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Ok, I’d like to know everyone’s opinions on this.

5min before arriving to your shift, MB messages you saying that NK (3) will need a nappy change because they’ve done a poo. When you arrive they’re both in bed. MB says she’s going to sleep for a bit longer, understandably because they’ve had a rough night. So, you try to convince NK to hop out of bed and let you change their diaper.

NK doesn’t want YOU to change their diaper, they want MB to. It triggers a meltdown. When you finally change their diaper, with NK kicking and crying unfortunately, the poo is pretty dry. MB comments a few times that the poo has been there for a while but doesn’t specify how long.

Do you think it is appropriate for MB waiting (however long) until nanny arrives for a diaper change? Or should a poo be changed straight away? Is this an expectation you have of your nanny?

Edit for clarification on my opinion: I was feeling frustrated when this was happening, however I know that everyone has different expectations. I work with 5 families and this is the only one I’ve experienced this with. I wanted to see what everyone else’s thoughts were for some perspective.

Edit 2: Again, I don’t know how long MB had left it for. So for those who are suggesting that it’s neglectful, would you still think that if it had been there for 10-20min? What’s the time limit on this?

I babysit on the side for a family one day a week. This is the 3rd consecutive week that they’ve forgotten to pay me 😭 I hate having to remind them! it’s so awkward! We have a good relationship too so it adds to the awkwardness, I don’t want to seem like a leach.

Edit: they just paid me and they usually reply with an apology but this time they just sent the receipt. AHHH

I need ideas for things to do with my 2.5 yr old NK!
I’m usually pretty creative but I feel like we’ve done everything. She doesn’t like outings although I do try to encourage them as do her parents. It’s usually unsuccessful though. She really loves imaginative play and arts and crafts.

Her parents would like more structured activities throughout the day so I’ll usually do things like simple baking, making playdough, science experiments, crafts. Again though, she loves imaginative play and often prefers doing her own thing. I feel like I’m not really living up to the expectations of her parents by letting her do that all day. I just feel like we do the same activities every week.

I also nanny 5 other children (all different ages) so staying inspired is harddd!

If anyone has any new ideas please let me know!!

Much appreciated!

I (23f) have been with my (23m) boyfriend for 3 years. Ever since the beginning I had doubts about my attraction to him/our compatibility. Ignoring these feelings, I continued the relationship.

I find myself wondering what my life would be like with someone else. I love him SO much but I’m worried that it’s not a romantic love. It feels really complex because there have been periods (months continuously) where I couldn’t imagine life without him (romanticly). I think he’s a really really attractive guy, but I’m not always attracted to him. He has habits I feel I’ve outgrown and I find myself feeling irritable often.

I’m worried that if I stay, I’ll always have these thoughts in the back of my mind. It’s terrifying.

I’m scared to break up with him for these reasons:

• We have a cat who came to us as a stray. He’s attached to both of us. When we are all in bed together at the end of the day, we feel like a little family and it’s beautiful.

• I do ACTUALLY love him, I’m just scared that I’d be happier with someone else eventually

• We live together and I enjoy having my own place to decorate. It sounds so silly put like that, but I love creating a life for us. Finding furniture to have for years to come, saving up for nice cookware. Stuff like that. How would I transition into living with multiple roommates with only a bedroom as my own?

• He’s honestly my best friend (kinda my only friend atm)

• Not wanting kids is a very real possibility for me and I’m scared I won’t find someone with the same view

• Life with him is really comfortable

If you’ve experienced similar I would SO appreciate any advice.

One of the familes I work for asked to cancel the night before my shift.

For some context:
Nk had a really bad cough for two weeks beforehand. I’m always cautious with illness because I work with 4 other families and don’t want to spread something knowingly. There wasn’t a temp so I still worked those two weeks.

Anyway they send me a message the night before my latest shift, asking if it’s okay to cancel as NK now has a fever and they don’t want to spread it. I tell them it’s fine and send my well wishes. As per contract the family were asked to pay for the shift due to cancelling less than 24 hours before.
MB, (who I thought I got along with), started arguing with the company I work for and refusing to pay. Mind you the shift is only 2 hours so it’s not like a $200 payment it’s probably closer to $70. She then went on and said to my manager “well she should work with sick kids then” about me. Basically saying I’ve done this to myself.

I find it pretty hurtful considering SHE ASKED TO CANCEL?! But also because if I get sick, I have no income. 0 dollars. I don’t get paid sick leave. So if I get sick, not only am I leaving 4 other families to find childcare with very little notice, I’m also left to find a way to pay my bills and buy food without an income for who knows how long.

After some back and forth, she ended up paying.

I’m just really disappointed and uncomfortable about this situation. I’ve always been extremely flexible with this family and truly thought we had a good relationship. It feels like their true colours came out over something so small. I have to see them this week and I’m stressed asf.

I’m being let go by my first NF and I’m so saddd. I’ve only been with them a year but they were so amazing to me. I’m also so worried the uncertainty of my career and where to go from here. I have other NFs but I only continued in this field because I loved working for this one so much. So that’s a bummer.