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I feel like I should start by saying that I am an anxious person. I have been through several relationships that ended very badly for me. My current girlfriend is aware of this and up till recently, I haven’t had any worries with her.

I guess the first issue really started a few months ago when her and the guy friend started hanging out somewhat regularly. Me and her are both college students. I am completely online and she is studying at a university for pre-law. I’m all for being friends with who you want to be friends with guy girl whoever so I didn’t wanna stop my girlfriend from becoming friends with a guy or just you know whoever she wanted to become friends with she has also expressed a couple times how she does get lonely and one of her goals was to make a couple new friends this year. I didn’t think anything of it, her and this guy eventually picked up playing guitar with each other and shortly after that, he wrote her a love letter. She was completely taken aback by this, and didn’t know what to do. This is kind of where I started to feel weird and I told her that I didn’t really think it was appropriate for the two of them to be hanging out like they used to prior to all of this, he would come over at 10 PM 11 PM 12 PM and hang out with her and her apartment and they would do a bunch of stuff together. This was I guess our first hiccup she eventually admitted that it was weird and started to pull away from him, but they had classes together, so she didn’t wanna make things too awkward which I understood.

Now more recently, some of her coworkers have been making inappropriate comments to her, for example, how they would pay her that have sex with them. I didn’t take to this too well because she is a manager, and I explained to her that she could just escalate if she felt necessary or simply fire them. She explained to me that she didn’t want to be public enemy number one in her workplace, which I can understand that I just didn’t understand why she was letting them say things like that to her. She’s a very attractive woman, and she is hit on all the time which is something I have gotten more used to, but it still makes me feel weird now where the real trust issues started was about a month ago when she took her lsat. After the lsat I took her out to a really nice dinner and on our way home, she was telling me about how a guy had just tried hitting on her. I shred it off because I was more used to it at this point, but I did make a stupid comment asking if she gave him her number. My girlfriend is a people pleaser so she does fold under pressure to make others happy. It wasn’t really a serious question but obviously I was curious what threw me off was how she instantly said she didn’t give him her number and how she told him off that she had a boyfriend. This might be a red flag, but that isn’t like her. She was so adamant that she didn’t that it just made me feel weird like you were talking it up for some hidden purpose so later that night I went through her phone and I saw the guy’s name in there. I didn’t say anything then because I didn’t wanna start an argument but two weeks after that while we were at dinner that same guy followed her on Instagram we were sitting there eating and she abruptly said oh that’s weird. That guy followed me. This is when I asked her if she gave him her number as a chance to admit to it, she told me she didn’t offered to let me go through her phone and then she started texting her mom saying I was acting crazy at this point I started to believe her maybe I misread it so in the car ride home I apologize. I explained it to her that I seen a notification on her phone that I thought was from that guy. She told me that I likely saw her coworkers’s name and just misread it at this point I was sold I believed her 100% fast-forward another two weeks and she sends me the same coworkers chat log because he said something stupid and one of the share with me. I instantly noticed that the emoji next to his name was off that wasn’t the one I saw next to the other guy’s name so the next time I saw her, she had to get up to go use the bathroom and I went through her message. Log and I confirmed my suspicions that she did in fact, give him her number. She hadn’t responded to him at all. It was the same two messages that he sent the first day with no response and at this point, I still didn’t really feel like she would cheat on me. I was just very confused as why she was lying so this time around, I confronted her. She denied it at first, and then slowly opened up, saying how she feels threatened when men ask for her number and she just folds into it and gives them to her. She said she didn’t wanna make me upset by telling me that she did give him her number, but that there was nothing behind it and that she wanted nothing to do with him after this our relationship took a little rocky turn. I unfortunately still don’t trust her fully, which is why I am making this.

The present issue at hand is a new friend she made. We were out driving one night and as I was taking her back she told me that her and a new friend a girl we’re going out to a bar. This girl has a gender neutral name, but it’s found more commonly among men. But ultimately, I was excited for her that she made a new friend so I didn’t look too far into it at first that night. She sent me a couple messages saying she missed me and how the girl just wouldn’t leave and how she didn’t know what she wanted or if she wanted a good night kiss or something like that she just kept over selling the her the she and just everything that would indicate that this person is a girl it reminded me of when she told me that she didn’t give the guy her number. So again, I looked through her messages and I didn’t find anything weird I found one message from the girls saying that my girlfriend looked very pretty or cute but I feel like that’s a more common thing between female friends, I started to feel more suspicious when she told me that the girl was visiting her at the internship. She’s at and how she randomly comes over super late at night, and will sit there keeping her up. Throughout all of this me and my girlfriend have started to talk less and less through text and not to be too explicit but our sex life has slowed down. I know that could be a number of things like stress over school work I mean, we are broke college students. She doesn’t follow this girl on Instagram no girl at Slu with that name follows their Instagram. I know some people don’t have Instagram, but it’s pretty common that most people my age do last night. We were talking about her not in a inquisitive manner. I was just asking questions making small talk and I figured out that she shares the same graduation year as a guy that she follows with the same name. This unfortunately sent me into a spiral of looking things up and stalking I found that the guy was older than us and that he took a gap year. Which are all things that she is saying that this girl has done. So I have almost confirmed that she is lying. Part of me wants to believe her, but it would have to be such a small coincidence that a girl she doesn’t follow shares the same name in graduation year as a guy she follows.

Throughout our whole relationship, she’s been very against cheating and having an open relationship. As far as I know, we have been completely exclusive the whole time even while we were just talking she seems to get upset when I am feeling insecure or whenever I question her but I feel like after the first time she lied to me I kind of have a right too. The advice I’m looking for is how to bring this up. I do love her and it’s a hard pill to swallow trying to think that she might be cheating on me or lying to me again, I’m sorry if any of the grammar in this is bad or hard to read I use text to speech to write this all out because I’m on lunch currently. Thank you for reading this all the way through, please do not bash her. She’s an amazing person and at the end of the day if things aren’t going well some people look for that in others.

I feel like I should start by saying that I am an anxious person. I have been through several relationships that ended very badly for me. My current girlfriend is aware of this and up till recently, I haven’t had any worries with her.

I guess the first issue really started a few months ago when her and the guy friend started hanging out somewhat regularly. Me and her are both college students. I am completely online and she is studying at a university for pre-law. I’m all for being friends with who you want to be friends with guy girl whoever so I didn’t wanna stop my girlfriend from becoming friends with a guy or just you know whoever she wanted to become friends with she has also expressed a couple times how she does get lonely and one of her goals was to make a couple new friends this year. I didn’t think anything of it, her and this guy eventually picked up playing guitar with each other and shortly after that, he wrote her a love letter. She was completely taken aback by this, and didn’t know what to do. This is kind of where I started to feel weird and I told her that I didn’t really think it was appropriate for the two of them to be hanging out like they used to prior to all of this, he would come over at 10 PM 11 PM 12 PM and hang out with her and her apartment and they would do a bunch of stuff together. This was I guess our first hiccup she eventually admitted that it was weird and started to pull away from him, but they had classes together, so she didn’t wanna make things too awkward which I understood.

Now more recently, some of her coworkers have been making inappropriate comments to her, for example, how they would pay her that have sex with them. I didn’t take to this too well because she is a manager, and I explained to her that she could just escalate if she felt necessary or simply fire them. She explained to me that she didn’t want to be public enemy number one in her workplace, which I can understand that I just didn’t understand why she was letting them say things like that to her. She’s a very attractive woman, and she is hit on all the time which is something I have gotten more used to, but it still makes me feel weird now where the real trust issues started was about a month ago when she took her lsat. After the lsat I took her out to a really nice dinner and on our way home, she was telling me about how a guy had just tried hitting on her. I shred it off because I was more used to it at this point, but I did make a stupid comment asking if she gave him her number. My girlfriend is a people pleaser so she does fold under pressure to make others happy. It wasn’t really a serious question but obviously I was curious what threw me off was how she instantly said she didn’t give him her number and how she told him off that she had a boyfriend. This might be a red flag, but that isn’t like her. She was so adamant that she didn’t that it just made me feel weird like you were talking it up for some hidden purpose so later that night I went through her phone and I saw the guy’s name in there. I didn’t say anything then because I didn’t wanna start an argument but two weeks after that while we were at dinner that same guy followed her on Instagram we were sitting there eating and she abruptly said oh that’s weird. That guy followed me. This is when I asked her if she gave him her number as a chance to admit to it, she told me she didn’t offered to let me go through her phone and then she started texting her mom saying I was acting crazy at this point I started to believe her maybe I misread it so in the car ride home I apologize. I explained it to her that I seen a notification on her phone that I thought was from that guy. She told me that I likely saw her coworkers’s name and just misread it at this point I was sold I believed her 100% fast-forward another two weeks and she sends me the same coworkers chat log because he said something stupid and one of the share with me. I instantly noticed that the emoji next to his name was off that wasn’t the one I saw next to the other guy’s name so the next time I saw her, she had to get up to go use the bathroom and I went through her message. Log and I confirmed my suspicions that she did in fact, give him her number. She hadn’t responded to him at all. It was the same two messages that he sent the first day with no response and at this point, I still didn’t really feel like she would cheat on me. I was just very confused as why she was lying so this time around, I confronted her. She denied it at first, and then slowly opened up, saying how she feels threatened when men ask for her number and she just folds into it and gives them to her. She said she didn’t wanna make me upset by telling me that she did give him her number, but that there was nothing behind it and that she wanted nothing to do with him after this our relationship took a little rocky turn. I unfortunately still don’t trust her fully, which is why I am making this.

The present issue at hand is a new friend she made. We were out driving one night and as I was taking her back she told me that her and a new friend a girl we’re going out to a bar. This girl has a gender neutral name, but it’s found more commonly among men. But ultimately, I was excited for her that she made a new friend so I didn’t look too far into it at first that night. She sent me a couple messages saying she missed me and how the girl just wouldn’t leave and how she didn’t know what she wanted or if she wanted a good night kiss or something like that she just kept over selling the her the she and just everything that would indicate that this person is a girl it reminded me of when she told me that she didn’t give the guy her number. So again, I looked through her messages and I didn’t find anything weird I found one message from the girls saying that my girlfriend looked very pretty or cute but I feel like that’s a more common thing between female friends, I started to feel more suspicious when she told me that the girl was visiting her at the internship. She’s at and how she randomly comes over super late at night, and will sit there keeping her up. Throughout all of this me and my girlfriend have started to talk less and less through text and not to be too explicit but our sex life has slowed down. I know that could be a number of things like stress over school work I mean, we are broke college students. She doesn’t follow this girl on Instagram no girl at Slu with that name follows their Instagram. I know some people don’t have Instagram, but it’s pretty common that most people my age do last night. We were talking about her not in a inquisitive manner. I was just asking questions making small talk and I figured out that she shares the same graduation year as a guy that she follows with the same name. This unfortunately sent me into a spiral of looking things up and stalking I found that the guy was older than us and that he took a gap year. Which are all things that she is saying that this girl has done. So I have almost confirmed that she is lying. Part of me wants to believe her, but it would have to be such a small coincidence that a girl she doesn’t follow shares the same name in graduation year as a guy she follows.

Throughout our whole relationship, she’s been very against cheating and having an open relationship. As far as I know, we have been completely exclusive the whole time even while we were just talking she seems to get upset when I am feeling insecure or whenever I question her but I feel like after the first time she lied to me I kind of have a right too. The advice I’m looking for is how to bring this up. I do love her and it’s a hard pill to swallow trying to think that she might be cheating on me or lying to me again, I’m sorry if any of the grammar in this is bad or hard to read I use text to speech to write this all out because I’m on lunch currently. Thank you for reading this all the way through, please do not bash her. She’s an amazing person and at the end of the day if things aren’t going well some people look for that in others.

I feel like I should start by saying that I am an anxious person. I have been through several relationships that ended very badly for me. My current girlfriend is aware of this and up till recently, I haven’t had any worries with her.

I guess the first issue really started a few months ago when her and the guy friend started hanging out somewhat regularly. Me and her are both college students. I am completely online and she is studying at a university for pre-law. I’m all for being friends with who you want to be friends with guy girl whoever so I didn’t wanna stop my girlfriend from becoming friends with a guy or just you know whoever she wanted to become friends with she has also expressed a couple times how she does get lonely and one of her goals was to make a couple new friends this year. I didn’t think anything of it, her and this guy eventually picked up playing guitar with each other and shortly after that, he wrote her a love letter. She was completely taken aback by this, and didn’t know what to do. This is kind of where I started to feel weird and I told her that I didn’t really think it was appropriate for the two of them to be hanging out like they used to prior to all of this, he would come over at 10 PM 11 PM 12 PM and hang out with her and her apartment and they would do a bunch of stuff together. This was I guess our first hiccup she eventually admitted that it was weird and started to pull away from him, but they had classes together, so she didn’t wanna make things too awkward which I understood.

Now more recently, some of her coworkers have been making inappropriate comments to her, for example, how they would pay her that have sex with them. I didn’t take to this too well because she is a manager, and I explained to her that she could just escalate if she felt necessary or simply fire them. She explained to me that she didn’t want to be public enemy number one in her workplace, which I can understand that I just didn’t understand why she was letting them say things like that to her. She’s a very attractive woman, and she is hit on all the time which is something I have gotten more used to, but it still makes me feel weird now where the real trust issues started was about a month ago when she took her lsat. After the lsat I took her out to a really nice dinner and on our way home, she was telling me about how a guy had just tried hitting on her. I shred it off because I was more used to it at this point, but I did make a stupid comment asking if she gave him her number. My girlfriend is a people pleaser so she does fold under pressure to make others happy. It wasn’t really a serious question but obviously I was curious what threw me off was how she instantly said she didn’t give him her number and how she told him off that she had a boyfriend. This might be a red flag, but that isn’t like her. She was so adamant that she didn’t that it just made me feel weird like you were talking it up for some hidden purpose so later that night I went through her phone and I saw the guy’s name in there. I didn’t say anything then because I didn’t wanna start an argument but two weeks after that while we were at dinner that same guy followed her on Instagram we were sitting there eating and she abruptly said oh that’s weird. That guy followed me. This is when I asked her if she gave him her number as a chance to admit to it, she told me she didn’t offered to let me go through her phone and then she started texting her mom saying I was acting crazy at this point I started to believe her maybe I misread it so in the car ride home I apologize. I explained it to her that I seen a notification on her phone that I thought was from that guy. She told me that I likely saw her coworkers’s name and just misread it at this point I was sold I believed her 100% fast-forward another two weeks and she sends me the same coworkers chat log because he said something stupid and one of the share with me. I instantly noticed that the emoji next to his name was off that wasn’t the one I saw next to the other guy’s name so the next time I saw her, she had to get up to go use the bathroom and I went through her message. Log and I confirmed my suspicions that she did in fact, give him her number. She hadn’t responded to him at all. It was the same two messages that he sent the first day with no response and at this point, I still didn’t really feel like she would cheat on me. I was just very confused as why she was lying so this time around, I confronted her. She denied it at first, and then slowly opened up, saying how she feels threatened when men ask for her number and she just folds into it and gives them to her. She said she didn’t wanna make me upset by telling me that she did give him her number, but that there was nothing behind it and that she wanted nothing to do with him after this our relationship took a little rocky turn. I unfortunately still don’t trust her fully, which is why I am making this.

The present issue at hand is a new friend she made. We were out driving one night and as I was taking her back she told me that her and a new friend a girl we’re going out to a bar. This girl has a gender neutral name, but it’s found more commonly among men. But ultimately, I was excited for her that she made a new friend so I didn’t look too far into it at first that night. She sent me a couple messages saying she missed me and how the girl just wouldn’t leave and how she didn’t know what she wanted or if she wanted a good night kiss or something like that she just kept over selling the her the she and just everything that would indicate that this person is a girl it reminded me of when she told me that she didn’t give the guy her number. So again, I looked through her messages and I didn’t find anything weird I found one message from the girls saying that my girlfriend looked very pretty or cute but I feel like that’s a more common thing between female friends, I started to feel more suspicious when she told me that the girl was visiting her at the internship. She’s at and how she randomly comes over super late at night, and will sit there keeping her up. Throughout all of this me and my girlfriend have started to talk less and less through text and not to be too explicit but our sex life has slowed down. I know that could be a number of things like stress over school work I mean, we are broke college students. She doesn’t follow this girl on Instagram no girl at Slu with that name follows their Instagram. I know some people don’t have Instagram, but it’s pretty common that most people my age do last night. We were talking about her not in a inquisitive manner. I was just asking questions making small talk and I figured out that she shares the same graduation year as a guy that she follows with the same name. This unfortunately sent me into a spiral of looking things up and stalking I found that the guy was older than us and that he took a gap year. Which are all things that she is saying that this girl has done. So I have almost confirmed that she is lying. Part of me wants to believe her, but it would have to be such a small coincidence that a girl she doesn’t follow shares the same name in graduation year as a guy she follows.

Throughout our whole relationship, she’s been very against cheating and having an open relationship. As far as I know, we have been completely exclusive the whole time even while we were just talking she seems to get upset when I am feeling insecure or whenever I question her but I feel like after the first time she lied to me I kind of have a right too. The advice I’m looking for is how to bring this up. I do love her and it’s a hard pill to swallow trying to think that she might be cheating on me or lying to me again, I’m sorry if any of the grammar in this is bad or hard to read I use text to speech to write this all out because I’m on lunch currently. Thank you for reading this all the way through, please do not bash her. She’s an amazing person and at the end of the day if things aren’t going well some people look for that in others.