling most of her wedding preparations have made it seem like a transaction and they're just happy to get rid of her so more of a reason to let her know that this is something to be celebrated about! I want to make my sister feel special. I want her to know how happy we are for her .

I don't exactly know what to do tho😭 and I need everyone to pitch in ideas. Thing is we're only 4 siblings , planning anything grand feels awkward and empty . Like I want it to be small and personal. My brother and I have decided on some silver jewellery as a gift. But nothing else. Any ideas would be HIGHLY appreciated please help me out here