u/ImmediateCurrency159

The Becker excel genuinely pisses me off. Why is this thing so hard to use?

Some of the functions don’t even work, instead of being able to just focusing on the question I have to adjust the dumbass excel on my screen first, it also feels so much slower than just using regular excel.

Is it the same on the actual exam?

Age: early 20s
Location: Northeast USA
Ethnicity: Afghan
Education: Accounting student currently pursuing my CPA
Marital status: Never married
Looking for: Marriage - get to know the basics about each other and then involve families
Religiosity: Practicing Sunni Muslim- faith is an important part of my life.

About me:
I’m a pretty family oriented person. Im currently in my last year of school and working toward becoming a CPA. I’m someone who takes my career and education seriously, but I also value family, friendships, and having a peaceful life outside of work. I also want to have a family in a few years so I’m open to not working/ part time after that happens.

I’d describe myself as caring, loyal, a little shy at first, and someone who can be both serious and fun once I’m comfortable. I enjoy reading, fashion, trying new places and drinks, driving, hiking/nature, traveling, and just spending quality time with people I’m close to.

I think a good marriage should have friendship, communication, mutual respect, emotional maturity, shared values and also be a good support system for both spouses.

What I’m looking for
I’m looking for someone who is serious about marriage, not casual dating or an endless talking stage.

Background:
Ideally, I’d like someone who is Afghan or from a similar cultural background. Having a similar upbringing and understanding of family and cultural values is important to me.

Religion:
I’m looking for someone who is practicing Sunni Muslim and wants Islam to be an important part of his marriage and future family. I’m looking for someone who takes his deen seriously while still being balanced, kind, educated, and open-minded.

Career/education:
I’m particularly interested in someone who is educated and established in a professional career. Ideally, he works in a field such as accounting/finance, law, medicine/healthcare, engineering, technology/CS, or another comparable professional field.

I’m ambitious myself, so I’d like someone who is similarly motivated and has goals for his career and future. I don’t necessarily need someone in the exact same field as me, but I do want someone who understands the importance of education, professional growth, and financial stability.

Personality:
I’m looking for someone who is:
Kind and respectful
Emotionally mature
Loyal and family-oriented
Confident without being arrogant
Ambitious and hardworking
Communicative and emotionally available
Practicing and serious about his faith
Able to have fun and not take himself too seriously

Physical attraction obviously matters too, and I’d prefer someone around my age or somewhat older.

If you think we could be compatible, feel free to message me with your age, location, background, religiosity, education/career, and what you’re looking for.

*If you just want to waste time pls don’t dm me.

I know most Muslims view marriage and having kids as going together, and I know having children is encouraged in Islam. But are they really necessary?

I’ve asked a lot of older family members why they chose to have kids, and the answer is usually something along the lines of wanting someone to take care of them when they’re older.

As someone who works with money and loves investing, I don’t really see that as a reason for me personally. I plan on saving for retirement, and once I’m married, our pooled money will be enough. So financially, I don’t think that’s something I’d have to rely on my kids for nor do I want to.

I’m also the oldest daughter, so I’ve seen firsthand how difficult raising kids can be. I don’t think many people truly realize how much work and sacrifice it takes. Of course, having a family around you later in life sounds nice, but isn’t it a bit selfish to have children mainly because you don’t want to be lonely?

Also, I look at the state of the world and wonder if it’s fair. If I ever had kids, I’d want to give them the best life possible, but every country seems to have its own problems.

I’m not thinking about marriage anytime soon,but this is something I’ve always wondered about. People always say that as you get older, you naturally start wanting kids and that it’s biological. Is that actually true?

For those who were unsure when they were younger, what changed your mind? If you always knew you wanted kids, when did you know?

Is it normal for me to expect a guy to know how to fix certain issues like car problems for example or fixing things around the house, knowing directions, and overall just being someone who can naturally solve problems and carry himself with confidence in everyday life?

I've noticed that my dad, uncles, and even some older coworkers generally seem more capable and confident than a lot of guys around my age. I don't know if that's because I'm comparing grown men with decades of life experience to younger men, or if practical life skills just aren't as common anymore.

Speaking from a more traditional POV, when discussing marriage it's often assumed that a woman should know how to cook, clean, and manage a household, etc. So is it unreasonable to expect men to also bring their own set of skills to the table such as being resourceful, able to handle problems, and take initiative when something goes wrong?

I'm curious if my expectations are too high or if other people feel the same way.

I’m 20F and have suffered from psoriasis since I was 10.

It use to be on my scalp only but then it spread to my body. I probably have about 10% coverage including scalp but since my scalp is so bad, my derm told me that we can discuss biologics in about a month once I try another a non steroid option in order for my insurance to approve a biologic. I have tried all the topicals, diet, etc.

The issue is that I have heard so many horror stories of people saying they are getting cancer later in life after using biologics for so many years. This really scares me since I’m only 20 and I will probably be on them for life. Idk which one is scarier, psoriasis or cancer, I’m genuinely lost.

I just want to live a normal life and have kids in a few years but idk if I will make it there to be honest. I’ve also been experiencing pain in my finger joints so idk if this is psoriatic arthritis or if it’s something else.

Is there anyone here who has been on biologics for 20+ years? How has your experience been? What would you do in my situation?

I have no one to talk to this about. I would appreciate any advice/support!

Has anyone here married someone with an autoimmune/skin condition?

Would this affect how you view a potential if everything else was good? Is this something that should be disclosed prior to marriage ?

Some examples are eczema, psoriasis, lupus, etc.

People always say you’re supposed to find your soulmate in college/ university. I’m graduating in a few days and he couldn’t locate me unfortunately.😕

How bad is this? Am I cooked?

I use LinkedIn a lot and mostly treat it as a professional networking platform, so I don’t think much about having men added there even though I keep my other social media accounts private and girls only.

That said, I notice a lot of Muslim men frequently liking women’s posts on there, I don’t ever really do this and only interact with my female friends posts.

Im only 20 and not really looking to get married right now but I’m just curious how others see this. Is this normal professional networking behavior, or can it sometimes be a red flag when evaluating someone for marriage/serious intentions?

Obviously, I know doing this on apps such as Instagram or TikTok is very unattractive for either gender but I’m just curious how people see it on LinkedIn since it’s a professional platform.