u/IfYouSeeMeSendNoodz

DISCLAIMER: This may be a bit of a long and hectic story. My wife and sister say Im overreacting because men do this all the time. But I honestly believe it’s because of the lack of accountability they face when it happens. I called the GM and he kind of cut me off mid story and said yeah it’s unprofessional and he’ll talk with him about it.

Usually, I drop the car off at the service center. Every single they’ve put the car in the parking lot, i come back and get the keys, and leave. They have NEVER EVER personally driven the car back out to me.

This time we drove separately because we had to do something after so she dropped it off this time while I waited in the lot then we left.

This time, the service department marked my vehicle ready at 11:55 AM. We got there to pick it up at 12:45-ish. The service guy intentionally held it in the garage for an hour. And when my wife went to go get the keys, he personally drove it out of the service garage entrance near the door where the customers come out at. The cars always exit out the side door behind the building.

He proceeded to acknowledge her marriage and said can he still take her out and get her number. She said no obviously.

When she told me, I called the service center 6!!! times to try and speak to just anyone and just say “Hey dont do that” and never got an answer so I went back up to the service center but they just shrug their shoulders and say the manager will be back on Monday @ 7am. So i turn my car around and go back up there and they say manager wont be back until 7 on monday. I didn’t yell or argue i said okay thank you and left. The service guy makes full eye contact with me and turns his back to i guess hide. Then when im in my car driving away, he’s running my car down saying , “wait wait hold on bro”.

As soon as i pull out the lot, the receptionist lady that shrugged her shoulders calls wife from the service phone that previously went unanswered 6 times like 10-15 minutes ago. My number is the primary number on the account. I get all the service texts, because im the one that usually picks it up. They skipped mine on purpose and went to the secondary number to smooth it over and when they found out I was on 3 way they said it’s my wife’s fault because she spoke to him first. He was driving her car! He held the car in the garage for an hour for the purpose of driving it out.

Like I could brush off the asking for number, but it was the whole being a creep then blaming my wife for it.

9 years we’ve been together, married for 1 and it’s never been an issue. We are non-mono. It was fine at first. But I came out as bi, now 2 weeks later she feels like my mannerisms are too feminine and she can no longer take me serious as a dom. But she still loves me. Okay. “Would you be mad if I found another dom?” Is a question i answered when we first started getting into bdsm and it was a no.

Then she tries to clean it up, “No i just meant you don’t try new things.” But thats not what you said. I’ve acted the same way the entire relationship, but now im too feminine to take serious as a dom. I ask, “What mannerisms?” I ask “What do you want out of a dom that i dont give you” and she can’t answer.

It’s my fault though. It’s my fault for letting people in. It’s my fault for letting my guard down. It’s my fault for being open. I won’t make those mistakes again. Don’t let people in, no matter who. Some things are just better to take to your grave.

Mandatory statement: Im not cheating on my wife. We’re non-monogamous and she agreed to let me explore with a guy. Only looking to receive oral. I mentioned to her that I’d prefer a one night stand so there’s no friendship attachment or anything. I already use some dating apps but that’s mostly for finding women. Where would i go to explore this?

Also: Advice going in? Anyone here that’s bi in a non-monogamous relationship that can talk about their first time with a man? How’d it happen?