u/Imaginary_Thing_6246

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Hi everyone,

I’m a 19-year-old male, and I realized I was gay about a year ago. Looking back, I’ve always "admired" men, but where I grew up, there is zero education or open discussion about LGBT+ topics. I only figured things out after doing a lot of reading online and watching educational content on YouTube.

I grew up in an abusive and emotionally neglectful household. I also suspect there was significant infidelity between my parents; there are signs, but I’m not willing to dig deeper for the sake of maintaining my peace. Because of this history, I value stability above everything else. I am only interested in stable, long-term relationships (LTRs).

I am currently a freshman in my bachelor’s degree. My plan is to emigrate to an LGBT-positive country for my master’s degree, but that is four years away.

I have two questions:

1. How do I survive these next four years? How do I manage the isolation of living in a place with no community while dealing with my past, and how do I prepare myself for the life I want later?
2. Is a stable LTR actually realistic? Online and on askgaybros sub, it feels like the community is 100% hookup culture. What percentage of gay men are actually looking for something serious and stable? I’m worried that what I value (stability) doesn't exist much in the community.

Any advice or support would be appreciated.

Hi.
I am a pretty late bloomer. I am 19M from a 3rd world country (very Anti-LGBT). I have always 'admired' men. Last yr, I realised that I was just gay. I have been figuring things out a lot lately. I can't come out to anyone else. I will prolly be ki**ed.

"There are many sexualities but there are only Two genders."

I read the above quotation in another subreddit. What's the correct take on this?
In case someone says that to me in the future, how do I respond to it?