u/InsaneCapitalist

EDIT: Please only reply if you want to be unbiased and with an open and inquisitive mind, this post is for my curiosity and knowledge only. I'M NOT TRYING TO DISPROVE ANYTHING.

So I've been recently exploring Bhairava sadhana, went to Kashi, have grown up in a Vaishnavite home, etc and have always been religious.

Recently though, I've been learning about the Vedas and other early Hindu/Vedic texts and looking at them from a historical viewpoint.

Below is what I've found that most Indology historians have traced and agreed to:

In Hinduism, cultures merge and move forward rather than breaking each other.

It is very evident that Shiva in his form today was not mentioned in the Vedas at all. We have Rudra and Vishnu but the concepts of Shiva the ascetic and Shakti came much later in the last couple centuries BC and then the 1st century AD onwards in the Puranas.

It is clear that the Rishis from 500 to 1500+ BC were passing down the Vedas as a lifestyle surrounding that period and primarily worshipped the Devatas (Indra, Varuna, Agni, etc).

Even the concept of Krishna is not in the Vedas and comes from a local deity, Vasudeva Krshna of the Yadu tribe (earliest depiction found on a Greek coin). Krishna, Sankarshana (Balarama) and 3 of Krishna's sons were most likely based on real heroic chieftains who were deified by the tribe as historians agree. These 5 personalities merged into one deity - Narayana and then that merged with "Vishnu" from the Vedas.

(The cult of Vāsudeva and Saṃkarṣaṇa was one of the major independent cults, together with the cults of Narayana, Shri and Lakshmi, which later coalesced to form Vishnuism.)

The butter stealing, Mathura, Vrindavan, Gopis, etc is only first found in the Harivamsa Purana which came in the 1st to 4th century CE and was later interpolated with the Krishna in the Mahabharata. Also, Krishna merged with a local deity in Odisha called Kitung/Neelamadhava and we got Jagannatha from there.

Similarly, the Vrityas were a tribe of non-Vedic people who lived in seclusion, wore rough clothes, had matted hair (Jatajoot), were ascetics and meditated. It is from their practices as well as the culmination of multiple tribal deities who were suffixed with "Isha" - Bhutesvara, Hatakesvara, Chandesvara that we got Shiva.

So

Pashupati (Indus Valley Civlisation) + Rudra (Storm God of the Vedas) + Vritya culture + many local deities = Shiva

My question: We all agree that the Vedas are the oldest form of knowledge passed down, yet there's no tantra, Shiva, Shakti, Kali, Bhairava, etc in the Vedas at all. How would you still practice and believe in this form of the ultimate, how can you believe in the tantric rituals which came much later?

EDIT 2: As much as I wanted to, I've decided not to tell or contact anyone and just not get involved. I feel like there's too many variables here and it's just not worth it to get into something I have no knowledge about. I still would have if the guy were my friend or someone I know but he's not. Hope he finds out soon though.

Note to mods: I'm not asking to expose a cheater to anyone else, just her husband.

A few days ago, a girl I met on Tinder years ago followed me and messaged me (we never met up in the past, only spoke very very briefly on socials, like maybe for 2 days). Turns out she married a few months back.

She asked me some icebreakers and I thought she was being friendly until she said I was attractive and asked me why I'm single. At that point, I actually thought it was a scam or that she'd been hacked, but I was really curious to see what the scam was.

She asked me to add her on Snap and immediately sent me some nudes with her face, and I was shocked. She asked me for some back, and I ignored her, and she blocked me after a while.

So now I'm confused if I should let her husband know, as I have screenshots from the initial conversation. I don't know the husband, so I'm not sure if I should meddle in their affairs. (Literally)

Advice?

Edit 1: I highly doubt it's an open marriage, because to be honest, they're an interracial couple and I'm the same ethnicity and nationality as the husband and I know open relationships are not at all common in our culture.