u/IlikeMinecraftboi

Hiya Yanderes, I recently found out about this subreddit and have been curious about it since then.

I've been the type of fellow who tends to live life aware of stereotypes but always keeping an open mind, but that has had an interesting effect, because now when someone behaves... well... like a damn human! I tend to not take issue with it, but when someone does something that conforms with a stereotype, I grow more skeptical.

Can't remember the exact stories featured when I found out about this sub, but they seemed to conform with the whole "Yandere" stereotype. I obviously know that it's more than likely the point that alike minds are in one spot and these stories could just be the most attention grabbing examples, but again, I'm just not sure.

So, I've chosen to come here!

I've had a quick scroll and... yeah, I'm not too shocked; a few exceptions to the stereotypes, but for the most part it does seem like some stereotypes are holding up, so know that I'm going into this acknowledging you're all different and of course I do not mean to be offensive to any individuals.

But now, with that out of the way, onto my coming here.

As with any media with a market, there will be a diverse range of content to appeal to one or more kinks. On a few occasions, the plot of the media will feature a character and an obsessor, the obsessor finds out about the character's fetish, and acts upon it.

And that got me thinking, because fetishes can be a bit of a taboo topic, does the presence of a fetish influence an obsessor to the point where they'd be dissuaded from keeping tabs on them? Or do fanfics not even come close to how much an obsessor may use that to their advantage?

So I open the gates to you all;

Have you ever abandoned an individual because of a taboo romantic/erotic preference? and if so, what kink or fetish was it that made you disregard them?

Or have you ever used their fetish to get substantially closer?

Or if neither has happened, your input may still make for an interesting statistic, I'll reference my own fetish as an example;

IF you found out your target had a fat fetish, what would that change? Would you make yourself larger for them? or try feeding them into the palm of your hand? or try and lead them away from that fetish so it won't interfere with what you had already planned? or would it change nothing at all about how you see them or how you, yourself behaved?

Genuinely curious to know the response to this! whenever this trope comes up, I often think "That's not how that would've happened" but who knows!