u/Independent-Bag-669

My girlfriend (23F) and I (23M) have been dating for 4 years now, and I plan on proposing to her next month. We’ve talked about marriage, our life plans, and she really wants to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me.

Last weekend, I had my birthday, and I invited my sister (22F) over to celebrate. My girlfriend and my sister are close friends, so the party was good, we had karaoke night, drinks, pizza, it was fun.

My sister does get drunk pretty easily, and by the end of the party it was obvious she was pretty drunk. We were all talking and joking around, and then the topic switched to parent loss (my mom passed away 12 years ago, and my dad took his own life a few months later). The topic was pretty heavy, and I also got a bit emotional about it, and my girlfriend was consoling me.

My sister then talked about how I was there for her during that traumatic time. Now keep in mind, my sister was extremely drunk here and was stumbling on her words. She then said she always loved me when she was a kid, but seeing how I stepped up after we lost our parents, that’s when she fell in love with me, and that she knows it’s wrong but she can’t help it. She then said that’s why she’ll never marry because it wouldn’t be fair to her husband because her heart would be some place else.

There was a lot more she said that night but I was pretty drunk and those were the main things I remembered. My sister then just crashed on the couch and fell asleep.

My girlfriend obviously was pretty pissed the next day, and my sister apologized and I thought that would be the end of the drama. However, my girlfriend now wants me to go no contact with my sister, at least for the next year.

Am I wrong for thinking my girlfriend is overreacting? Sure, what my sister said was a bit weird, but she was literally drunk out of her mind and did not have control of her mind. I told my girlfriend she should be ashamed of shaming people who had traumatic pasts. My girlfriend has her mom and dad who are both still healthy and alive, she has no idea what it’s like to lost parents at such a young age. My girlfriend apologized and broke down in tears and I felt bad and had to console her. Was I wrong?

My girlfriend (23F) and I (23M) have been dating for 4 years now, and I plan on proposing to her next month. We’ve talked about marriage, our life plans, and she really wants to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me.

Last weekend, I had my birthday, and I invited my sister (22F) over to celebrate. My girlfriend and my sister are close friends, so the party was good, we had karaoke night, drinks, pizza, it was fun.

My sister does get drunk pretty easily, and by the end of the party it was obvious she was pretty drunk. We were all talking and joking around, and then the topic switched to parent loss (my mom passed away 12 years ago, and my dad took his own life a few months later). The topic was pretty heavy, and I also got a bit emotional about it, and my girlfriend was consoling me.

My sister then talked about how I was there for her during that traumatic time. Now keep in mind, my sister was extremely drunk here and was stumbling on her words. She then said she always loved me when she was a kid, but seeing how I stepped up after we lost our parents, that’s when she fell in love with me, and that she knows it’s wrong but she can’t help it. She then said that’s why she’ll never marry because it wouldn’t be fair to her husband because her heart would be some place else.

There was a lot more she said that night but I was pretty drunk and those were the main things I remembered. My sister then just crashed on the couch and fell asleep.

My girlfriend obviously was pretty pissed the next day, and my sister apologized and I thought that would be the end of the drama. However, my girlfriend now wants me to go no contact with my sister, at least for the next year.

Am I wrong for thinking my girlfriend is overreacting? Sure, what my sister said was a bit weird, but she was literally drunk out of her mind and did not have control of her mind. I told my girlfriend she should be ashamed of shaming people who had traumatic pasts. My girlfriend has her mom and dad who are both still healthy and alive, she has no idea what it’s like to lost parents at such a young age. My girlfriend apologized but said regardless of circumstances what my sister was extremely weird and that I need to put distance with her.

Is my girlfriend overreacting? At this point, I’m having doubts even proposing to her. I’ve already bought the ring and hired a photographer and everything, but I’m just having doubts now about my girlfriend.

My girlfriend (24F) and I (24M) have been dating for 6 years, and I was going to propose to her next month, and had even bought the engagement ring. We talked a lot about marriage and our life plans,and I really got the impression that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.

Well last week, we were both drinking and got into a little argument, it was nothing major, it was just about finances and where to invest it. Well during that argument she got a bit exasperated and said she could so much better than me if she wanted to, and that she doesn’t know why she’s still with me. Immediately after that, she apologized and I told her it’s alright.

For context, I always knew she was out of my league, she is really pretty, gets a lot of attention when we’re out, and has even rejected advances from her coworkers. To be honest, I sort of felt insecure about it at the beginning of our relationship, but I worked through my insecurities. I thought I had gotten over it, but when we she told me last week she could do better than me, I guess I sort of lost my feelings for her.

It’s been a week since she said that, and she’s been apologizing a lot and even crying, but I told her I just don’t want to be with her anymore. She’s said she’ll go sober, go to therapy, do anything, but I told her I don’t really care, she should have no trouble finding a new man after me, someone who’s better looking than me and earns a lot more. It’s probably best for her too if we break up, so she can be satisfied in a relationship.

Our lease expires in 3 months, but I’ve started moving my stuff out and am living at my sister’s place currently. Every time I go back to my apartment to get my stuff, my girlfriend cries a lot and apologizes for what she said, but I don’t know if I have any feelings for her anymore. Am I wrong for calling this relationship off?

A few years ago, I was diagnosed with a terminal illness and I only have a year or so left now. My son (32M) has been my caretaker these past two years, my daughter (34F) meanwhile is married with 2 kids and lives in a different state. She occasionally visits me once or twice a year.

I am currently speaking with an attorney about my will and estate. Normally I would have done it 50-50 for my son and daughter, but my son really has gone above and beyond these past two years, so I’ve been thinking of leaving him about 95%. I plan on leaving 5% to my daughter. I also plan on leaving my house to my son.

I just think my daughter is set in her life, she’s married and has kids. She might feel hard done by the amount I leave her, but she wasn’t there for me these past couple of years. I don’t blame her for not being there because she has her own life. 5% still leaves her $100k, which isn’t nothing.

My son meanwhile, he’s been unlucky in his romantic life, he’s been cheated on by his ex fiancée, but despite that, he’s still willing shifted jobs to be near me and be my caretaker. I never got the sense that he was angling for the inheritance, he’s never once asked me about it.

Am I wrong in what I’m doing?