u/ImpatientlyBurning

They are some of the most unregulated people I have encountered. Being brown means, to them, that I have no control over or right to my own autonomy. My "no" gets ignored. My personal space is invaded. They feel entitled to my property, skills, time, resources.

White people love ignoring or erasing me but if I have headphones on minding my business, they get mad. How DARE I "ignore" them?? They cannot handle not being centered. Like their sense of value comes from excluding you while being desperate for your attention and approval.

Their version of "ignoring" is paying attention to everything you do, denying your humanity but watching you 24/7 out of the corner of their eyes. So they assume you minding your business is the same thing because they project and assume you are as barbaric as they are. Can never have some peace because they make it their mission to destroy yours/mine.

Have you ever smiled in public? White people hate smiling minorities. But if you stop smiling, they get mad and expect you to comfort them because they refuse to self regulate.

The whole idea of whiteness is narcissism so they will never self regulate or get better.

If I do not act in a way they want me to be: fawning over them, being subservient, being an "incompetent minority", being a pushover, I have to be destroyed.

Someone posted asking people if they are agoraphobic. It does feel like it. My nervous system does not feel safe living around whites because they feel entitled to unrestricted access.

I have looked into research studies that prove how whites see not white people as objects. Ex. Walking on the sidewalk and they expect you to move out of the way.

No means no. Minorities are not objects. We do not exist to be their punching bags and receptacles. So much energy wasted trying to survive these cowardly losers.

No such thing as "THE CLASS WAR", no such thing as white "allies". Whites DO NOT have the right to INVITE THEMSELVES to the "anti racist club".

Cannot even escape whites here.

Mods, please feel free to take this down if it is inappropriate.

It is hard to be nice when you are physically and culturally erased.

It is hard to be nice when your "no" is ignored constantly (usually because white people have a consent problem).

It is hard to be nice when you are kind but get treated like a wild animal constantly.

It is hard to be nice when I deal with people who want to be me but without the daily struggle it takes to be me.

It is hard to be nice when whites and their worshippers intentionally misunderstand you to justify abusing and k*lling you.

It is hard to be nice when your work and personal space are stolen from you.

It is hard to be nice when I am profiled and have negative traits projected onto me.

It is hard to be nice when my people are fetishized or demonized by those who do not see us as human.

It is hard to be nice when the same ones who want me gone try to lecture me on my own background and language.

Even after all the inequality, abuse, erasure, you are expected to comfort the abuser. I have been shamed in so many different situations for not comforting the same ones who want me to stop existing. I still try to be kind but I will not put in effort for those who want me d*ad.

At my worst, I am still better than colonists and other abusers at their best. I am too hard on myself but I am just human. The same ones who treat me badly could not survive a day in my place.

First post here.

My question: Why do narcissists and similar dysfunctional types copy your words/hobbies/behaviors specifically in front of you (sometimes with an audience)?

As if they need you to watch them steal from you.

Ex. You are at work, a dinner, an event and they say something you said word-for-word in front of others. Or you find out they have been copying your personality or way you dress to win people over. Honestly, anyone who buys their copy is not someone I want to interact with anyway. The copy cannot compete with the original in this case.

One thing I noticed is they cannot keep it up for long and they never keep people around forever.

(Controversial title but I did not know what else to put)

I am MENA but Afro Think Tank on YouTube is one of the BIPOC content creators I watch. I used to watch him because of his criticisms of racism and whiteness. His older videos were about detaching from European thinking and embracing cultural pride.

Not a fan of his newer videos where he spends more time congratulating "good" white people. He centers white people too much in his videos and it feels like he is trying to appeal to them now. Even in his videos on other cultures, he ends his videos with clips of white people talking about those cultures. Instead of the people from those cultures.

Some of the comments call him out on this.

The AI thumbnails are terrible too.

I do not care if white people "wake up". I will never trust them and they have no reason to expect me to.

White people are more offended that you want distance from them (because of their narcissistic abuse mentality) than they care about...not acting in an abusive way towards people from other backgrounds.

I do not care about "the good ones". They are not that good, they just do the bare minimum and get rewarded for it.

Tired of the finger wagging: "you listen here, buddy", "stop generalizing, bud", "not all of us are like that". I only get spoken at like a dog that acted out...

Enough with the defensiveness. History has given us enough reasons to not trust them. They have such date r*pist aura. Not wanting POC to have the option to say no. They do not get to decide how others react. They do not get to play victim about "generalizing" when they generalize all of us with projections (which are their own negative traits).

Not part of the post (random part I am adding):

Also Reddit is a r*cist hellhole and I was banned for three days for responding to a comment here explaining my experiences with discrimination. Not by the mods here but Reddit itself. I quoted what someone said to me by a white woman and Reddit’s filter saw that as something worth banning. We cannot even be in our own spaces without these people invading, feeling ownership, feeling entitled to micromanage. If I am not being demonized, I am being fetishized.

I saw a post on another sub but it was too white-centric. Thought it would be better to ask a question here.

How do you deal with the automatic assumption that you are wrong/dangerous/guilty/incompetent/suspicious? (Usually by the same people who are those things.)

Even if you have all the receipts, people will choose not to believe you because you are from a different background than them. If it comes out of white mouths...suddenly it becomes "believable".

To hear you means to humanize you and they do not want to do that.

They are worse racists than the overt and vocal ones. Most of what they do is fake and conditional. If you act in a way they do not like, their "support" vanishes and is replaced by open hatred. They see us as pets and tools, not people with free will.

One of their biggest problems is thinking they are not racist. Savior complex is the neighbor of abuse. No one has tone checked or scolded me more than white leftists. They get so angry when they assume they have been criticized by those they want to lord over (us).

"Are you implying...?" or "I think what you mean to say..." or feeling the need to argue or "dominate" POC instead of...listening.

So much gaslighting.

Too many times, they try to speak for me or put words in my mouth.

No, class is not more important than race.

That is all.

(Physical and psychological violence)

I left a violent place to go somewhere I thought would be better. It has another form of violence. More insidious and covert. The violence where I was from was at least more open and honest.

There are too many people (white and self hating whiteworshipping notwhite) who do not work on themselves and need to drag you down with them. To anyone reading this, do not react.

Had to deal with this at work, in public, in different social situations. Online and offline spaces.

This world is full of hateful people who want you dead. They project their problems onto you to avoid working on themselves. When they bother you, they want you to react and give them energy so they feel important (they are not). Or they push you to react negatively so they can justify killing you or blaming you.

Push forward and do what you need to do to succeed.

You do not owe anyone energy or a reaction. Hopefully someone reading this will realize you need to push down your ego. You do not actually have to do anything with people who are emotionally beneath you and feel powerful from abusing others.

Walk away if you can because they are barely a background character. It is not your fault that they chose to abuse you. They do not see you. You do not owe anyone understanding, forgiveness, or your energy. Just do not make the mistake I made by losing so much time to self blame.

There was a better version of this in my head when I was thinking of it earlier.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they yell at or silence people who are not white for not playing along with their narrative.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they ignore us and talk over us (while stealing from us).

Yes, they are so “empathetic” with their passive aggression and micro aggressions.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they yell and snap at us for disagreeing and treating us like objects.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they pretend to care about our causes but never treat us like actual people.

Yes, they are so "empathetic" when they go to protests to post on TikTok for their friends but never want to change things in a real way. (Only the image matters, they do not want to lose privilege)

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they want you to make your culture palatable to them so they can whitewash it.

Yes, they are so “empathetic” when they get angry seeing minorities SMILING in public.

Even the most "empathetic" white leftist is afraid of being treated how they and their people treat not white people. They do not want to lose their privilege. Their "superiority" is a lie.

Our lives and bodies are a game to them. "Empathetic" my ass with their creepy lipless grins. What they have is not “empathy”, it is narcissism mixed with paternalism. I have had all of these happen to me. When I call out racist behaviors, I get called "racist" or "obsessed" with them. They obsess over us. I do not want to be easy to consume for their comfort. I would die first.