u/IndependentAngle4304

I'm looking for some advice from people who have struggled with alcohol themselves.

One of my closest friends has been drinking heavily, including while on medication, and it's started affecting her health quite seriously. I'm really worried about her, but I also know that I can't force someone to get sober if they aren't ready.

For those of you who are in recovery or have been through something similar:

What finally helped you decide to stop drinking?

Were there any coping strategies that genuinely made a difference in the early days?

What did friends or family do that actually helped you, and what made things worse?

Is there anything you wish someone had said to you when you were at your lowest?

How can I support her without enabling her or pushing her away?

I'm also struggling with setting boundaries. I don't feel comfortable going to events that revolve around drinking anymore because I'm constantly worried about her, but I don't want her to feel abandoned either.

I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences. Thank you.

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