u/InitiativeHot6358

This is a bit of a personal rant because there's genuinely no one I can talk about this irl.

One of my friends has been out as bisexual for years. She's had over 5 relationships in the past 3 years, all with men, as well as countless "situationships" and hookups. Whenever she was in a relationship with a man, she would put up with any racist, sexist, and homophobic comments he would constantly throw around, despite me and other friends explicitly telling her that she needed to leave the relationship for her own good. She eventually would, then stayed heartbroken for a month before jumping into another relationship.

(Mind you, her standards were so low to the point where one of her exes used to generate deepfake images of other women naked in front of her and she still stayed... )

My point is, she obviously has (and still does) experience sexual and romantic attraction to men. However, she recently had dated a woman and ever since then, "I'M A LESBIAN!" has been posted all over her social media. And the worst part is, she once even claimed that she's been out as lesbian for YEARS. Soooo, you just decided to date all those men for fun while identifying as lesbian?

As an actual lesbian, I feel mocked and invalidated.

I'm not saying that her realising that she has a preference for women is invalid, but what I am saying is that the idea of bisexual women choosing to identify as lesbian after realising that women are generally less horrid than the men they've dated before just reinforces the stereotype that lesbianism is a choice.

I think that so many women forget that even if you have a preference for women 90% of the time and men 10% of the time, you are still BISEXUAL!