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I (19F) and my best friend (19F) have been friends for a couple years. She started dating this guy Jace (21M) about 2 months ago. I really liked him at first, he made her happy, he was sweet to her, but after the first week things started going really downhill.

I have been with my boyfriend (20M) for a little over a year. I often go on sites like omegal to scam guys out of 20$ to get door dash or something, which he knows about. I was on the phone with ava, my friend, about a week into their relationship. I was on the video chat site, and she was with him. We were having a normal conversation while I try to scam this guy, and Jace makes her hang up on me.

After that, he started trying to keep her away from me. He started not allowing her to hang out with me as often and being really controlling. I have confronted him about this many times, and he says I am a bad influence on her.

One morning, jace, Ava, me, and my boyfriend were all eating breakfast and Jace said to ava that they need to talk. ava said no, I said yes ava you guys should not avoid conflict! I did not realize what they were arguing about because I thought we were kind of okay now and things had calmed down.

Anyways he started yelling about how ava needs to not be friends with any of her friends because they are all cheaters and drug addicts. Me and most of my friends do smoke marijuana, but not extremely often and nobody is forcing anything on anybody. Jace ALSO smokes marijuana on occasion. The cheater part comes from that day we were on the phone and after that he thinks I treat my boyfriend horribly and I cheat on him all the time?

I asked him to stop saying I cheat on logann, because it is OBVIOUS we are fine and I do not cheat on him lol. I asked him why he even thinks that and he told me about that day otp and my boyfriend was sitting next to me and was kind of laughing at Jace because we obviously know everything.

He also brought up a comment another friend made to ava asking if they could have sex bc she wants to know what it feels like, and he said he had to take her phone and say she had a boyfriend. To me it seemed like that friend was joking, but who's to say yk.

now he's completely making her cut us off. He threatens to break up with her, gives her ultimatums like telling her its him or us, and when she asks if she can make more friends because he's making her cut off all her friends that she has he says no because she will probably smoke weed with them. when she argues against this he says she's disrespecting him and needs to do what he tells her.

Please tell me I'm not crazy and he is being abusive and controlling. I am trying to show her how this is not normal and she needs to be with someone who really cares about her and loves her!! I want the best for her :(

I (19F) and my best friend (19F) have been friends for a couple years. She started dating this guy Jace about 2 months ago. I really liked him at first, he made her happy, he was sweet to her, but after the first week things started going really downhill.

I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I often go on sites like omegal to scam guys out of 20$ to get door dash or something, which he knows about. I was on the phone with ava, my friend, about a week into their relationship. I was on the video chat site, and she was with him. We were having a normal conversation while I try to scam this guy, and Jace makes her hang up on me.

After that, he started trying to keep her away from me. He started not allowing her to hang out with me as often and being really controlling. I have confronted him about this many times, and he says I am a bad influence on her.

One morning, jace, Ava, me, and my boyfriend were all eating breakfast and Jace said to ava that they need to talk. ava said no, I said yes ava you guys should not avoid conflict! I did not realize what they were arguing about because I thought we were kind of okay now and things had calmed down.

Anyways he started yelling about how ava needs to not be friends with any of her friends because they are all cheaters and drug addicts. Me and most of my friends do smoke marijuana, but not extremely often and nobody is forcing anything on anybody. Jace ALSO smokes marijuana on occasion. The cheater part comes from that day we were on the phone and after that he thinks I treat my boyfriend horribly and I cheat on him all the time?

I asked him to stop saying I cheat on logann, because it is OBVIOUS we are fine and I do not cheat on him lol. I asked him why he even thinks that and he told me about that day otp and my boyfriend was sitting next to me and was kind of laughing at Jace because we obviously know everything.

He also brought up a comment another friend made to ava asking if they could have sex bc she wants to know what it feels like, and he said he had to take her phone and say she had a boyfriend. To me it seemed like that friend was joking, but who's to say yk.

now he's completely making her cut us off. He threatens to break up with her, gives her ultimatums like telling her its him or us, and when she asks if she can make more friends because he's making her cut off all her friends that she has he says no because she will probably smoke weed with them. when she argues against this he says she's disrespecting him and needs to do what he tells her.

Please tell me I'm not crazy and he is being abusive and controlling. I am trying to show her how this is not normal and she needs to be with someone who really cares about her and loves her!! I want the best for her :(

Hi guys! So I have never really posted anything on Reddit, but I'm in the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD and I just wanted some insight about how I am feeling? My diagnosing psychiatrist also has ADHD and she says I relate to her a lot in the symptoms I experience.

I have always been more sensitive than people, having a really hard time taking rejection even at little levels like when I was in elementary school I was always like a "gifted" child and so when a teacher would tell me I did something wrong it would feel like a personal attack and I would think about it for days and days and think about what I did wrong and how I let her down. My Vanderbilt's cam back negative for ADHD but my psychiatrist says she still thinks I have ADHD and mask a lot. I definitely agree with this. I feel like after I get home I go into almost like autopilot?

During the day when I'm out I can force myself to do things and yk appear like I'm doing well but when I am home I just feel so done. I feel like all that 'masking' switches off and I am forgetting things again I cant start anything and I let all my emotions flow freely which usually ends up with arguments which I have to say I enjoy arguing (dopamine hits?)

I was scared to talk to someone about getting diagnosed with ADHD because I didn't want it to come back negative and then I was just a poser and how I'm feeling was completely invalid and I am so stupid and annoying for thinking this and when my vanderbilts came back negative I def felt that but my psychiatrist reassured me that she thinks I should be diagnosed w ADHD

I'm sorry for ranting but I just want to see how my experience and how I think relates to other people and get some insight!! thanks guys :))