u/Independent_Lie_5751

For context I just had a baby 6 weeks ago, her and my partner do not get along and she does make it known. I can admit that me and my partner do have issues in our relationship and he is in no way perfect, (no that does not mean there is domestic violence or any cheating) she has said her reasoning for disliking him is because of how he has treated me in the past before, ironically she’s treated me worse and he dislikes her in part because of childhood experiences I’ve told him about and how she takes care of her other children currently.

She will make side comments about him to other people, get angry when he says he wants things done a certain way with our child, gossip about him to others, she went as far as sending me messages about him while I was in labor and after a family member said that the baby looked like him she scolded them for saying it and said “ don’t ever say that ___ looks like that f u cker”. I’ve also caught her repeatedly taking things he says out of context or purposely leaving things out to start a fight between me and him and it’s pretty clear it’s done on

purpose.

Today she said he was not welcome in her home and me and my child were welcome, he is not. I can tell his feelings are hurt by it. He has said he isn’t comfortable with her being around anymore. What do I do?. She says all the time his family is not family to my child and that because some of them dislike me they shouldn’t be around ever ( they live very far away anyways) but does not feel like the same standard should be held to her.

I just really want to move from where I’m at ( Dfw area in texas) it’s so expensive and really that’s just one of many factors that make me wanna leave. I’m not sure where to start tho. My family is from here and they are comfortable staying here and I am not.

I 100% expect to get judgement from this post, but I had my daughter 27 days ago and I’ve been having sex since around 2 ish weeks postpartum. We have not been using condoms.. we have been using the pullout method. The only symptom I have is a little pink brown spotting when I wipe the last couple days, not after sex just in general & I’m not in any pain or anything.

TL;DR

For starters it would be me, my baby and my child’s father moving with my mom, her 5 other kids and her boyfriend. My apartment is around 1,200 a month not including my power bill that I can never afford to pay, my family would want me to pay around $500 a month to rent a room from them. So it would be a kinda significant money save every month.

At the moment my partner is the only one working as my baby is only 3 weeks old. Unfortunately with the way things are we are barely scraping by every month,

however there are cons to moving which would be the fact there are so many other people living there, including my sister and brothers who do use recreational drugs (just weed and they drink sometimes) but I don’t personally want that really around my baby, there is ongoing conflict between my siblings and my mom as well and it seems to be an everyday thing with screaming etc, my partner also describes my mom as “wishy washy” and “unreliable” which is true. She primarily relies on her boyfriends income to support her and her kids (notice I said her kids, not they’re kids)

they are also supposed to be moving to another state in less then a year which is another thing to consider so we’d only live with them for a few months (maybe 6?) my partner says he does not care about the money to him it’s just a bad idea. I guess I’m just so tired of being so dead broke. I’ve even considered we may need to just move to a cheaper state( we live in tx)