u/HotGirlAnxious

I’m not sure if this is the right flair but would be happy to fix if needed :)

Hi my gals! I’m just a 27 year old girl who is getting rid of a TON of random clothing because it overwhelmed me and I just realized that I don’t need as much as I had and it is so wasteful to just throw away!

I have about 3-4 HUGE trash bags of clothing. Some fit from a U.S. size 6-10 and others fit from a U.S. size 18-22! All clothing is washed and cleaned, 98% don’t have stains or anything that ruins the clothing. I’m giving them away because I indulged once and some of these pieces I haven’t worn in a long time, some 1 year+!!!

They range from jeans, basic tees, mini shirts, crop tops, skirts, dresses, etc. Some are shein (sorry, I had a phase a while ago) and some are anything from Boohoo, Fashion Nova, Aeropostale and old navy! And some thrifted and brands I don’t know off the top of my head.

The bags that are sizes that are 18-22 are FREE because as a plus size girl, plus size clothing is so darn hard to find that fits, is cute, and affordable! So my plus size girls…I GOT YOU! These are going to be “surprise bags” (basically there are too many to take photos of but could be anything that fit these sizes).

Two bags of size 8-10 are also “surprise bags” I’m going to sell both for $50. And then there are “special” things like expensive / nice dresses and stuff that were expensive that I’d like to sell and those prices can be negotiated :)

I don’t have pics rn but if you are interested, comment/message me and I’d be happy to send you pictures of samples from the surprise bags and then pics of the specific pieces I’m selling :) THANK YOU ALL SM! Much love and happiness to all my girls <3

I’m sure a lot of you have seen my post about him cheating 2 months before our wedding and continuing an emotional affair for 6 months before I found the evidence and confronted him.

We’re working on R but things are not promised or set in stone that we will be together.

ANYWAY, need advice/support. He cheated on July 5th 2025. (I didn’t find out until November so that isn’t the point) so it is in 2 days.

How do I survive this? Don’t worry - I’m not suicidal or anything I just mean how do I not fall into a dark hole and intrusive thoughts on Sunday at the thought of a year ago today he destroyed our relationship and threw me away. Months before our wedding. How do I get through that day?

I have included my new "unique" resume (the gray and white one - the first one) and I have included my old "boring" resume (the all white/classic resume one - second/third one).

• What specific help do you need?
  • Honestly, everything about this lol. Is the "uniqueness" of the color and format of the first "unique" (first one) one okay? Should I put my job responsibilities anywhere? If so, where? How can I improve this to stand out or should I just ditch the whole thing? Should I stick to my old resume (the second one) with the role descriptions?
• What roles/industries are you targeting?
  • I am a nonfiction/documentary storyteller and am going for jobs in anything longform nonfiction media (docs, specials, original content, series, etc.). I have lots of experience in nonfiction production, nonfiction development and journalism
• Where are you applying? (Local, remote, willing to relocate?)
  • New York Metropolitan area, open to remote and relocating
• What's your job search situation and challenges?
  • Getting some interviews, but not a lot. Not getting a lot of bites on my previous resume (the second one)
• Any specific resume sections you want feedback on?
  • You can be mean (not too mean please), I am just trying to stick out and be unique to try to get some responses
• Visa/citizenship status affecting your search?
  • No, I am a U.S. citizen

Sorry if someone has posted this before but I gotta hear opinions:

There are two very similar theories I heard and that I personally agree with but I am open to opinions/thoughts on this:

First theory: men hate astrology and think women who like astrology are stupid but usually because it is mainly a female dominated space. This is meant in the sense that women tend to like astrology more than men and most men don’t believe in it. So then you see that men usually hate things that USUALLY mainly women tend to like because men don’t take women’s interests seriously (example: making fun of a woman for liking makeup or romcoms).

Second theory: it is a general knowledge that men like dogs and women like cats. Just in the sense that a man is more willing to get a dog than a cat. And that’s fine. You’re 100% allowed to prefer a dog over a cat. NBD. But here’s where the theory comes in: when a man HATES cats, like despises them, it’s secretly and telling that that man is misogynistic. This is because cats tend to need to trust the human first and usually don’t just love their human unconditionally and immediately. Cats do not accept you immediately and also have hard boundaries (pulling their tail, grabbing them without knowing them, wanting their own safe space, etc.) Cats are similar to women in this way in that women need people (men especially) to show they can trust them, literally because of society and this is survival for women. So the theory is that when men HATE cats (and again I don’t mean preference, I mean TRUE unwarranted dislike of the whole breed), this can be a sign that a man doesn’t respect women or the traits/needs of a woman. Respect, trust, boundaries, etc.

I do not 100% agree with every point of these theories but I do agree with a lot of the patterns of them. What do you all think?