u/Inevitable-Basis-716

Clue’s in the name really.

She never asks how my day was, how I’m doing, she doesn’t really show an interest in my hobbies, of which I have many. I draw (and have a rather large art following), I write, play music…

However, she spends all her time ranting at me about any and everything and it’s becoming really emotionally draining and lonely.

Today it became a little too evident to me.

I’ve just come back from a weekend away, and my dad comes over and asks how it was, helps put my suitcase away and then darts off (as he has to go back to work) I sit in the car with my mum driving me home and nothing. In fact, the first thing she starts doing is ranting about my dad, about family stuff and I stop her and ask: well aren’t you going to ask me how my weekend was?

She sorta stuttered and then seemed completely caught off guard, then immediately got defensive saying I’d messaged her whilst I was away so why would she need to ask.

I basically was like: oh I’m going here today, oh I’m going there today. But it was all me, never once did she initiate.

I essentially said it would just be nice to be asked, since I’ve been away for three days. And she got just really grumpy with me instead and is now not speaking at all.

I feel really bad and honestly, wish I could just hop back on the train to see my friends again…at least they have an interest in me….

She isn’t like this with my younger siblings. She’s always talking about my brother and his music, always brings up when watching guitarists on the tv how he could play just as well as them. She phones up my sister to ask how she’s doing, how her exams are going. Yet she can’t even ask me after a weekend away what I got up to and how it was…it’s so blatant that it hurts.

At least my cat was happy to see me Ig haha.

Clue’s in the name really.

She never asks how my day was, how I’m doing, she doesn’t really show an interest in my hobbies, of which I have many. I draw (and have a rather large art following), I write, play music…

However, she spends all her time ranting at me about any and everything and it’s becoming really emotionally draining and lonely.

Today it became a little too evident to me.

I’ve just come back from a weekend away, and my dad comes over and asks how it was, helps put my suitcase away and then darts off (as he has to go back to work) I sit in the car with my mum driving me home and nothing. In fact, the first thing she starts doing is ranting about my dad, about family stuff and I stop her and ask: well aren’t you going to ask me how my weekend was?

She sorta stuttered and then seemed completely caught off guard, then immediately got defensive saying I’d messaged her whilst I was away so why would she need to ask.

I basically was like: oh I’m going here today, oh I’m going there today. But it was all me, never once did she initiate.

I essentially said it would just be nice to be asked, since I’ve been away for three days. And she got just really grumpy with me instead and is now not speaking at all.

I feel really bad and honestly, wish I could just hop back on the train to see my friends again…at least they have an interest in me….

She isn’t like this with my younger siblings. She’s always talking about my brother and his music, always brings up when watching guitarists on the tv how he could play just as well as them. She phones up my sister to ask how she’s doing, how her exams are going. Yet she can’t even ask me after a weekend away what I got up to and how it was…it’s so blatant that it hurts.

At least my cat was happy to see me Ig haha.

Clue’s in the name really.

She never asks how my day was, how I’m doing, she doesn’t really show an interest in my hobbies, of which I have many. I draw (and have a rather large art following), I write, play music…

However, she spends all her time ranting at me about any and everything and it’s becoming really emotionally draining and lonely.

Today it became a little too evident to me.

I’ve just come back from a weekend away, and my dad comes over and asks how it was, helps put my suitcase away and then darts off (as he has to go back to work) I sit in the car with my mum driving me home and nothing. In fact, the first thing she starts doing is ranting about my dad, about family stuff and I stop her and ask: well aren’t you going to ask me how my weekend was?

She sorta stuttered and then seemed completely caught off guard, then immediately got defensive saying I’d messaged her whilst I was away so why would she need to ask.

I basically was like: oh I’m going here today, oh I’m going there today. But it was all me, never once did she initiate.

I essentially said it would just be nice to be asked, since I’ve been away for three days. And she got just really grumpy with me instead and is now not speaking at all.

I feel really bad and honestly, wish I could just hop back on the train to see my friends again…at least they have an interest in me….

She isn’t like this with my younger siblings. She’s always talking about my brother and his music, always brings up when watching guitarists on the tv how he could play just as well as them. She phones up my sister to ask how she’s doing, how her exams are going. Yet she can’t even ask me after a weekend away what I got up to and how it was…it’s so blatant that it hurts.

At least my cat was happy to see me Ig haha.

Clue’s in the name really.

She never asks how my day was, how I’m doing, she doesn’t really show an interest in my hobbies, of which I have many. I draw (and have a rather large art following), I write, play music…

However, she spends all her time ranting at me about any and everything and it’s becoming really emotionally draining and lonely.

Today it became a little too evident to me.

I’ve just come back from a weekend away, and my dad comes over and asks how it was, helps put my suitcase away and then darts off (as he has to go back to work) I sit in the car with my mum driving me home and nothing. In fact, the first thing she starts doing is ranting about my dad, about family stuff and I stop her and ask: well aren’t you going to ask me how my weekend was?

She sorta stuttered and then seemed completely caught off guard, then immediately got defensive saying I’d messaged her whilst I was away so why would she need to ask.

I basically was like: oh I’m going here today, oh I’m going there today. But it was all me, never once did she initiate.

I essentially said it would just be nice to be asked, since I’ve been away for three days. And she got just really grumpy with me instead and is now not speaking at all.

I feel really bad and honestly, wish I could just hop back on the train to see my friends again…at least they have an interest in me….

She isn’t like this with my younger siblings. She’s always talking about my brother and his music, always brings up when watching guitarists on the tv how he could play just as well as them. She phones up my sister to ask how she’s doing, how her exams are going. Yet she can’t even ask me after a weekend away what I got up to and how it was…it’s so blatant that it hurts.

At least my cat was happy to see me Ig haha.

So I recently got a third cat (she’s just turned 1), her name is Mali. Mali is wonderful - she loves to play, is very vocal, friendly, loves snuggles and gets on very well with my older two. Everyone who meets her falls in love with her, and I also adore her.

BUT. She is ALWAYS getting into trouble.

She has LOADS of toys, and I mean loads. Balls, three cat trees between them, chasers, cardboard scratchers, mice, teasers…pretty much anything you can think of, they have. And whilst she plays with them all I get the feeling she’s just. Bored.

She is into everything. She’s figured out how to open doors (it took her all of a few weeks with me to figure out how to open the doors; even when they’re closed.) She figured out how to get into her food, how to get stuff out of the drawers in the coffee table (basically under and over.) She had a little cardboard toy with ping pong balls in as a kitten, and one day we walked in to find no sign of the ping pong balls, she’d figured out how to get them out. She legit learned her name within a week or so of being with me - it’s just nuts to me.

I have never had this with my other two, whilst my oldest knows how to open a door that’s cranked open a little, he’s very placid and is just happy to sit on laps all day, the same for the other, minus the laps.

Mali however is just. Always switched on and dialled to 100 and I worry that she is just. Frustrated. I don’t let them outside, as I don’t agree with unsupervised cats outdoors, and I don’t think she’d have the patience to be harness trained either (brushing her is just fun and games as she’ll tolerate it for all of five minutes before, yup, getting bored.) But I want to try and ensure her life is as enriching as possible, so I’m wondering if there’s a way to do that for her?

She responds well to treats, I’ve noticed I can train her to behave at brush times if I treat her for letting me brush her. I jokingly said I could train her to sit probably haha. So yes, very food motivated. Also loves to run around a lot.

For clarification Charlie was never like this in all the 10 years I’ve had him, even as a kitten whilst he’d get into usual kitten antics this is another level entirely for me. My other, Tilly, was adopted at 2 and again, usual young cat antics as in wanting to play but otherwise. Not on this level.