Anyone have any successful stories where someone’s partner cheated on them but they decided to stay together to make things work? What was your first steps to fixing things?
For context my bf cheated on me and I want to make things work out but we don’t know where to start on our healing journey. Advice needed please.
What are some successful stories where someone’s partner cheated on them but they decided to stay together to make things work? I’m really trying to fix thingss (I didn’t cheat, he did) but we both don’t know where to start so we can begin our healing journey. I can forgive, but I ain’t Jesus so I don’t forgive him 100% yet. And no way do I forget shit either, I’m trying to move on but it’s just so hard when I’m use to running away from a problem instead of working through it.
What’s some helpful advice for me? The person that was cheated on lmaoooo. My self esteem is so low :(
I went to the dead bedroom community there for a while with my boyfriend (25M) and I’d (25F) sex life. When we first got together he mentioned to me that his sexual desire is..like not there. Something about him mentally wanting me but physically the connection is not “connecting”. Well, caught him texting other girls so yeah that’s a big factor. He claims it’s self sabotage because he’s never had something so ‘peaceful’ with me that he just goes down a rabbit hole and texts other girls for no reason.
I love this guy, I really really do. He handles my BPD episodes very well and if anything he’s a great support system with helping me out with my mental condition. He takes me to my therapy appointments, attends them so he can understand me better, the reinsurance is amazing!!
But after catching him two weeks ago cheating, though we’ve been working on each other, he’s back to guarding his phone (since I got on it without asking him, otherwise how tf am I gonna catch his ass cheating?) and we’ve haven’t had sex in a month, he doesn’t touch me intimately anymore (btw these are huge attractions to me, touch is my love language), and I’m tired of being rejected. Though we are working on things, and have been doing well aside from the touching aspect- is this even worth it?
He’s about to get 50/50 custody of his children and I rather make a decision on how to handle the healing part sooner so there’s no turmoil with children going to be added into the picture. I don’t want to create a toxic environment for the children.