Hello all. I’ve been advised to post this in this sub, however I didn’t want to offend by posting this here. The person who said to post here said she has autism herself and that it is appropriate to post this here? If no, please advise somewhere else. I’ve been pushing my partner to get tested for 6 years. He’s finally admitted he very likely has autism. He just started work as a disability support worker and he sees himself in his autistic clients. The problem is, he is struggling supporting them as he requires my help for the things he is meant to help them with, so I’m always giving him pointers. So he sees himself in them, the constant need for prompting, the constant “I don’t knows”.
So my question is: we’re currently listing things on Facebook marketplace to downsize. I said to him, here’s 2 items to start with in the morning but there is a long list (he has the list on his phone) of all the things we need to clean and sell (ie garden tools and things gathering dust in the garage).
He is in his mid 30s. He disappears and I wonder where he is. He’s sitting on his computer watching YouTube card games. When I asked why he isn’t helping me, he says “I have done all my tasks”. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ referring to the 2 things. Now any adult I’ve been in a relationship with would know to have initiative and keep going with the list. Is this an autism thing? He needs prompting for literally everything. Even if it’s something like taking out rubbish, to wash his own clothes, literally everything. Please Advise 🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️
Edit: For people getting offended (which is why I didn’t want to post here :( sorry! I have a really close friend whose dad has autism and my friend says a lot of my partner’s behaviours are like his dad - like the bad memory with a lot of things and also the needing to prompt and remind). My partner also has aphantasia, which apparently is common with autism? Sorry if you’re getting upset! It wasn’t my intention:( it’s been hard here at home :/