My dad consistently lies about his knowledge Filipino language and culture to make him seem better.
Hey everyone, I was wondering if any of you have had this experience. Slight rant sorry.
So basically, I am half Ilocano and 2nd generation. My grandparents met in O'ahu where my dad was born an raised until he moved to the mainland united states in his early 20's.
Simply put, he lies about a lot of Filipino related things.
For example, today my mom saw a picture of biko (rice dessert with brown sugar) on pinterest and showed it to my dad to ask what the name was. My dad straight up lied about knowing what it was and told her it was called "pinas" a word he likely pulled out of thin air or his limited filipino lexicon. Lying. straight. out. the. teeth.
Another example was when me and my brother were cooking lechon kawali. We asked what my mom thought of it and she said that she didn't like it that much because it was too dried out. My dad defended us with, " It's supposed to be that way. Trust me I am the one true Filipino in this house." Ok what the fuck. Thanks I guess.
In general, he just lies about knowing Ilocano, like all the time. We were once at a Filipino bakery in Hawaii and the ladies their were speaking Ilocano. My dad constructed this whole story about how he new every word they were saying and that apparently they were freaking out because someone robbed the cash register. I fully believe he just pulled that out of his ahh. There have been multiple times too when we were near people that were speaking Tagalog and he said he understood them, thinking I would not know the difference between Ilocano and Tagalog. Which I do, after spending some time learning Tagalog.
I think he thinks he can get away with all these lies because I am half white and not raised in Hawaii. But ever since middle school I have done lots of research into my ethnicity and now the façade is up.
Sorry for the rant. Please let me know if you have any similar stories of parents being like this.
