u/Individual_Rest8476

Hey everyone!

I’m a complete beginner when it comes to martial arts. I did a bit of Taekwondo when I was 6, but nothing since. I’m 20 now and have been lifting heavy weights since I was 14, so even though I’m a petite woman (5'1"), I have a solid strength and fitness base from the gym.

I've always been drawn to martial arts, especially Kung Fu, but I couldn't train because there were no gyms in my hometown. Now that I’m moving to a bigger city, I finally have the chance, but I’m a bit anxious about starting "late." Seeing kids who have been training since childhood makes me wonder: is 20 a realistic age to start and actually get good at it?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, tips for beginners, or anything I should know beforehand. Thanks!

EDIT: thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart for the encouragement, wisdom and support coming from your comments. I feel truly inspired and motivated to begin my journey. If you are reading this right now and have my same doubt about yourself, listen to my past self by reading this post, learn from my fears and do it! This is the perfect time to begin your own journey. ❤️

Hello everyone!

I just finished my first year of med school, here in Spain, where I’m from. It’s been a really nice yet challenging year, but I got really good grades and am very proud of myself! 🙂‍↕️

Instead of just sleeping and scrolling all summer, I want to keep my brain active and prepare a bit for next year. I’m highly interested in orthopedics, but I'm open to exploring any high-yield topics or general med school resources you all recommend.

If anyone has any good recommendations, let me know please! Thank you all and good luck to those who’re still in finals mode 🤗☺️

Hey everyone! I’m just looking for some advice and honestly venting. I (F20) have been best friends with this girl (F19) for around 8 years now. We met in school and were inseparable ever since. I got into med school and she got into college in other city, so we took separate ways but remained in contact: talking daily, phone calls, visiting each other once or twice every month… We still had a strong friendship despite college, responsibilities, med school and adult life.

She had never fallen in love before, but in February of this year she started going out with a guy who she fell head over heels for. She was always talking about him and is obsessed with him, and I don’t find nothing wrong with that! She met a guy, they clicked and she’s happy, so I’m happy. Problem is, she has been glued to that man ever since they met. She came to see me and brought him with her, and the last time I went to see her, he was there with us the whole time.

The real issue happened yesterday. In my hometown there are two very specific and important holidays: one in the beginning April and other one on late May (this weekend), and even though I tried to make her come here to see me and the group of friends, she couldn’t make it on April’s holidays. She said she was really worried about incoming exams and college, so even though I was disappointed, understood her situation (I’m in med school myself. I know a thing or two about academic stress) and asked her if we could lock in academically together during the month of April so that we could see each other on May’s holidays, and she said yes.

Honorable mention: on April’s holidays she spent the days at her boyfriend’s. Just throwing a really interesting fact there…

This past week I’ve been sending her train options, bus options and all sorts of schedules so that she could make it and come see me and our friends this weekend, but yesterday, after telling me that she’d come, she cancelled because “she was really stressed with college”. I would understand, because I am myself incredibly anxious about incoming finals too, but this past weekend and week she has spent everyday with her boyfriend. Now I get it: she just started the relationship, she’s happy and all, but I feel like she didn’t put in the effort to make it on May’s holidays and come see me after she cancelled once and promised me to come.

I feel left behind because I’ve been studying like crazy so that we could be together, and she’s over there prioritizing her boyfriend and time with him over our compromise.

I told her it hurt me and explained it very politely, and she got slightly mad at me. I told her I’m going to miss her this weekend and she hasn’t even replied to my message yet. It’s been over 24hr since I sent it.

I feel like I’m loosing her over this boy and I can’t even recognize her anymore. It’s really sad and I don’t know what to do.

Hey everyone!

I currently live in another city because I’m in Med School over there, but in the weekends I come back to my hometown where I go to the gym every Friday. Weeeell…Turns out there’s a guy there who’s really cute. I’ve only seen him like 3 times, but I really think he’s handsome and would like to get to know him! 😊 But even though I’m 20 years old, attractive and get approached by men a lot, I’m super duper shy when it comes to the boy I like.

We’ve locked eyes a lil bit, but I think he might not be catching my hints…

I just don’t know what to do or how to approach him! I don’t want to be creepy and scare him off or make him feel uncomfy at the gym. What should I do?

Any help is greatly appreciated!! Hehe ☺️☺️