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Hello! 26m in a relationship with 23f. Im bisexual but my partner is straight, she doesn’t fully know that I am, nor does she know I’ve had relations with men in the past. Through some recent therapy I’ve become more comfortable with my identity. Most of the porn I watch is feminine men, and what I’ve been interested in for awhile now. I don’t want to leave her to explore and I’m happy where I’m at. I just want to share who I fully am, however, she’s stated multiple times she’d breakup with me if I was bi. What should I do? Advice is appreciated!

I don't know how else to put it. For me it's kissing a man with a beard.

I'm going to have my first time with a man. I'm a 24-year-old virgin, although I've done things before. We're both versatile; he's more of a bottom and I'm more of a top. We'll be in a hotel for a few hours. I was thinking of washing myself too, in case we feel like switching roles. My question is, once we're there, should I wash myself just in case? Any other advice? We'll definitely be using condoms and lube.

Ive been thinking about trying the real thing in my ass for the first time. My wife has used smaller toys on me in the past which she enjoys. I've been nervous because my opening is always tight. I enjoy the feeling of being full but the friction sometimes bothers me. Is the friction better with the real flesh and blood? I have a brother in law, mt wife's sister's husband, who would be willing. Ive shared my wife with him on multiple occasions. He is average length but fairly small in girth?

Long story short I guess I had a crash out and used the phrase "sensitive women" when arguing with two users who were women, and I copped a permanent ban for that. I was a bit harsh regarding lesbians who refuse to date bi women *just* because they're bisexual. I believe it's bigoted. Apparently they disagree. Mods told me I'm rude and it's ban worthy that I'm a man that only wants to talk about lesbians (I really don't). I swear I don't hate women or anything I actually like them, even the ones I disagree with? I don't hate anybody. I disavow hate.

I just want to hang out with the bros and have opinions and stuff. I don't care if the bros are like, boys or girls or whatever. Any suggestions for communities outside of the obvious: here?

My wife and I have talked a bit about it and she seems open to the idea of both of us giving someone a blowjob, but I’m not sure precisely how curious I am and wouldn’t know where to start. Do we bring a friend in? Start with a stranger? I just know it would need to include us both. I’m not interested in cheating.

22m this a crazy story bear with me, high-school relationship, we met in my dnd club I was president and dm, we meet again in anime club and I was treasurer. We were playing uno and I saw him laying on his stomach I was compelled to slapped him on the ass hard and yelled "SLAP ASS FRIDAY" ( school tradition for bus 13 kids ) left a perfect hand outline in red skin. He asked me out after the club meet. We then have been on again off again relationship while I've been at college. I have now graduated and had non-stop thoughts about him and I have been looking forward to are texts and I wanna meet him again and maybe move out and share an apartment. Am I being crazy for wanting to settle. You can ask for more information if it helps bring clarity to your advice. Im a 140lb 5'9 inch skinny hairy nerd who loves dnd, cannabis, and Dragons.

Hey this my first time talking about this. I know I’ve always had attraction to male genitalia but I’ve been trying to suppress all these years. This started from me watching TS Porn, Love watching them topping or jerking off. Anyways since my last relationship that ended about two and half years. I’ve been exploring my self I had a few encounters with pre-op TS and honestly it was way more enjoyable than my sexual experiences with women. I topped and bottom and it was amazing. I would say for about the last year, I’ve been really into anal play and gay porn, it’s just something about it that gets me there I can’t explain it plus a guy with nice ass is just great. A guy with nice ass turns me on in a different way. I feel like I’ve been curious for about two years but didn’t act on it. One night I finally took that leap and met up with a guy from Sniffles. Initially I told myself I’m just going over and nothings going to happen. So I meet him at his place. He poured me some wine we talked for a bit got to know each other for bit. I was sitting on a chair away from the bed. He told me to come in the bed. I went over he started undressing me and started giving me oral, I couldn’t believe how bricked up I was lol. I would say it was better than most women. He did it for while and then he wanted me to top him. We kept trying but I kept going soft. So we just laid together in bed, he laid on me and honestly it didn’t feel awkward, we were rubbing on each other the whole time. Then I woke up surprisingly lol he gave me more oral and then I finally got inside of him, and it felt amazing I had to hold back because it was so good and felt myself about to come. We even kiss when I was in him. I held it for as long as I could until I came inside of him and it was an amazing feeling. I have never came so fast before. He was a fem guy and very submissive. Now asking myself how can go back to vaginal intercourse, because this was way more fun and passionate. Plus over the years I have lost my attraction to women like they are visually attractive, but I feel like a lot of women are problematic and I rather not deal with it. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m all over the place lol

I (27m) have recently discovered I was bi sexual about 2 years ago. I always thought I was just a gay man and live as one for most of my life. I very masculine presenting and tend to have a hobbies where there’s only straight men involved and I always find myself falling in love or having crushes on straight men.

So here’s the issue. I notice I tend to bond better with my hetero counterparts and find a lot of those men attractive and romantically interesting. However The issues is in the title, they’re straight men, they do not want another man to be their romantic and sexual partner. It’s very rare when a straight guy would consider you and even more rare if they actually would like a full commitment relationship with you so why do I always fall in love with these straight men? The gays will tell me I have internalized homophobia but simultaneously will tell me it’s no one’s business on who I should/can love but what about you guys, the bi men, did you always like the androgynous gay man or did you always like the hetero straight man?

Do you bi men know what type of guy you’re looking for? What’s our normal? I just need some guidance here

As a white cis bisexual anarchist guy who deeply admires 19th century Transcendentalism and black separatism. I too want to create an ideology of cooperative self-sufficiency for bisexual people and allow asexuals and trans people to do so as well.

My girlfriend (bi) and I have been living together for 2years. She's only been with me since we got together and has mentioned that her wild phase is behind her. I've been bi-curious for a while and it's getting stronger – I fantasize about a no-strings, unhinged night with a guy.

I'm torn. Part of me wants to just go for it discreetly, but I know that's risky and disrespectful. Another part hopes she'll be supportive because she's bi herself. Has anyone been in a similar spot? How did you bring it up? Did it go well, or did it create jealousy/problems? Any advice on opening things up safely, or is this just something I should sit on (or end the relationship over

My understanding is a sissy is like a twink(skinny dude) that dresses and/or acts fem. Lately I’ve been seeing more sissies that doesn’t fit in that box so I’m starting to think I misunderstood what a sissy really was and it’s more of the mindset/act and not the physical build of the person.

I’m a large hairy dude but I DESPERATELY want to be someone’s toy and be a dedicated bottom. To be at the mercy of their desires, a Borderline sex slave basically. I’m not into cross dressing but if a man told me to, I would.

Does that make me a sissy or do I fit into another category? All feedback is appreciated!🖤

I think I might be gay. I’ve had an attraction to men for years, like since I was a teenager. I always figured I was bi because I had an attraction to women too. But here lately, I’m finding that’s not the case. I’ve lost interest in straight porn, it does nothing for me. I don’t find women catching my eye when I’m out and about. But cute guy walks by and yeah. I throw on gay porn and I’m hard as a rock and turned on like you wouldn’t believe. Hell I’ve even found myself thinking about dating men which I’ve never really done before, I found men sexually attractive but never romantically attractive, now I’m constantly thinking of both.

I guess I’m just trying to get some perspective maybe? See what others think. Am I gay? What do I do now?

I’ve (26M) been in a committed relationship with my wife (25F) for 8 years, and married for 2 of those years.

I’ve had fantasies of same-sex encounters since I was a teenager, but suppressed them for most of my life and presented as a cis-het man for all of our relationship. We married young, and I had no previous sexual partners before we got together, so at times I’ve felt really sexually inexperienced in our relationship. She’s asexual and doesn’t have interest in sex often, even though there have been times when her libido was higher and she would initiate more.

I told her about my fantasies, gay porn that I would watch, and that I used dildos several years ago but never thought it would become real until a few months ago and she always thought of me as 100% straight. While on a stressful work trip, I went through a mental health breakdown which ended in a sexual encounter with another man, that occurred without my consent.

Afterwards, I knew I had to tell my wife, but waited a month to process what happened while I found a therapist because I was afraid and didn’t know if it was sexual assault. We talked extensively about what happened, and I’m having to undo a lot of shame around putting myself in such a compromising position, while she is still grappling with what happened and what it means for us. When I first told her, she told me that we would get divorced if I define as bisexual which caused a lot of hesitation/fear for me, and since then she’s been back and forth between being supportive, angry, or thinking I’m just ‘confused’.

She also sees the situation as me cheating with intention, but I see it as both infidelity to hold myself accountable and sexual assault and wish she had more compassion for me than to throw it at me in arguments, but I recognize that she’s hurting too.

To make things worse, a few years ago she asked for an open relationship and I said no because I was afraid it would cause us to break up and she wanted the freedom to explore but I wanted monogamy. I still want monogamy and a healthy, secure relationship with her, yet am torn bc of the shock at what happened and later conversations about her wanting revenge or to cheat back with someone she really likes even though the experience I had was really negative and unwanted.

I’m beginning to accept myself as bi, but have struggled with processing what happened, the thoughts that my wife has of me, and the changing view that I have of my sexuality. I recently came out to one close friend who is an older mentor of mine who I knew had a similar experience to get support as a safe space, and my wife took it really personal and was super embarrassed for someone to know anything about what happened. I wouldn’t tell anyone else outside of that person, and struggle with the idea of anyone even remotely knowing what happened outside of my wife, mentor, and therapist.

I’ve been in therapy for the past few weeks, and am starting EMDR to process what happened in a few days but am really scared of what it may open up for me. I don’t want things between me and my wife to change but they already have and I’m just really afraid I completely ruined our marriage.

I’m hoping that this group could offer support as even months after the encounter, I still feel in shock, and feel lost without a community or other people in my life I feel are safe to talk to because of the element of potential sexual assault, and the stigma of expressing my sexuality as a bisexual man openly while being married to my wife, who I still love.

I’m looking for advice in repairing with her, tips on how I can be more of a loving and understanding partner in a mixed orientation marriage, and ways that I can better understand myself and move on from what happened without shaming myself for my sexual identity.

My wife and I have been together for over 20 years. About 15 years ago she discovered gay porn on my computer and some x-rated emails (no actual hookups) with random guys on CL. Without going into all the details it got extremely ugly for a long time. She accused me of being gay, a fraud, and having deceived her. She threatened to leave multiple times but stayed I think mostly because we had young kids at the time.

I didn't know how to handle it at the time. I knew I wasn't gay so of course I denied it but for her there are no grey areas. If you're looking at gay porn and talking to guys online you're gay, end of story. I couldn't even tell her I was bi or bi-curious. She wouldn't have believed me, would have been just as repulsed, and it would probably have been the tipping point of her leaving and taking the kids. So, instead, I told her that I had a porn addiction and that the porn caused me to go places I never thought I'd go because of the constant need to find a new high. This was literally true but not the full story, which is that while I had grown up feeling 100% heterosexual and had never lost my attraction to women, gay porn opened a gateway in my mind that I might not have ever explored. This is also because I had zero attraction to guys that I would see on the street in everyday life, either romantically or sexually. When I see guys having sex with other guys on screen though, it is an incredible turn on. Now, many years later, I know that it is not just a porn thing, I know that I am bisexual because I am now attracted to certain guys that I see on the street and if I was single I wouldn't hesitate to have sex with them.

As for my relationship with my wife, after going through several rocky years after the porn discovery, it has never been better. We remain very much in love, have a great sex life, and are compatible in almost every way. At this point I honestly don't know what she thinks about my sexuality because we haven't discussed the issue in many years. It's become a "don't ask, don't tell" kind of thing. She doesn't spy on me or search my computer anymore. This is good on the one hand because there's no friction but not good because I would like her to know how I truly feel. I have no intention of cheating on her but I still watch gay porn and I don't know how she would react if it comes out again. I now think our relationship would survive it if I had an honest conversation with her but I think deep down she would rather not know. She probably knows that I am bisexual but would rather pretend that I am not because she can't imagine herself with anyone who isn't completely straight. (She is Gen X. While most Gen X women are open minded about sexuality when it comes to others they are not open minded about it in their own relationships.)

Not sure what to do. If anyone has any insight I would love to hear it.

I’m gay, and recently started dating a bi guy. I have an ex girlfriend and an ex boyfriend. My boyfriend has only ever talked about two ex girlfriends. I know he’s definitely had sex with men, and doesn’t treat me like a woman, but I am curious if he’s dated a man before me, because surely there would be a difference in the dynamic of a same sex couple vs an opposite sex couple? It won’t change anything about how I see him either way, but I’m curious. Is it an okay thing to ask, or does it seem like I’m questioning his attraction to men?

Hey anyone wants to goon and find out if I’m gay please DM me and please have snap. I wanna do butt stuff but only if we both do it!! So please DM and lmk!?!18m

I think we 'the Bi Community,' have been hoodwinked... bamboozled! I haven't been on this platform long but when I read posts on our bi communities, most of ya'll are drowning in some terrible guilt, shame and denial.

I think we've all heard the "well you're bisexual so you're obviously going to cheat" dumbass phrase, but it's actually sad how many of us are taking on the imposter syndrome and just casually rolling with it. Obviously our pallets are 100% wider than a monosexuals, but our integrity and loyalty is existing just like anyone else's.

Do you not think Straight Steve wants to have a MFFFF gangbang? But he's commited to his wife and goes home to her every night. Lucy the Lesbian often finds women chasing after her for her intelligence, attitude and charm; but her body and heart belong to one lucky lady. And Eve fancies the pants off Adam at her office. She's always looking but never touching, as she's in a commited relationship with her BF.

The point is, the terribly fictional monosexual characters above, whether straight, gay, lesbian, etc, all have sexual urges and emotional responses. Do they act on them? No. Because of commitment and the values around it. Do they beat themselves up because those urges or responses have crossed their mind? No. Because those feelings are just natural human biology. Have you never heard a monogamous monosexual publicly speak out and say someone was so attractive but they kept their cool and resisted the urge? Like actually congratulatorily patting themselves on the back for not cheating. Yet us bisexuals are here punishing ourselves in unimaginable ways for meerly having a thought about another person. The double standard that's placed upon us AND welcomed BY US is wild!

Is every straight man attracted to every woman on earth? Nope. Is every straight woman attracted to every man? Nooo. Is every gay man running after every man in this world? NO! So why do a number of bisexuals feel this is the case for themselves? And even worse, why do we accept a monosexual telling us how our sexuality works? It's bizarre!

And let's not get this post twisted; it's not for the bisexuals out there cheating on their partner and gaslighting themselves with the "I'm just exploring" or "I just needed to know so I tried it." The reality is you're EQUALLY as bad as any monosexual cheater. Not sure if you're a cheater? If you DID something WITH someone else and you feel challenged to tell your partner about it... Well, I'm sure you can guess where this is going.

The Straight Train has departed and regardless if you need to travel 1% or 99% of our beautiful journey, you need to ride this Bi Train! And whilst you wait for your train, you're welcome to sit in the Mono-Lounge. You're not a monosexual you say? No no no, this lounge isn't for monosexuals, it's for Monogamy! Because believe me when I say you can still have the perfect partner, the home built on love and the undying supporting ring of those church bells, if you wish! Anddddd if you'd prefer to have a meal before your journey, why not visit our delicious buffet? We're serving a delicious selection of just about everything; no pallet refused!

We're so busy listening to everyone else attempting to define us, we forgot to listen to ourselves. Close your eyes and ears and listen to your heart, your body and your gut; they will get you to where you need to be on our beautiful spectrum. We really are living the best of both worlds hmm? Enjoy your journey my bi bros and girlies x

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