My dentist straight up told me my teeth were "a choice" and I haven't been back in two years, how do you find someone who actually doesn't shame you?
This is kind of embarrassing to post but whatever.
About two years ago I went in for a routine cleaning. My teeth aren't perfect, I drink coffee, I went through a rough period where I wasn't taking great care of myself, and my gums had receded a bit. Nothing dramatic, just not Instagram teeth.
The dentist looked in my mouth for maybe ninety seconds and said, and I quote, "well these are the consequences of years of neglect". Then handed me a treatment plan for $4,800 and left the room.
I cried in my car.
I know I need to go back. My teeth haven't gotten worse as far as I can tell but I also have no idea because I've been too anxious to book anything. Every time I think about calling a clinic I just remember that guy's voice.
I've been reading about how to find dentists who are good with anxious patients or people who feel embarrassed about their teeth. Someone mentioned looking for clinics that specifically say they're judgment-free, one person in another thread mentioned a dentist in Winnipeg that apparently their friend who hadn't been in years went to without any issues, which gave me a tiny bit of hope.
But more than anything I just want to know, did anyone else have a bad experience like this and then find somewhere better? How did you get yourself back in the chair? Did you tell the new dentist upfront that you were nervous?
I'm just tired of having this low key anxiety about something I know I need to do.