u/ImaginationPretend86

I had my first child when I was 20. It was a planned pregnancy and I’ve absolutely loved being a mom up until honestly recently. I’m 23 now with a 3 year old (I’m also currently 37 weeks pregnant with my second and last baby) and I can’t tell if it’s just from the hormones but I’m getting so irritated with my toddler to the point where my favorite part of the day is going to sleep.

My house is a mess and it severely needs to be cleaned but I’m experiencing pelvic girdle pain so I can’t clean the house like it needs without being in extreme pain (I’m still going to because it desperately needs to be cleaned). My toddler won’t stop making the house worse either. We were eating blackberries and my toddler took one blackberry and started wiping it all over the wall today. Yesterday, I made rotel dip for dinner and I sat my food down for one second and then my toddler rubbed the cheese dip all in their curly hair and face.

A couple days before that, I told my toddler it’s time to brush our teeth and it became a huge deal. My toddler refused and hit me multiple times so I had no choice but to hold my toddler down and brush their teeth which ended up with my toddlers gums bleeding because I was having to force the toothbrush in their mouth. I felt like such a shitty parent and person after that but it’s not something that can’t be done.

My toddler refuses to listen and it doesn’t matter what you do like it’s not going to happen without you forcing them to do it. I’m not sure if my pregnancy is causing the tantrums to be worse but I’m just so overwhelmed. I’ve never felt some of the feelings that I’ve felt in the past few days and it crushes my spirit that I’ve felt this way. I know all of the behavior that my toddler is exhibiting is normal and they really can’t control it but tell me what I can do to help myself not be so angry and aggravated with my toddler.

My little brother (18M) is graduating high school and he’s invited the entire family to his graduation, however I (23F) told him that my child (3F) wouldn’t be attending. For some context, I was SA’d as a child by my older half brother (I was 9 and he was 16). Unfortunately for me, the abuse was swept under the rug and my parents allowed him back around me and the rest of their children for years on and off. The last time I saw or spoke to him was when I was 17 and he basically told me that he still fantasizes about me and that when I turn 18 that we should run away to be together. Our half brother got into contact with my brother when the new year started and their relationship has taken off. My younger brother has been open with me about their relationship. This new relationship has made by little brother ask me if I had a problem with him inviting our older brother to his graduation. Despite my uncomfortableness, I said that I’d still show up but my daughter couldn’t come. I will not be sitting anywhere near him and will not be speaking to him. I plan to hug my youngest brother and then leave immediately.

My younger brother texted me today after a big fight broke out and asked why my daughter can’t come if I don’t have a problem with him being there. I’m having a hard time articulating why it’s not appropriate. I also think that he won’t understand why I won’t allow my children around him due to the abuse being minimized by our parents. How do I go about responding to him?

I ordered a crib a few days ago and the estimated arrival date was for today but when I go to track the package it still hasn’t even been shipped out.

Has this happened to anyone else? When can I expect the actual package? I’m due in early June, what’s the likelihood that I’ll actually get my package before then?