I’m 21 and got into doing makeup properly when i was around 17, these pics range from recent to 3 yrs ago. i feel like my routine is constantly changing and has changed a lot since then because i cant figure out what suits me best. any suggestions or product recommendations would be appreciated :)
I’ve been talking to this guy for a while, matched on a dating app and his profile says he’s looking for long term. But I genuinely can’t tell whether he likes me or just likes having someone there to text.
What confuses me is that he DOES do things that seem interested. He replies almost instantly, sometimes messages first, flirts occasionally, saves my pictures in chat, and has talked before about wanting to take me out. He’s even randomly texted me “good morning” before.
But the actual conversations themselves feel so low effort that it’s starting to bother me.
A lot of his responses are things like “ooo,” “igg,” “weeee,” etc. and he rarely asks questions about me or tries to genuinely get to know me deeper. I realized I’m usually the one carrying the conversation, changing topics, asking questions, and keeping things going.
The thing that especially confuses me is the “good morning” type texts. If a guy is thinking about you enough to text you first in the morning, wouldn’t you expect him to actually continue the conversation afterward? Instead, I’ll reply and he still won’t ask how I’m doing or anything meaningful. The energy just goes dry immediately.
He’s also talked about being excited to take me out before, but nothing has actually happened yet, which adds to the mixed signals feeling.
I think what’s bothering me most is that his actions don’t fully line up. He seems interested enough to stay consistent and keep contact, but not enough for me to actually feel pursued, prioritized, or emotionally invested in.
Could it just be hes shy or a bad texter or what? I want honest opinions because I feel like I’m overanalyzing every interaction at this point.
I’ve been talking to this guy for a while and I genuinely can’t tell whether he likes me or just likes having someone there to text.
What confuses me is that he DOES do things that seem interested. He replies almost instantly, sometimes messages first, flirts occasionally, saves my pictures in chat, and has talked before about wanting to take me out. He’s even randomly texted me “good morning” before.
But the actual conversations themselves feel so low effort that it’s starting to bother me.
A lot of his responses are things like “ooo,” “igg,” etc. and he rarely asks questions about me or tries to genuinely get to know me deeper. I realized I’m usually the one carrying the conversation, changing topics, asking questions, and keeping things going.
The thing that especially confuses me is the “good morning” type texts. If a guy is thinking about you enough to text you first in the morning, wouldn’t you expect him to actually continue the conversation afterward? Instead, I’ll reply and he still won’t ask how I’m doing or anything meaningful. The energy just goes dry immediately.
He’s also talked about being excited to take me out before, but nothing has actually happened yet, which adds to the mixed signals feeling.
I think what’s bothering me most is that his actions don’t fully line up. He seems interested enough to stay consistent and keep contact, but not enough for me to actually feel pursued, prioritized, or emotionally invested in.
Could it just be hes shy or a bad texter or what? I want honest opinions because I feel like I’m overanalyzing every interaction at this point.
I genuinely don’t know what I’m doing wrong at this point. It feels like every guy I talk to either:
• loses interest/ghosts me after awhile
• only wants something casual/physical
• says he “isn’t ready for a relationship” after awhile of investing
• puts in zero effort to build the connection
• or just ends up being kind of a douche honestly
And the few guys who do seem to really like me are genuinely creepy/stalker-ish and never people I feel genuinely attracted to or excited about.
Meanwhile, the guys I do really want never seem to want me the same way. I always end up being the one who cares more, thinks more deeply about them, worries about losing them, etc. I’ve never really experienced someone caring about me with the same intensity I care about them.
What messes with me the most is I feel like I’ve tried everything. I’ve tried being more chill, less attached, more understanding, more confident, prettier, less emotional, more emotional, more myself, more what they wanted… and somehow it still ends the same way.
It honestly makes me wonder if there’s something fundamentally wrong with me or if I’m just choosing the wrong people over and over. I feel stupid for caring so deeply every time when it never seems to be returned the same way. and its always the same pattern of them being super into me in the start then losing interest like its nothing, leaving me in the dust feeling awful.