AITJ for wanting a weekly game night?
My partner and I (24f &29m) are both big nerds, I really like Tabletop games. She often opts to play games solo at her computer.
We bought a house last year, we have no kids and a decent amount of space. One of my main hobbies is playing tabletop wargames. We have a lot of unused space, so when we bought the house, I thought it would be great to host a weekly game night. Locally there are not a lot of public friendly spaces for people to play. We used to have a guy in town that hosted a weekly game night, It was a blast to play the games together and socialize a bit, but sadly he moved away a few years ago. We initially talked about it and she was hesitant but agreed.
The usual night would be 8 people at maximum including my self in the basement. My partner would be upstairs in her gaming room, or upstairs in our living room watching TV.
I love hosting the game-night. Its a highlight of my week and has become a corner stone of the community. I have strict rules for them all to stay in the basement and not go upstairs as to not disturb her. I keep music low, and game night doesn’t ever get rowdy. Everyone that is coming is someone that I personally know, have met before, and vetted. The game night isnt perfect; Occasionally it can go a bit late ~11:00 pm. we often have a few drinks ( max of 3 ), and some of the guys smoke outside and sometimes the smell can follow them when they come back inside.
She recently expressed that she no longer wanted people in the house, saying that it was not what she expected. Her main points were that there were too many people in the house, and too many people that she does not know (the added context is that she has never once over the 6 months of hosting, come down to say hi or taken any initiative to get to know anyone of my friends) . She added she would prefer if no one ever came over. She says the home is her sanctuary and doesn’t want anyone there and that its about her boundaries. From my perspective she has no interaction with anyone that comes over, and she just hates that there are people existing in the house.
TLDR: I have been hosting a weekly game night, and my partner hates people coming over to the house.
So AITJ for wanting to host a game night?