u/Important_Inside_403

I’m exhausted.
fully ND family of 5. I’m tired of the advice to burn the energy off “.. to put my kid in sports.. proprioception.. quiet time… routine.. clean diet.. therapy, meds, etc.. nothing helps.

My youngest 2 constantly make noise.. fighting or playing.. one is hyperactive and explosive.. he barks orders at everyone, throws stuff at me, bounces off any surface he finds, screams and does what he wants despite consequence.. refuses to do anything he doesn’t feel like doing, hyperfixates and is just miserable 75% or more of his wake hours.. anytime he’s around the whole room has a more chaotic and intense vibe.. I can take him out.. he can burn it off.. and then he’s just worse after.. we do grocery pickup, stopped doing story time, rarely leave the house because he is dangerous and impulsive and ruins every fun plan we have.. he was freaking out about a leaf that he lost at the roller coasters last weekend.. (yes he’s audhd, pda.. etc) the other one is just a button pusher.. who gets bored and makes sure to set off the older one when he gets bored and then who goes on chant to drown out the older boy.. and is picking up on his behaviours.. all while the teen gets pushed into responsibilities they dont need to be carrying because I cant and dont have a strong enough nervous system to do it all on my own and our family has barely any outside support. No family nearby, cant keep friends (probably due to my unstable middle child..)

my family would match a super nanny family at this rate.. I can’t redirect them, I can’t help them manage their energy.. they’re essentially overloaded Duracell batteries that have mini explosions all day… get recharged and repeat the cycle..

I just want to give up.. I think I already have.. I have lost who I am.. or who I wanted to be.. and I’m in pure survival mode..
I’m so tired of pushing a ball uphill that just keeps rolling on top of me.. and I know it’s only going to be getting worse.
I’ve found myself addicted to my screen to disassociate when stressed and Info obtaining for hours that go no where.. I’m spending 6-8 hours a day gathering info that is of no use to me..
I don’t feel like i can turn any of this around.

3 year old, daily constipation over a year. Including rectal prolapse. I’ve noticed something in X-rays he’s had to assess impaction.. he appears to have a lateral hip tilt. Is there anything that could be done to help him correct his posture.. maybe it’s affected his motility?

I suck at meds.. I forget.. frequently.. sometimes days at a time.. I’ve tried to do timers, and reminders and such.. but I just can’t.. part of it might be my rebellious side.. of “I do what I want!” Or the age old “my body knows what it’s doing”.. I tend to fight a lot of what I’m supposed to do..

That said.. is forgetfullness, iron deficiency (ferritin 31, sat of 11%) after 3 months in of supplementing enough of a reason for an infusion?

I can process the iron fine.. but I did do it seriously for those 3 months.. away from food and drink by 2 hours.. 2 ferrous gluconate tablets a night.. and my ferritin when up 15 points.. but my sat down 1%.. doc said it was fine and I could keep going if I wanted… I tried.. but were 4 months into the 6 months before retest. And I’ve taken it maybe 1/4 of the time… I’m sure it hasn’t budged.. I felt frustrated.. I didn’t feel different, my hairs still coming out.. and after taking 3 months to see such small progress it was disappointing and felt useless. I switched to bigltcinate capsules and they taste like butt and get stuck in my throat.. which doesn’t help matters. I don’t want to lie and say I was 100% complacent to the supplements… but I’m bummed it went hardly anywhere..

I started taking vitamin D and a methylated b complex as D tested in the suboptimal range.. but that too tastes terrible… and I don’t see myself keeping up with it for long..

I want a more natural detergent, but one that actually gets the sweat smell out of clothes.
Currently use all free and clear.. and it sucks.. even with vinegar I can’t cut through it. Is there an alternative liquid scent free detergent that doesn’t cost a fortune but actually works?