u/Impressive_Author_39

Hi all. So I recently signed as an actress with an agent. For context. My family's views on me acting are kinda unclear. They weren’t huge fans of the idea so instead of going to uni for acting I went for Journalism instead which was also something I wanted at the time and acting was kind of an 'on the backburner 'dream. Now though my parents attitudes have changed slightly to 'we're not huge fans of it but if it's something you want go for it' Now that I'm in it I'm realizing a lot of the workshops cost like max 250 dollars, (that's the highest I've seen) I don't have that kind of money on account of me still looking for a regular day job to at least create supliment income. I attend a workshop once a month where attendance is by donation but I'm kinda wondering if maybe I should attend the Canadian Film Center's actor conservatory program. Like maybe I'll get more work if I have a degre-ish? Is the program good. Id this a good idea or am I just over-panicking?

So I was praying at home in my room and my mom calls me to do my hair. I can't respond because I'm praying but I make it clear I'm praying by saying Allahu Akbar and all the other things you're supposed to say out loud. Even I finish praying and go downstairs my dad lectures me about how even if you’re praying id your parents are calling you you should still answer, then proceeds to say that there’s a hadith that says that , which I don't know if I believe that because I have never heard it. But is that actually true? Kinda thought it was one of those that some Muslim parents tend to do where they'll quote a hadith or Quran verse to religiously/emotionally blackmail their kids into doing what they want.

Living together before marraige doesn't seem like a bad idea but why is it framed like it is?

I've always heard that living together before marraige is apparently bad but it sounds better than the alternative of getting married and then realizing way later that you're not compatible under the same roof because od different habits like how you handle chores, noise, etc. Those sound like little things at first but overtime I assume that can lead to the dissolution of a marraige. There's also the fact that they (your partner) could be really good at playing polite goody-twp-shoes for the public and be less than charming when you're at home but by the time you realize that you can't really leave because divorce is so stigmatized in Islam anyway. All this to say that I kind of feel like living together before marraige at least when the engagement is official if not before that is a good litmus test to see if you can even stand living under the same roof with the person you want to marry in the first place. It's all well and good to want to marry them but when the reality hits once you're actually married but for all you know they could be a terrible partner/person and you wouldn't have known that since you never got a chance to see who they actually are. Which you could have easily figured out if you lived with them beforehand. So I guess what I'm saying is why is living together before marraige framed like it's so bad when really there are more benefits to that than harms?

So apparently wearing a tank top in my own house is 'inappropriate ' according to my parents. I would understand if I was wearing it outside but I'm at home around family so I don't really see the problem.

Like a lot of people in this subredit I grew up being taught religion in a way that felt like it was just something you did because Gof said so, which like yeah but there was never really a why explained with it that didn't feel like an 'us vs the others' situation. I feel like if you’re just doing it without understanding the deeper why to it all you’re just kinda blindly doing it without understanding it y'know? And God says you're not supposed to hust blindly folliw the religion without understanding After going through my questioning phase in my early 20's, (mainly 21, I'm 23 now) I figured out the deeper why's behind things but realize it's a lot easier to be religious on my own than around family because around family it feels performative and robotic like a chore.