u/Infinite-Ad1666

I am a dad who has decided that I am going to be ending my relationship with my fiancé this year after 6 years do to ongoing mental abuse that’s pushed me past my limits. We have a 2 year old and a 9 month old together who I love more than anything in this world, the best part of my day is coming home and seeing the two of them waiting for me.

Ideally I’d love to be able to have these kids 50/50 and see them as much as I possibly can but with my current job I don’t think I can make that happen ( taking a week off) I would be willing to get another job for their sake but I feel like my only options are some sort of camp job that’s one week on one week off something like that. Is there any other options? What schedules could you recommend?

Also any dads in a similar situation, how did you best handle the first few weeks without the kids there every day? I feel like I would unfortunately fall into a dark place and that scares me.

I am a dad who has decided that I am going to be ending my relationship with my fiancé this year do to ongoing years of mental abuse that’s pushed me past my limits. We have a 2 year old and a 9 month old together who I love more than anything in this world, the best part of my day is coming home and seeing the two of them waiting for me.

Ideally I’d love to be able to have these kids 50/50 and see them as much as I possibly can but with my current job I don’t think I can make that happen ( taking a week off) I would be willing to get another job for their sake but I feel like my only options are some sort of camp job that’s one week on one week off something like that. Is there any other options? What schedules could you recommend?

Also any dads in a similar situation, how did you best handle the first few weeks without the kids there every day? I feel like I would unfortunately fall into a dark place and that scares me.

Myself (24M) and my fiancé (26F) have been together for almost 6 years this summer and 2 years of being engaged, but I don’t want to get married anymore and to be quite frank I don’t even feel I want to be in this relationship anymore. The reasons being is I have felt like her punching bag anytime she gets upset even over the smallest of inconveniences. I want to be the one who’s shoulder she leans on when she feels upset, but I don’t want to be the person that just gets lashed out on and treated like shit just because she’s in a bad mood. We have discussed how we both feel when times get like this and she has told me numerous times she feels bad for how she is treating me but she can’t help feel any other way when she’s upset. I have pushed for her to seek professional help for many years now and she always says she wants to but I don’t really feel like it will ever happen and I don’t want to be the punching bag for the rest of my life I want to be happy. I’ve been waiting for 6 years for things to change and they haven’t yet. I proposed hoping that it might change things but I knew deep down it wouldn’t but I did it anyway and I regret it

We also have two wonderful children together a two year old and a nine month old who I love more than anything. I feel like if I was to say I don’t want to get married I am basically ending our relationship I know that’s how she would take it. I don’t see us working out as parents that live together but aren’t actually in a relationship I just see that causing more problems. Seeing these kids when I come home from work has become the greatest part of my daily routine and it would break my heart to not be able to see them everyday. They are what have been keeping me in this relationship if they weren’t here I think I would have left her by now. I don’t know what to do. TL:DR