u/InevitableTennis4190

In regards to my previous post, I clearly told my gf that I might have to drop the idea of wanting to have a life with her till death cause she wont respect my boundaries. I said I can't live with my partner commenting on random guys pics. Cause I dont do that to other women while in a relationship.

She is generally a loving and affectionate woman to me but after seeing how she is not caring about what is hurting me, my image of our life together is feeling distorted. I am losing respect for her and feeling disgusted with myself cause of this one matter.

She is saying it is not a big deal and asking me to overlook and accept it as her flaw. She wants both me and that she says. I find all of this diabolical. She keeps mentioning how guys are and should be ok with it as lomg as their gf loves them.

Im doubting myself cause of this. Am I being dumb af for even thinking to accept that flaw and let it go?

Edit: I asked her if she is ok with me interacting with random women (liking pics, following, commenting - the ones which women feel disrespected about). She said she would kill me if she sees me doing that. Because men brain are different she says and that I should simply trust her cause she's providing me with love.

Idk wtf kinda answer that is

Reconnected with an old ex gf (29F) of mine (32M). We had broken up back then as she went abroad to study and I couldnt handle long distance. But now she planned to settle down and reached out to see if I had the same thoughts. I did love and miss her and felt ready to marry so I thought who better than her.

So we met and started dating since 3 weeks now.

But a week into this relationship I stalked her on all her social media accounts and found her commenting on random guys pictures. I am never ok with that cause I never give attention to women's posts whenever I enter a relationship. That is one way I show respect to my partner. Cause I know it would make them feel some type a way if I was commenting.

I approached her about this and it got a little nasty. In between she didnt talk properly. Didnt even check in on me. But during this time she continued to interact with random men on their pics. Pics that are mostly taken at the gym, not necessarily shirtless but still. Comments were about appreciating their physique or hairstyle.

I told her im uncomfortable but she said im just insecure. I literally am a good looking man with a gym bod and yet I feel terrible that other men built like me are getting attention from my gf. She's making me feel like it's my fault for having a problem with it. I dont even feel like being with her anymore cause I feel disrespected... Is this normally accepted in relationships? Am I overthinking it? Are you guys ok with ur gf doing that?