u/Infinite_Use_9548

I’m going to list all the things she’s done + characteristics. I’m genuinely curious whether or not this is NPD (or BPD, HPD, Depersonalisation disorder). She has mentioned the autistm spectrum but never directly said she has it. For the longest time I thought it was just avoidance or autism, NPD would come up in my mind occasionally but I’d tell myself there was no way it could be that. It’s such a weird situation because I had never even met this person IRL and yet they managed to do so much damage just online. We’re both women*

• famous/public figure

• hacked my spotify and social medias

• hacked my friend’s account to read my DMs

• accused me of doing things I didn’t

• tried to destroy me in a creative way

• told me I am evil, that I will get nothing from her, that I only like her for clout

• tried to use me to cheat on someone else

• added my favourite songs to her playlist while ignoring me

• weaponised instagram

• got angry and posted nude photos of other people on her photography account because I didn’t reply to her message for 4 days after she ghosted me for 1 month

• copied my ideas and profited off of it

• ghosted me multiple times and even didn’t reply when I told them their behaviour is scaring me/making me suicidal.

• posts photos of naked people and herself in s*xual situations when she doesn’t get her way

• posts instagram notes app poetry instead of replying directly

• writes letters to herself from a different character “To [their name], from [insert made up character name]” that seems to be based or inspired by me

• glorifies cheating and two timing in her writing saying things like “I’m bad”

• tries to compete with me even though she is more successful

• reacts every time I do something online to the point I’ve deactivated everything because if she perceives me as being happy there will be all hell to pay

• all her closest colleagues have eventually quit collaborating with her

• tries to manipulate me into polyamory

• her now bipolar ex-girlfriend used to post s*xual photos of them together on instagram and disturbing photos of hickeys (these women are late 20s btw)

• when she was angry at me she would post photos of her now ex-girlfriend’s buttcrack or nudes of herself. she also did this if i was too nice to her.

• completely takes advantage of the power imbalance between us

• her new girlfriend/situationship is a teenage girl - she met her at 17 while she was 27, took nude and s*xual photos of her at 18, and published them in a photobook under a fake name. Photos of her naked on the toilet, bloody hands, topless in bed etc. this girl is 19 and she is 29.

• when i told her she is ruining my ability to feel safe online and i hated my life because it was so frustrating having to deal with all this she posts on her instagram story that she “loves her fun life”.

• the moment i started talking about rings and marriage, while she was two timing with the teenage girl, she exchanged rings with her. Initially I thought she got a new ring that meant something, but I was betrayed once again.

• she admits she has low empathy

• jokes that she is a pervert

• says things like “if you’re crying, I will need to see that because I’m a pervert”

• in her writing she said that she yawns in boredom when someone is crying

• she says she doesn’t recognise herself in the mirror.

• says she is scared of love yet it’s the topic she raves on about the most

• says that she can’t recall huge chunks of the day, “I am back where I started as if the day never happened.”

• lives on her own timeline and pretends that it’s a different year - instead of 2026, to her it could be 2023 or 2024.

• has to eat sour patch kids often, I assume to stop her from dissociating

• steals the style, personality and interests of whoever she is in a relationship with

• sometimes doesn’t know where she is

• writes and draws things about a hat-man or other weird scary demonic characters

for context: I have done nothing wrong to this person. They kept lovebombing and I told them I loved them (I meant it) and then the hacking, aggression and accusations came after that. I haven’t contacted them this entire year and never want to again but I can’t stop ruminating. This is very psychologically disturbing and I’m still trying to make sense of what happened and what on earth is going on with this person’s mental state

I’m going to list all the things she’s done + characteristics. I’m genuinely curious whether or not this is NPD (or BPD). She has mentioned the autistm spectrum but never directly said she has it. For the longest time I thought it was just avoidance or autism, NPD would come up in my mind occasionally but I’d tell myself there was no way it could be that. It’s such a weird situation because I had never even met this person IRL and yet they managed to do so much damage just online. We’re both women*