AITAH for thinking my partner’s family is rude for always being late?
I grew up in a family where punctuality is important. If you're invited for a certain time, you show up on time - or, if you're running late, you let people know beforehand. That's just how I was raised, so it's always seemed like basic courtesy to me.
My partner's family is completely different.
For example, his aunt recently invited everyone over for lunch at 12:00 PM. We arrived right on time, only to sit there waiting. The rest of the family didn't start showing up until sometime after 12:30 PM. Nobody explained why they were late, and nobody apologized.
The thing is, this isn't a one-time occurrence. It's pretty much the norm with them. They're rarely less than 15 minutes late, and being 30+ minutes late without any notice isn't unusual. Whenever I bring it up, my boyfriend just shrugs and says, "That's just how they are."
I understand that different families have different habits and expectations, but to me it feels disrespectful to the people who made the effort to be on time. If everyone knows they're going to arrive half an hour late, why not simply set a later time or send a quick message?
My boyfriend thinks I'm being too rigid. I think it's common courtesy.
AITAH for feeling annoyed by this, or am I just old-fashioned?