Time to end it? Dating a DID host with disabilities. M36 F29
Hello fellow people of reddit.
I have come to you seeking advice or any general suggestions on how to tackle this. Me and my current girlfriend have been dating for 8 months and currently live together (Yes I understand that it is a very short time span on when to move in with someone) but have known each other for a year now. I personally made that choice as well as she did solely to decide whether we are a good match living alone with one another. She suffers from DID, bipolar disorder, ADHD, and a few others that she is currently seeking professional help with. She grew up in a foster home and has had a lot of traumatic experiences growing up. Moving from state to state on her own as well as dealing with drug addiction when she was younger.
I come asking if anyone has felt the feeling of constantly walking on egg shells with a person like this? We love each other very much but it seems that whenever I bring up a civil conversation or suggestion on how we can grow our relationship ie: cleaning around our apartment, doing laundry, sweeping up our dogs fur, etc. she lashes out at me. We’ve have conversations before where she acknowledges things that are bothering me or needing to be addressed and has done a lot of good changes. It’s wearing me out and I’m doing the best I can to try to accommodate her disabilities and be the best person for her. Heh we went swimming yesterday and I had water in my ears. Everyone knows the head bob when trying to get water out of their ears and her remark was, “don’t do that, you look stupid doing it”. I brought that up with her too and she insisted she never said that but I mentioned how that hurt me. She has also said that I become annoying when I just try to simply do funny things or make funny noises to lighten the mood or just be myself.
I don’t know, I’m becoming exhausted and I really wanted this to work but this hasn’t been the first conversation we’ve had regarding this. She’s been aware of the stuff she’s said and states she’ll do better but, it seems it’s becoming a constant cycle. Not sure what to do at this point. Any advice, comments, criticism or remarks are welcome.