u/Hungry_Heart_5534

About 6 months ago, a guy from my school reached out wanting to be friends. From the start he acted very religious/respectful. He talks a lot about lowering his gaze, modesty, goes to mosque every Friday, reposts religious content constantly, etc. He also made it VERY clear he did not see me romantically or find me attractive, and I honestly saw him as a brother/best friend too. He is M19 I am F18.

We are really close, we know everything about each other and call often and hang out around once a week. We do simple things like play tennis or walk.

The other day we hung out at my house for the first time. We ended up play fighting in my room over something stupid, which turned into us being on top of each other. Suddenly he wasn’t playfighting but rather dryhumping me and asking to “kiss just once”. Then he suddenly started confessing emotional stuff like “I love you even though I’m mean to you.” And more bs but I really feel like it was bc he was horny. I was like “you don’t mean this” and “you’re going to regret this” over and over. I also kept saying how “I really liked being friends with him” Becasue it’s true and how could the friendship be the same after this. Then he started framing the situation as him being insecure of his dick and wanting me to look at it. He took it out and was asking me for reassurance on its size etc. He then asked to go in my pool, since he was alr naked. I said idk if I was gonna get in. Anyways we make it to the pool and he gets in and I get in too ( I had a dress on and didn’t take it off). In the pool he said we will never talk about this again and he will continue to be my friend and send reels and call my friends hot etc. He kissed me and took off my underwear/shorts and I literally think he would have had sec with me in that moment if I let him. I didn’t know how this was going to end and I knew he needed to nut to come back to his senses so I gave him head until he came. We went upstairs and he showered and I then I took him home. On the ride back he was calling it straight teeth (I don’t remember if it was or wasn’t but no it probs wasn’t that good) but literally had never give head before and He hasn’t even kissed anybody so wtf.

I am not a bot and this is not a fake story!
It’s been 2 days and he has been sending reels and stuff as normal but he left something at my house and I’m gonna drop it off and I’m trying to figure out if I should ask to talk or not. If I could have guidance on what to even say and opinions on the whole situation. Do you think there is a way we can still just be friends?

TL;DR

Ok basically idk wtf to do Becasue this dude has become my best friend and I lowkey would be sad if I dropped him but things have gotten weird lately. Here is the story from the begging of our friendship: we’re both 18

Basically A guy reached out to me (from school) around 6 months ago wanting to be friends. At first he acted super religious and respectful, talking about lowering his gaze, modesty, etc. Later he admitted one of his original intentions was hoping he could eventually get lucky with me. (Btw he is Muslim goes to mosque weekly and prays a lot etc)

He sees me like a sister and def does not find me attractive at all (he has made it known). I also genuinely see him as a brother/best friend. We talk basically every day for an hour or more and outside of this issue he has been very caring and emotionally supportive. I’m also basically the only girl friend he has ever had, and he genuinely does not know how to act around other girls (no relationships no talking stages etc).

But over time the sexual comments have escalated badly. He constantly talks about being horny, says stuff like “I’m hard rn,” saying he almost sent explicit pics once, asks me to send topless pics of my friends, talks sexually about random girls (can’t leave his house without saying freaky ass shit about girls walking on the street), etc. I shut it down and respond with stuff like “bro wtf” or change the subject, so I’m not encouraging it but I also have not flare out told him to stop Becasue I’m worried he won’t want to be my friend anymore. He says I’m the only person he can tell this type of stuff to, but I’m also a female myself and it’s ruining my perception of all. This man is lowkey the biggest gooner I know but he doesn’t goon??? Becasue he is Muslim?? Is genuinely does not make sense.

He simultaneously judges my FWB situation and makes me feel guilty about it, doesn’t support it at all. With that, he almost asks me everyday to find him a FWB so I’m just like wtf. I can’t talk to him about my friends without him wanting to get put on.

The biggest reason I haven’t seriously confronted him is because I’m honestly scared that if I fully tell him to stop, he won’t want to be my friend anymore, and I’ve gotten really attached to him emotionally as my best friend.

WTF IS UR TAKE ON THIS SITUATION??? What do I do?? Also if there needs to be any clarification lmk.

Ok basically idk wtf to do Becasue this dude has become my best friend and I lowkey would be sad if I dropped him but things have gotten weird lately. Here is the story from the begging of our friendship: we’re both 18

Basically A guy reached out to me (from school) around 6 months ago wanting to be friends. At first he acted super religious and respectful, talking about lowering his gaze, modesty, etc. Later he admitted one of his original intentions was hoping he could eventually get lucky with me. (Btw he is Muslim goes to mosque weekly and prays a lot etc)

He sees me like a sister and def does not find me attractive at all (he has made it known). I also genuinely see him as a brother/best friend. We talk basically every day for an hour or more and outside of this issue he has been very caring and emotionally supportive. I’m also basically the only girl friend he has ever had, and he genuinely does not know how to act around other girls (no relationships no talking stages etc).

But over time the sexual comments have escalated badly. He constantly talks about being horny, says stuff like “I’m hard rn,” saying he almost sent explicit pics once, asks me to send topless pics of my friends, talks sexually about random girls (can’t leave his house without saying freaky ass shit about girls walking on the street), etc. I shut it down and respond with stuff like “bro wtf” or change the subject, so I’m not encouraging it but I also have not flare out told him to stop Becasue I’m worried he won’t want to be my friend anymore. He says I’m the only person he can tell this type of stuff to, but I’m also a female myself and it’s ruining my perception of all. This man is lowkey the biggest gooner I know but he doesn’t goon??? Becasue he is Muslim?? Is genuinely does not make sense.

He simultaneously judges my FWB situation and makes me feel guilty about it, doesn’t support it at all. With that, he almost asks me everyday to find him a FWB so I’m just like wtf. I can’t talk to him about my friends without him wanting to get put on.

The biggest reason I haven’t seriously confronted him is because I’m honestly scared that if I fully tell him to stop, he won’t want to be my friend anymore, and I’ve gotten really attached to him emotionally as my best friend.

WTF IS UR TAKE ON THIS SITUATION??? What do I do?? Also if there needs to be any clarification lmk.