Just wondering how people found doing a third with a small gap. Not sure if I want a third or not but my body be getting old so not much time to dilly dally.
I'm already off the fence, but I was listening to a podcast today that talked about the exhaustion of modern choices, specifically spending so much time and energy making the "right choice". The guest host was defending an idea that rather than sitting on trying to make the right choice, instead make a choice and make it right. As a bit of a self identified perfectionist type who hates being "wrong" it resonated.
As somone off the fence with 2 kids, ruminating a bit on why I fence sat for so long it felt like a thought that might have helped me few years ago. I put so much pressure on myself to make the right choice vs just making the choice right for me.
On reflection I think in my case, it's unlikely i would have made a wrong choice, even though it felt like it. That's simply because the choice would have become right, like it has.
It's a bit wishy washy, but maybe it'll help somone!
I'm feeling a bit bummed about being an old mom and trying hard to make peace with my past choices that lead me here. Objectively I'm not even that 'old' - 33 +35 at birth and Id say the statistical norm in my area is first kid at 29- 31, 2nd at 32-33 so like that's basically the same. None of my direct large peer group had a baby prior to 30. Certainly noone I know had a baby before mid 20s.
We had such a nice mothers day and I can't help but reflect my mom was only 23 with me and she's such a young grandparent and how wonderful that is. I had only just finished school at 23!
I think it's this massive age shift that's occurred in a single generation and I'm like worried about what I'm missing out on down the line.
I fence sat for most of my early 30s, and whilst I logically know I wasn't ready I can't help but wish I'd had them both those couple years earlier. I also know so many people having babies at 35, 37, 39 etc and i don't think sad thoughts for them at all, so I don't know why I care about it for me so much. I met my husband young so I can't give the like 'waited for the right man' thing.
I dunno - I guess I'm like are other 30s moms feeling like this? Just me?