u/Hyper_elastagirl

I'm going from a manual to a power chair and get to deal with the horrors of shopping for my first van and need advice on which makes/models are the most reliable when buying secondhand.

In my budget I could get an older Toyota/Honda, or newer Dodge/Chrysler. I prefer Toyotas, but could only afford one a few years newer than my current car. My current '09 venza is on its last legs and getting a Toyota only a few years older makes me a bit nervous. I could instead get a 2018 or maybe newer for less if I went with a Dodge or Chrysler.

Not sure which to go with honestly from the research I've done it seems people are pretty evenly split between Toyota and Chrysler.

Ideally getting a braun conversion and fold out ram. What's everyone's opinions?

Just tried to set up an outside enrichment snuffle activity for my Toby and he refused to snuffle for mealworms when he realized I had a bag of them. He instead decided to chase me around the yard and try to climb my legs to get into the bag 😂

BIID is a psychological disorder where a person truly believes they were ment to be disabled resulting in them sometimes physically harming themselves to achieve the "desired" disability. The most common ones are blindness, amputee and para/quadriplegia. The only treatment is intense therapy and not giving in to the desired behavior from what I can tell

I'm asking because the other day I saw a really popular furry "come outt" as having BIID an everyone was kissing his ass and talking about how brave he was and I was just 🫩 he specifically said he wants to be a paraplegic and pretends to be one when he occasionally uses a wheelchair in public. Literally cosplaying as us but with none of the cons.

If anyone dared to say hey wanting to be paralyzed and pretending to be paralyzed is gross everyone attacked them saying that it's a debilitating disorder and how dare they be ableist.

Can I get a reality check y'all this is nuts right?? Like nothing against the people who have it and put in the work to do therapy and not act like jackasses but the people who parade around in wheelchairs because they want to be paralyzed is just absolutely insane to me??

I've pretty much exhausted all the resources in my town in terms of doctors who are knowledgeable about SCIs and they aren't able to help with a lot of specific things like AD, bowel programs, etc. does anyone happen to have any recommendations for doctors in the Philly/ NYC/ New Jersey area?

My mild to moderate HS has been pretty well controlled since moving from Texas to the northeast, but I recently had a really nasty cyst pop up that is totally freaking my wife out. She's heard me rant about HS for years and seen my usual smaller ones but she thinks I need to go to the ER every time to get them lanced/removed.

Granted it has been pretty nasty, it popped up as a golf ball sized cyst in my groin that ruptured under the skin, bruised and swelled up, popped on its own and is still angry and red but more nickel sized. It is discharging dark red blood when it ruptured which I've never experienced before but it is getting better every day.

My wife and I are both currently in school (her compsci, me gemology) and we are adopting a pair of kittens in the coming weeks. We love silly cat names and she had the idea to name one after a compsci term and one after a gemology term.

So far we have come up with Boolean and Benitoite (Boo and Benito for short) but we aren't 100% settled on them.

Does anyone here have any suggestions?

Hey all, I was wondering if there were any incompletes here with a colostomy or suggestions for bowel management that could give me some advice.

I'm a L3-sacrum from birth due to deformities and C1/C2 about 10 years ago, both incomplete but lower spine much more severe. Over the past year or so I have been in AD hell, specifically with my bowels and I am genuinely at the point where I want to beg for a colostomy.

I have a little bit of bowel control but need tools + the usual laxative/suppositories etc combo to get the job done. I eat lots of fiber and drink a ton of water and do my full bowel program every night and usually have at least one natural movement during the day, and yet I can still end up with an AD episode literally at any time. I also have an immune disorder that is attacking my bowels a lot like chrons disease which of course complicated things and can cause frequent diarrhea and incontinence and terrible pain.

I'm scared to leave the house or eat anything besides soft foods or do anything really because the episodes come on fast and are terrible. I spend at least 2-4 hours in the bathroom every day yet still get at least a few episodes every month and it's miserable.

Does a colostomy sound like a possible solution, and does anyone have any additional tips? Also does anyone have good doctor recs in the northeast because my local docs don't handle SCIs and I haven't seen a specialist since I moved up here.