u/Impossible_Pen_6120

I (20f) have been dating this guy (22m) for about 6 months and I’m feeling a bit confused about the situation and wanted outside perspectives.
Yesterday we had a conversation about where we are going and he told me he doesn’t feel emotionally ready for a relationship, but said he cares about me a lot, doesn’t want to lose me, and that I’m one of the best things that’s happened to him.
He got very emotional during this he was crying, and said he loves me and he doesn’t want to hurt me and that he understands if I decide to end things, even though it would hurt him.

I told him that i also didn’t want to end things and that maybe we can change some things to help me feel more secure in the situation (like him initiating more dates, not only hanging out at his place because it sometimes feels like it becomes mostly physical, and being more consistent with reply times). He said he would work on those things. He also said he wanted to make sure I actually want to stay because he didn’t want to be unfair to me.

I don’t know what to do, i mean i really care about him and i love him but how long is this sustainable for,
I’m just so confused, am i being stupid for staying?

I (20f) have been dating this guy (22m) for about 6 months and I’m feeling a bit confused about the situation and wanted outside perspectives.
Yesterday we had a conversation about where we are going and he told me he doesn’t feel emotionally ready for a relationship, but said he cares about me a lot, doesn’t want to lose me, and that I’m one of the best things that’s happened to him.
He got very emotional during this he was crying, and said he loves me and he doesn’t want to hurt me and that he understands if I decide to end things, even though it would hurt him.

I told him that i also didn’t want to end things and that maybe we can change some things to help me feel more secure in the situation (like him initiating more dates, not only hanging out at his place because it sometimes feels like it becomes mostly physical, and being more consistent with reply times). He said he would work on those things. He also said he wanted to make sure I actually want to stay because he didn’t want to be unfair to me.

I don’t know what to do, i mean i really care about him and i love him but how long is this sustainable for,
I’m just so confused, am i being stupid for staying?

I (20f) have been dating this guy (22m) for about 6 months and I’m feeling a bit confused about the situation and wanted outside perspectives.
Yesterday we had a conversation about where we are going and he told me he doesn’t feel emotionally ready for a relationship, but said he cares about me a lot, doesn’t want to lose me, and that I’m one of the best things that’s happened to him.
He got very emotional during this he was crying, and said he loves me and he doesn’t want to hurt me and that he understands if I decide to end things, even though it would hurt him.

I told him that i also didn’t want to end things and that maybe we can change some things to help me feel more secure in the situation (like him initiating more dates, not only hanging out at his place because it sometimes feels like it becomes mostly physical, and being more consistent with reply times). He said he would work on those things. He also said he wanted to make sure I actually want to stay because he didn’t want to be unfair to me.

I don’t know what to do, i mean i really care about him and i love him but how long is this sustainable for,
I’m just so confused, am i being stupid for staying?